HappyAtLast Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 You don't really begin to achieve perfection until your late seventies. Now that I am approaching mid-eighties I am getting very close.
nofool4u Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 V-day. Use to love it. Now I hate it. Well, maybe not hating it, just don't give a crap about it. My feeling, its wonderful for those that are TRULY in love, barring those that claim they are in love due to an affair. I am glad I don't have to spend my money on anyone. Maybe I might change my mind if someone comes along that seems worthy, but right now I don't see that happening and don't have a high level of trust of anyone. And thats ok with me. I like things the way they are. Being single, saving money,
Author Betrayed&Stayed Posted February 19, 2013 Author Posted February 19, 2013 Our V-day did not pan out as we originally planned. I was battling the crud, and the wife went out of town the days leading up to V-day. As a result the planning was hindered. We celebrated V-day on a limited basis as a family on Thursday. On Friday it was more between the two of us. I did remember the pain that V-day triggers but this time it felt more like a memory. I was able to enjoy V-day for what it was. We didn't go overboard and the expectations were kept in check. It meant a lot to my wife that we celebrated it this year. Reflecting back I'm glad that we did it. It's another milestone confirming that I have continued to progress in my healing and sense of peace. 1
cocorico Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Are you celebrating V-day? Why or why not? Did the affair change how you view V-day? Before, I always saw it as a schmaltzy Hallmark holiday that was simply another commercial ruse. But during the A, he used it as yet another excuse to demonstrate his love, devotion, passion and desire, and I came to accept and appreciate the romance. Over the years we have made it special in our own ways, and we use it as a marker to remind ourselves how much we love each other every day, and how lucky we are to be together.
chucksagent Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 Christmas is over...and JUST when you are getting ahead, BOOM, they hit you again...You think this is all a coincidence? Lol. In our country soicety/the media PRESSURES you to constantly "keep up with the jonses" and how you need college/new car/new house/credit cards/etc. They KEEP you in debt so you always are working to pay your master. It's just another example of a way to keep us chained in this fancy "free" form of indentured servitude they have designed. Really think about this... They will all tell you "you ARE free, you don't HAVE to buy your SO anything for V-Day." But that's bullcrap, and here is why....Your SO is brainwashed...her friends are brainwashed...your friends are brainwashed...both of your family's are brainwashed....both of your sets of co-workers are brainwashed... So you try to make a statement/make a stand against corporate greed, and ALL you wind up looking like is a cheapskate...even though you drive a sports car, take her on fancy vacations, live in a great house, and treat her like EVERY Day is Valentines day. (I probably send her flowers RANDOMLY 4 times a year...occasionally buy the girls in her office lunch; like send lunch for all of them, etc.) The system they have designed is a system you can't beat....most of you reading this probably have no clue what I'm talking about and think I'm crazy...Lol..and that's fine...but one day if you have some extra time away from TV, I-Pad, I-Phone, just sit quietly and think about things in this country.
beenburned Posted February 19, 2013 Posted February 19, 2013 chuck, Yes, this is the message that is being sent to us. It is like all commercials, a way for someone to make money. But, where I disagree with you is, no one has to give in to the pressure. No one has to strive to live/keep up with all the other people in our life. This type of stress is what causes constant unhappiness within us. I don't allow my happiness to be at the mercy of others! I don't regret not living in a mansion, driving a very expensive car, or wearing designer clothes! My happiness comes in the joy of doing and having things that make me happy. My greatest joy is the love of my family! Husband, grown children, grandchildren, and all of my extended family. Back to the original question: We use Valentines day as a way to express this love. It can be done in many ways without spending lots of money. I buy all my cards at the dollar store for 50cents or a dollar. They are just as beautiful as the cards at the expensive stores! I adore every card my grandchildren spend hours making for me. They beam with pride on how they captured their feelings in a card. For all the people out there who think they have to stay on the merry-go- round, stop and look at the big picture of what changes need to happen in order for your life to be happier! 1
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