looks like my story is done

[Asda]

I will try be as short as i can.My story is very long. I met a girl on social network.And just one her picture broke me in pieces, i could not eat,sleep etc.LOVE. So i did all i could to be noticed, confessed in e-mails,sent flowers. After around 2 months she asked me for help for some money(300$), she got in trouble i helped.Then after another month of confessions she told methat I won her heart and in the same e-mail asked me for some more money(300$).She was from Colombia,Medellin i was that time in Europe( age she 22, me 30 in 2008). So we started long distance relationships.

 

I visited her 3 times during our 3 year relationships (once a year). During first year i started to pay her studies in College (culinary) 10000$ a year, also started to assist her (it went deeper and deeper) with money. First year was OK, 9th cloud, same as first trip-met her family etc. Second year was not bad with few detales,i got an e-mail at the end of the year(from her e-mail that was taken over by somebody), that e-mail abused me and said that i am stubid buttocks she has long time boyfriendand she just needs my money.After this e-mail i just lost the ground and was suspicious about everything, with long distance combination it started to drain my mental strengh. During third year,there were some tension few times and during same year i started to experience financial truble, went down hill.

 

Moved to USA and same situation - short with money,stressed and with avalanche of responsibilities.I visited her for the last time from USA, that visit she never even came to airport at time of arrival to meet me, i was waiting for her 1hour there ( it made me feel like nothing for her),when she arrived not even apologized . I explained to her my situation as soon as i started to experience financial troubles (during second year) but she was like the same,- need to pay,need some money, all the time the same. So everything end up me in stress,keeping those long distance relationships from USA( i was in big troublesfinancially during 2011 and i was so upset that could not even contact her on her birthday 06/06/2011(just sent her e-mail) because i never had even money to buy a phone,i sent everything i was earning to her since already second year, around 2000 dollars a month for expenses plus educations etc) but during 2011 after last visit I delay my money to her a bit due to personal issues.

 

I got incognito e-mail again,saying isnt it my girlfriend on adult website? i went on the link and true, it was her page on some adult site where they attract and some people to pay money for adult chat, this brought me down totally. I was broken and was keep on struggling, i got an e-mail from her in july asking for more money, i could not answer that just said, need to wait a bit i do my best also that i am so bad in everything do not even want to talk with anyone. This escalated with another few e-mails exchange (she was kind pressing me, i noticed she is about to dump me(that the way it looked for me, she was pressing me)), i never said a single bad word or anything, than she said enough, no more contact, do what you like, think what you like. I realized this is it and after few weeks(could not understand where i am, what to do,where to go) sent her e-mail with apologies and wished her all the best and asked her not to contact me then.

 

I could not believe what happened, she dumped me, but i kind of added more spice in it although idid not want to cry like a bit..h and beg her for not dumping me, i am already humiliated by situation i had. So i desided just let it be as it is, women knows better what her heart needs, i did what i could till the last dollar,never cheated did my best all the time. And at the end it looked like nothing counts, i was broke anyway could not give her a single dollar. 18 month passed since then, she never contacted me, neither did I ( except just once short e-mail, to wind her up, asked if she dumped me and all was about money is she able to return me something at all?). Just few days ago i sent her e-mail, asked for apologies.

 

I do not ask her for reunion, everything i need is just last chapter,to kind talk it over and make it more civil way, yes something in the back of my head what if exist, i do love her up to know, i dont know how long it willtake for me to recover, i hope soon, I do very struggle with my emotions it is getting better but still it does not letting me GO, it squeezes my heartbadly very often.I will not insist or beg, I respect her decision, probably i was not correct, but somehow it was unexpectedly fast and deep impact right into the core of my soul and i can not get over it.I do not want to date no one, i just work and do some gym, meet sometimes with friends, and it is eating me from the inside, sometimes i wish better to be dead, but i keep on waiting, hope soon it will go away.

Few detales: - she never made me a single present during this 3 years long distance relationships. - many times when i called she never picked up the phone( remember once, she probably pressed the wrong button and i heard she was speaking with some male and was calling him yes my love(could not hear much but these words i have heard clear)),that day her phone went off later. - Always everything was attached to money, no matter what need more money.

 

- Actually i never had a chance to be with her, just this silly skype that was pissing me off very much because we had time difference and i failed my education, also performance at work was not so good, all that broke my rythm totally. - i had serious family tensions back in NYC and they kicked me out of house because i have this Colombian girl(true story). - i just been through court battle with my company back in europe and won racial discrimination case. - i felt squeezed from every side and i could not anymore to go on, i was devastated by circumstances around me, i was not well mentally wanted some peace and calmness. Because this site is very informative,

 

i do not have nobody to help me, i decided to share my BrokenLOVE story here, with this main concern: why she never contacted me and really looks like i was tricked nothing else, as soon as i was bankrupt everything was over, my decision is she was the one who pushed my to the cliff, i could not hold on anymore.I did my best till the last moment.

Edited August 6, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[H3Drvr]

First, I will apologize for the way I'm going to say this to you...but I'm NOT apologizing for WHAT I'm going to say.

 

You are an IDIOT!

 

Why in the world would you even fall for the biggest scam in the world?!?! Now...forget about her because she sucked you dry for every penny you have or in this case, had. Get yourself financial stable!

 

I know that some women are attracted to money. But women who truly love you and want to be with you don't care how much money you make or what material possessions you can afford them. In some cases, some women even support their men and they are blind in love with them. I say make your money, spend some on them but one thing you should know....

 

MONEY CAN'T BUY YOU LOVE! Believe me I was an idiot myself once upon a time.

[Asda]

Many people read my post, I would be very thankful if every person would leave few words regarding my story, it really helps me to refresh my mind.

Very big thanks to H3Drvr, such a nice response.

[Njeanne]

Most people don't respond because a) it's difficult to read and b) because you put yourselves in this situation. Why give money (continue on even) to someone you hardly know. She was never picking up her phone, responding so ye...she used you and you were to weak to notice. I don't have more to explain, the first replier is right.

 

All I can say is, you won't get that money back, so get a grip, let her in past and move on.

 

She is a men user, a b*tch, leave her.

[Asda]

Sorry about my plain text thread, was experiencing difficulties to post it, which way got it though this way it is.

Looks like I was really dumb, I don't know, I thought it is normal to help her, yes I was lost in it, my responsibility. But she is from poor family , as far as I know she was giving money away to her sister, father, other relatives, yes she was kind using money carelessly, this was not OK for me.

It was impossible to argue with her, she was telling me do not talk to me like that all the time, even if I will open my mouth about anything( any issue) - and this was bringing me down incredibly, the way she was careless.

I know, all the things I noticed right away, I thought it is her character may be, or that is normal for their Medellin.

Still the way she dropped me is incredible, sooner or later I will be OK. But I should check her for **** much earlier, as soon as she asked me first 300 dollars. Good experience anyway, very harsh but can not get better than this. Some loosing during their divorce millions, this is corrupted world, LOVE does not exist.

Actually I am very romantic man, and sensitive, I believed in LOVE, if it comes in your life it is forever, and need to hold on to it as strong as you can with both hands for the rest of my life, but probably fell In love in the wrong lady. So, no more love for me, enough for the rest of my life - this experience that I was lucky to have.

Edited February 14, 2013 by Asda

[Asda]

Her name was Cindi Milena Misas Sepulveda, and her sister is Diana Lorena Misas Sepulveda. Colombian from Medellin.

[xanitus]

you made a huge mistake and fell for a massive scam. She ruined you financially. BUT. It is not over. You are still relatively young and have most of your life to live. Get a good job and work on your personality and character. You WILL attract the right girl who will love you for WHO you are not your money.

 

Learn from these mistakes you made. I don't even know why you would fund all her education and give all your money to her.. it boggles my mind. Oh well. Time to start a new chapter in your life. Focus on perfecting yourself

Hope that helps.

[Asda]

I will never forget this what happened with me with that bitch, I was so naïve, and such an idiot, agree totally with everyone who will tell me that I was a simple brainless douche bag. I use this story what happened to reorganize my life completely.

[HopelessRomantick]

If you wanna PM me feel free. Our stories are similar although I honestly believe I was not the victim of scam but rather a young woman of whom I was her first love. Anyway, I can receive PMs if you wanna send.

 

Good luck getting back on your feet.

[Waynester]

You sir are..hopefully 'were' a foolish man. I apologise as I do not want to be disrespectful but you yourself can see this. And as others have said..you WERE scammed!

 

You meant nothing to her, as harsh as that sounds, it is absolutely true. She preyed on your weakness & vulnerability as you simply put were...in love, and love..infatuation can turn normal, intelligent men into wobbly, naieve messes! You were simply a cash cow for her. Once the money ran out.. she was gone. And probably onto some other poor sap.

I suspect she wasn't alobe in this..that there was some other driving forces behind the scenes!

 

Now your only actions & thoughts should be how to get out of this mess. You start by doing the most important thing, & that is break off contact..immediately! She is gone unfortunately my friend. That is history, now you need to focus on you..get your self respect back.

Don't feel too down about what happened, you were not the 1st..& sadly probably not the last.

 

You having a tough time now, but it really will improve IF you can now focus on youself.

Don't let past actions & mistakes effect your today & tomorrow.. you have to much to live for.

And I promise you.. one day you will look back on it & see it for what is was..you financed her, no more than that.

 

I wish you luck, but going NC & fixing yourself will give you a more positive outlook. Plus, of course there will be someone out there who will love you for who you are.. not what your bank balance is!!

[emi]

Well, real woman when they inlove they mostly dont care about taking your money, i guarantee u that

 

I was in one LDR, and whenever he bough me something, i always bought him another thing, because i cared for him and i dont want to be a gold-digger or his financial burden, And i would never ask him to buy me anything. My story ended, but its about me trying to say she didnt love you, she just after your wallet

 

NOT ALL GIRLS ARE LIKE HER. so dont lose hope

[Asda]

you made a huge mistake and fell for a massive scam. She ruined you financially. BUT. It is not over. You are still relatively young and have most of your life to live. Get a good job and work on your personality and character. You WILL attract the right girl who will love you for WHO you are not your money.

 

Learn from these mistakes you made. I don't even know why you would fund all her education and give all your money to her.. it boggles my mind. Oh well. Time to start a new chapter in your life. Focus on perfecting yourself

Hope that helps.

 

Looking back I am in shock myself. But I deserve this, I am responsible for my failures, actually this was a tough experience but very informative. I experienced and suffered so much, that now I know which way the world spinning. It is the best experience of my life, honestly. A turning point to get up, to change, to forget all the past, to raise my voice and claim my EGO back in this world. There is so much ahead of me, so many things to do, and of course there is a wonderful lady waiting for me to LOVE me!!!

Thank you everyone for replies, it helped a bit, I am 99% recovered already, I am moving ON as far as I can.

Thank you all!