samrjrb Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 (edited) Please give some insight...This girl and I worked together. She speaks broken English but we could somewhat understand each other with some patience. We flirted some at work and I had some feelings for her and she for me. I was transferred to another location. Anyway, she called me about a month later and we went out. I am the kind that falls very quickly and we were together almost every chance we got. My job requires me to get some rest and this was a problem. So I tried to accomodate her feelings by losing rest to see her. She also has 3 children out of the country. She mentioned to me several times that she wanted a baby. I know I am crazy to have been involved in this relationship. I have my faults too. I fell into the making promises of marrying her and bringing her kids over. I guess I was playing the role of her rescuer. In my mind at the time, I thought this was what I really wanted. The difference in language really caused problems and I woke up and realized that this was not going to work. Now I blame myself for not trying harder. She called me a liar and sh**. I can't disagree with her for feeling the way she did. I always second-guess my decisions. I have had no contact with her for over 2 weeks now and she is not contacting me, which is good. I beat myself up for hurting her. It was the last thing I wanted to happen. Please help me find some sense in all of this. I am tired of falling fast and making promises and then hurting them. She is a good person and I think she really loved me. I loved her too but do not see a future with her. Edited February 10, 2013 by samrjrb
Author samrjrb Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 We worked together for a year. We dated for 2 months. I found out from another co=worker that she bought me an expensive ring after 2 weeks of dating and this scared me. Especially when we had a big disagreement a couple of nights before. I broke it off right after that, but we had a long talk the next night and I decided to try to work it out. She asked what was the problem with the ring. She said it was her money and she wanted me to have it. I tried to explain to her about spending large amounts of money so soon. But I could not give an answer to it being her money and she could spend it however she wanted to. I fell in too quickly. I have a problem with that. But I am aware of it and really trying not to do that any more.
Author samrjrb Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 Week 3....NC. It is getting a little better. I am still thinking about how she is doing though. Maybe she is taking this better than I expected. I hope she is.
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