jferg24 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 (edited) So this girl I've been talking to for about a month now has me baffled at the moment. She said she really likes me, she calls me her boy, she said the second we met she felt something that normally doesn't happen with her. All of these things she said, then we kissed two days ago, and now all of the sudden she's acting different. She said she doesn't know if she wants to talk anymore, she shouldn't have kissed me, and she has just completely changed her mind. Before we kissed she was so for us to work and now she's unsure about us. She knows I really want to be with her and I really like her, but all of the sudden it's gone in a 180. At first she was all for it and everything and now she doesn't know. I just don't get it, I really like this girl and I really want to be with her and she originally said she did as well, but now she's changing her mind and everything. Can someone please help me out with this and tell me what's going on? Edited February 10, 2013 by jferg24
loverestored Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 As a woman, let me tell you something. If I really liked a guy and had a thing for him, I would do anything in my power to let him know. This is especially true if I knew he liked me back. If I dug a guy and he kissed me, I would without a doubt tell him I liked him back. Her reaction is tellin me that unfortunately at this time.... She doesn't feel the same about you. There is no way I would tell a guy I liked that I shouldn't have kissed him.. I know it sucks but at least she's telling you. If I were you, I'd try to have a serious talk with her about what happened and clarify. Good luck! Keep us updated! Wish you the best! -Love Restored
Terminal-Ice Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I think she wants to like you but doesn't understand why she's just not feeling that certain je ne sais quoi. She knows she should want you, but she doesn't. She can't change that. Don't forget that there is also a biological attraction as well. That just doesn't seem to be there. 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Yup! Kiss was the Kiss of Death. Lack of chemistry. Nothing you can do. You'll make a great friend though.
Author jferg24 Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 As a woman, let me tell you something. If I really liked a guy and had a thing for him, I would do anything in my power to let him know. This is especially true if I knew he liked me back. If I dug a guy and he kissed me, I would without a doubt tell him I liked him back. Her reaction is tellin me that unfortunately at this time.... She doesn't feel the same about you. There is no way I would tell a guy I liked that I shouldn't have kissed him.. I know it sucks but at least she's telling you. If I were you, I'd try to have a serious talk with her about what happened and clarify. Good luck! Keep us updated! Wish you the best! -Love Restored I will say this though, while we had been talking she said that she changes her mind all of the time. She said that once she starts getting close to guys she pushes them away and says a lot of **** she doesn't mean, but she said she doesn't want me to let her do that. She's starting to push me away right now, so what should I do to prevent her from doing that? I don't want to give up on this because I do really like this girl and she said she really liked me. She actually said she liked me before I said it to her.
Titania22 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 I will say this though, while we had been talking she said that she changes her mind all of the time. She said that once she starts getting close to guys she pushes them away and says a lot of **** she doesn't mean, but she said she doesn't want me to let her do that. She's starting to push me away right now, so what should I do to prevent her from doing that? I don't want to give up on this because I do really like this girl and she said she really liked me. She actually said she liked me before I said it to her. Remind her that she told you this including the bit about you not letting her push you away.
Sabian Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Go in strong as quick as possible. Tell her how you feel and remind her of what she's said about you in the past. Don't be shy and hang back. That will just give her time to convince herself to not be with you. She is interested, she has to be or else she wouldn't have said those things. Who knows why she's shying away now. Maybe she's nervous, maybe she's had bad experiences before, etc. Who knows. So remind her. If you can kiss her again do it, and do it as long and as passionately as you can. Let her know why she said she liked you. Just don't lay low. It's now or never in my opinion. Don't propose or do anything crazy like telling her you love her, but definitely be somewhat forward and let her know why she should be with you. Make it so her nerves or doubt can't convince her otherwise.
Radu Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 I will say this though, while we had been talking she said that she changes her mind all of the time. She said that once she starts getting close to guys she pushes them away and says a lot of **** she doesn't mean, but she said she doesn't want me to let her do that. She's starting to push me away right now, so what should I do to prevent her from doing that? I don't want to give up on this because I do really like this girl and she said she really liked me. She actually said she liked me before I said it to her. Get away from her and start running ... very far away. Ppl who do this kind of stuff [push-pull games] are not serious LTR material, but they are serious hardship and therapy providers. Find someone a little bit more mature, who doesn't do push-pull games.
Archgirl Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 So this girl I've been talking to for about a month now has me baffled at the moment. She said she really likes me, she calls me her boy, she said the second we met she felt something that normally doesn't happen with her. All of these things she said, then we kissed two days ago, and now all of the sudden she's acting different. She said she doesn't know if she wants to talk anymore, she shouldn't have kissed me, and she has just completely changed her mind. Before we kissed she was so for us to work and now she's unsure about us. She knows I really want to be with her and I really like her, but all of the sudden it's gone in a 180. At first she was all for it and everything and now she doesn't know. I just don't get it, I really like this girl and I really want to be with her and she originally said she did as well, but now she's changing her mind and everything. Can someone please help me out with this and tell me what's going on? I did this to the last guy I fell in love with, a few times. Fell way too hard waay too fast and scared the **** out of me, so I tried to bail but couldn't stay away. He ended up completely NCing me, as you should do to her: chicks like me are crazy and will break you heart, find someone with less issues
Joaquin Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 I did this to the last guy I fell in love with, a few times. Fell way too hard waay too fast and scared the **** out of me, so I tried to bail but couldn't stay away. He ended up completely NCing me, as you should do to her: chicks like me are crazy and will break you heart, find someone with less issues Interesting post. What sort of issues are you talking? Your going to eventually want a bf. Will he be a guy your not that into?
Archgirl Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Interesting post. What sort of issues are you talking? Your going to eventually want a bf. Will he be a guy your not that into? Well I'm not looking for one, this guy just turned up out of the blue. Commitment issues, been burnt too much to be comfortable feeling that out of control, that vulnerable- seriously I was like a 16 year old in love for the first time- but I wasn't really thinking that clearly, just reacting. Does that help?
Joaquin Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Any kind of honest post helps. Thanks for answering.
Archgirl Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Interesting post. What sort of issues are you talking? Your going to eventually want a bf. Will he be a guy your not that into? Oh and obviously just coz I'm THAT chick now doesn't mean I plan to stay that way, I'll work through it and grow and change
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