AllyVijay Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 (edited) Hey always keeps calling me , sometimes comes out with me , takes all benefits of a love affair but keeps saying he cant give an 100% commitment or does not want to have any hopes on me ,,, we were together for two years... i have helped him alot he keeps telling me we can be lovers but he also mentions that he doesnt have any hopes on me and doesnt see a future a guaranteed future together , sometimes i try to move on then he calls me and spoils it ,,, he doesnt give me a commitment or the happiness i deserve from a relationship , i really love him but i dont want a fake relationship ,, pls help........... I have shown enough love to him but now i dont know what to do i have been going through this for a month now everytime he keeps saying i dont want to commit or have hopes on u it keeps killing me ... any advise is really welcome Edited February 10, 2013 by AllyVijay
H3Drvr Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I sort of had this type of relationship in the past. I kept telling her the sex is great but I couldn't picture us being committed. So she would be my goto girl whenever I would strike out at the clubs or if I just wanted something easy. She was stupid enough to fall for it. Eventually, I found someone else that I really liked and wanted to commit myself to. DON'T BE STUPID!
PhoenixRysing Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 He's already told you many times what you can expect from him - nothing. I know it is painful to you, but it is time to face facts that your love is not being returned. It is time for you to let him go and move on. Don't let him near you until and unless he is going to give you what you want. In fact, given the number of times he has done this to you I would suggest just not letting him near you at all. At this point you are simply prolonging your own misery. We all deserve someone who loves us as much as we love them. Every minute you waste on this guy is another minute you could have spent loving yourself and getting ready for the one who does deserve you. I know it hurts - but its time to let go. I suggest the No Contact guide here and some quality time spent on the Baggage Reclaim blog.
sol0420 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Oh man,dont fall for it!!!, or keep falling for it, even if the sex is good. My friend was somewhat into that sort of involvement but she thought she was using him....for sex.... which is kind of stupid because he has given her nothing but sex and its always when he calls her as well. Pretty ****en stupid. I know this is not the way to go in means of an answer, but give urself some self respect and know that the reason you are so much in love with him is because you are an incredible person willing to give everything in hopes you will get what you deserve but with a man like the one you are describing right now-which you are with- will never give you what you deserve. because he is worth nothing if he treats you as such. Besides, the health risks included in such affairs, that is not love.
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