aj12345 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 My ex broke up with me 5 months ago. It was amicable, she said i didnt make her happy. Basically she lost her mother and i was too busy working and not there for her, she felt let down. (i still believe the day she broke up with me, she was angry at something else) I didnt stop her or convince her, as i thought she was not ina good frame of mind and didnt want to argue. I met up with her a few weeks later and i asked her for chance, she was hesitant, we held hands and talked for a bit. I didnt push her too hard and i let her go. (i regret not talking more about the issues) I then did what i should not have, later i tried calling her.. texting, emailing... and she finally blew up and had a right go at me..swearing..etc saying she could never see her self with me and even talk to me again.... ever... I stopped calling and everythinig. This was 3 months ago, i reflected on a lot, and realise.. i made huge mistakes.. I would love to contact her again and give it another try... but i just dont know how too... what do i say.. if i apologise and ask for contact.. she will be reluctant... Sometimes i wish i could back and actually talked to her.. i believe those were my moments... where i could have resolved the issues... and apologised..... and this was my longest relationship.... i miss her so much at times... other days im fine.. I have read loads on the net about, letting ti go.. moving on.. which i have somewhat... but then its always int he back of mind.. unresolved issues/questions.. how i treated her.... I was going to send her an email, to apologise... and ask if she would be open to an email once in a while .. just to reopen communication... what do you guys think?
TaraMaiden Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Nope., Best to evaluate your actions, not repeat them, and stay No Contact. If you call her now, all she will do anyway, is relegate you to the friend-zone. Trust us on this one. No Contact Guide, my signature. Read, mark, inwardly digest and stick to, like a barnacle on a hump-back whale.....
Author aj12345 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Thank you for your input. Are you suggesting i stay in NC, for longer... until im completely healed? and then evaluate what i want to do? I read your guide, it says if your ex is sorry and willing to do anything you should then consider if you want to hear them out. I am that ex!.. Im kinda confused, my gut is telling me she will wont even respond.. with valentines coming up, she will probably think im just doing it because of that. But thats not the reason, i assure you.
TaraMaiden Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Thank you for your input. Are you suggesting i stay in NC, for longer... until im completely healed? and then evaluate what i want to do? Yes. Achieve benign Indifference. Then consider your options. Chances are, you will have moved on so successfully, you'll realise she's just not worth it. I read your guide, it says if your ex is sorry and willing to do anything you should then consider if you want to hear them out. I am that ex!.. No... You didn't read it very well.... SHE is 'that ex.'. Read it again, and pay careful attention this time. Don't skim. Im kinda confused, my gut is telling me she will wont even respond.. with valentines coming up, she will probably think im just doing it because of that. But thats not the reason, i assure you. The reason doesn't matter. What she thinks - doesn't matter. Why you do it - matters. you go No Contact to heal your broken heart and make you feel good again. Read the guide, Read the Guide, then for good measure, read the Guide. Copy, paste, print. carry one around with you everywhere you go, hang another in the bathroom, for a really good read while you "sit and think" and make sure you have one glued to the ceiling above your bed. (Print large text.) read it until you completely 'get it'. Then - keep reading.
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