I need help dealing with my husband's lack of interest in life

[sabigdeal]

I am so tired of watching my husband hang in between life and nothingness. He spends the majority of the night walking back and forth to the bathroom because of his prostate. Each time that he gets up though he drinks a quart or so of crystal light, soda or water.

He finally wakes up at 2 or 3 pm calling for me to rub his crusty toes for thirty minutes. Eats and either talks about his disgust for all of the christians in our town (we're in the bible belt), watches ww2 documentaries, sponge bob or true murder programs on the ID channel. If I get on the phone to call a friend or family member for companionship or go for a drive he peppers me with so many questions that I nervously stop what I am doing.

He's been to the doctor and the psychiatrist for six years mostly every month and they cannot find anything wrong with him.

I have helped raise my siblings in one of the worst neighborhoods in this country and gone through a lot of other negative things (who hasn't) but this is the craziest thing ever. I'm not depressed but sick of the situation. Sick of hearing him blame all of the exwives for his failures. Hearing about the "fake" christians (as he calls them), his near stroke provoking, hate filled "Osama Obama" speeches the physical complaints and need for me to sit in the living room and abandon all of my hobbies so that he can wake up with me near.

Has anyone else had a man like this? I wish that I could commit him for about a month because he promises to commit suicide if I leave. He needs to get his priorities straight. Needs the right meds and therapy but he wouldn't do that and I dont' blame him for not wanting to go though...I guess that he would have done that on his own already.

[Forever Learning]

Life is short. This sounds like a toxic situation. I lived in a toxic situation with my husband (now ex-husband) for 16 years.

 

He couldn't change.

 

But I could.

 

We got divorced and life is awesome now!!! No lie. Life is AWESOME.

 

Read all you can about self help, spirituality, abusive relationships, maybe go to a counselor and talk about your options and your feelings.

 

All the best to you dear. Life is good, make it so. You can do this.