candie13 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 you are the one seeing that girl, if you feel the songs trick is appropriate, then you should do it - I know young people are a lot less hung up on "are we in a relationship" or "he didn't even ask me to be his gf, why is he looking for out song". Bad experiences - or should I say "different" - may be biasing me... my only advice, with this silly celebration coming soon, is to take it slow and enjoy the moment !
Author superb Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 With my (so far) casual girl. Getting her a stuffed cat toy (she loves cats). + an origami with written something nice inside. Then putting numbers on 10 nice songs I like (before hand) and tell her to pick one. After she does, put it in her phone and tell her to listen to it when she's alone in bed that night, with headphones and eyes closed. And that will be our song . Lastly I m buying this scented candle that melts into massaging oil and give her a nice massage and obviously some amazing sex. Overly cheesy? I like your idea, I think it sounds great 1
AMusing Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 With my (so far) casual girl. Getting her a stuffed cat toy (she loves cats). + an origami with written something nice inside. Then putting numbers on 10 nice songs I like (before hand) and tell her to pick one. After she does, put it in her phone and tell her to listen to it when she's alone in bed that night, with headphones and eyes closed. And that will be our song . Lastly I m buying this scented candle that melts into massaging oil and give her a nice massage and obviously some amazing sex. Overly cheesy? This is the girl who you're "competing" for with a long distance dude? Who just told you that she would've stopped seeing you for this other guy, if he lived closer? Honestly if I put myself in her "casual" shoes, the song part of your plan sounds like too much. Having "your" song when there is no relationship seems premature. The other gift ideas are sweet without being cheesy.
AverageCat Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 This is the girl who you're "competing" for with a long distance dude? Who just told you that she would've stopped seeing you for this other guy, if he lived closer? Honestly if I put myself in her "casual" shoes, the song part of your plan sounds like too much. Having "your" song when there is no relationship seems premature. The other gift ideas are sweet without being cheesy. She said she would have been with him at the time (at that time we werent even hooking up) Whats so cheesy about picking a song at random and listening to it? I'm obviously not gonna tell her it's OUR song. Im just gonna give her one more memory to associate to me. But ye I guess I can cut it out
TheGuard13 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 I'm thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend. I don't want to do it before Valentine's Day though, so I have a few plans. A dozen roses, a DVD season of her favorite TV show, and a stuffed Valentine's Day Snoopy for her collection. I'll probably give her a nice long massage at some point, and I'm considering getting some jewelry for her, which I haven't done yet. I thought about having a romantic dinner ready for her when she comes home that night (I don't usually cook), but I honestly just don't know how much effort I want to put into it given the circumstances, which is kind of sad.
ltjg45 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Nah. Home alone for me. If I could find a date in the next 2 days, perhaps I will have plans but that is too short-notice even for me. Maybe I go to the beach or something.
sid3 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Haven't decided yet but took 2 days off, was thinking I might travel somewhere but didn't feel like planning and don't feel like that at all now so probably invite the white lady and Jim Beam and spend the night at my place til I pass out and repeat when I wake up again until Sunday night. Jack Daniels and Johnny Walker can be good company too. Not to mention the fun Captain Morgan can bring.
Terminal-Ice Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 I inadvertently set up a "date zero" for Valentine's Day. I just realized it today, so I think I will postpone it for the following Monday.
Author superb Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 I'm thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend. I don't want to do it before Valentine's Day though, so I have a few plans. A dozen roses, a DVD season of her favorite TV show, and a stuffed Valentine's Day Snoopy for her collection. I'll probably give her a nice long massage at some point, and I'm considering getting some jewelry for her, which I haven't done yet. I thought about having a romantic dinner ready for her when she comes home that night (I don't usually cook), but I honestly just don't know how much effort I want to put into it given the circumstances, which is kind of sad. Why are you breaking up with her?
Author superb Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 One of my employees bought me gifts and a nice card with wonderful nice things written in it <3 Valentines day doesn't have to be just for lovers
ASG Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 No plans for me. May end up having drinks with a friend, but that's not very Valentine's Day.
Katriunrod Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Same page as yours just dumped so some alcohol would help
TheGuard13 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Why are you breaking up with her? Little intimacy and lousy communication. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/mind-body-soul/sexual-reproductive-health-practices/367656-s-not-all-about-sex-but
Author superb Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 Little intimacy and lousy communication. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/mind-body-soul/sexual-reproductive-health-practices/367656-s-not-all-about-sex-but Ouch, sorry to read. Sorry things haven't gotten any better.
Nyla Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 My husband's birthday is on Valentine's Day. We normally go out for dinner and I buy some lingerie to parade for him, along with some birthday cake. Our dinner will be free this year; we got some gift cards for Christmas. He usually gives me some beautiful roses and a lovely card. I hated Valentine's Day when I was younger because I never had a nice one. I was always alone or with a clueless guy who knew nothing about romance. Now I love it. Every day is Valentine's Day for us. 1
Author superb Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 My husband's birthday is on Valentine's Day. We normally go out for dinner and I buy some lingerie to parade for him, along with some birthday cake. Our dinner will be free this year; we got some gift cards for Christmas. He usually gives me some beautiful roses and a lovely card. I hated Valentine's Day when I was younger because I never had a nice one. I was always alone or with a clueless guy who knew nothing about romance. Now I love it. Every day is Valentine's Day for us. That's sweet
chief87 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Need some advice. Been out with a girl about 5 times, in the past month and a half. Last time we went out, she told me that she's unsure when she'll be ready for a relationship due to her still trying to get over her ex/not sure where her life is going, still wants to talk, still wants to see me. After that, I've backed off quite a bit, but we still talk.. just being patient. My question is if you were me would you send her flowers on Valentines Day, despite not knowing where things are going between us? Just want to handle things the right way and don't want to push her further away. Thanks.
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Personally if she's still wrapped up in her ex and not over him id have taken a hike at that moment. People a long time to get over someone especially if its a first love, long term relationship or she's just the kinda girl that falls in love w just about every other guy, and if she still thinks he's the one which I'm betting he dumped her...after doing bob knows what, then he's likely that emotionally uunavailable guy that she so desperately needs to catch. You...mr ready for a relationship is essentially going to be a rebound, to supplement all those things he didn't do and even if you did everything right and were the perfect guy, she's probably still be secretly hooked on the guy and wouldn't be able to let you in. She needs time to get over him...or at the very least shell get her wires crossed emotionally. You gotta ask yourself why you're taking that chance, there's so many women out there that are ready for a relationship. 1
AMusing Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 She said she would have been with him at the time (at that time we werent even hooking up) Whats so cheesy about picking a song at random and listening to it? I'm obviously not gonna tell her it's OUR song. Im just gonna give her one more memory to associate to me. But ye I guess I can cut it out Ohhhhh, ok, you aren't telling her it's "your" song. That makes it substantially less cheesy. 1
AverageCat Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Ohhhhh, ok, you aren't telling her it's "your" song. That makes it substantially less cheesy. I think it's all about how you present something. You can give a small teddy bear with a straight face or a small grin and it'll seem normal. You can give the same teddy bear with "seeking for validation" attitude. "Here I hope you love it. I give it to you with all my heart and it encompasses what I feel for you. Do you like it?" And all of a sudden.... Welcome to the world of cheesiness. 1
SER Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I haven't celebrated Valentine's Day in 7 years. My ex didn't believe in the "consumerism" holiday, so I didn't push to celebrate it. But with this new guy I'm dating, I'm going to take a stab at it! We've been dating for almost 2 months and it's been going really well. He's done a couple of very sweet/thoughtful gestures for me, so I'd like to do the same for him. We haven't talked about Thursday at all, but I was planning on just asking him if I could take him a little surprise after work/before school since I won't have time to do much of anything else. He really enjoys coffee, so I'm heading to the local market and picking up 12 of their many types of coffee beans from around the world and putting them into separate mini jute bags (enough to make his 16 oz every morning) with labels of the type that it is. I'm putting those in a wooden box and tying it with a blue bow (red is overrated!)... now he can have a different flavor of coffee every day for a couple of weeks and pick his favorites! I haven't done something creative like this in a while for a guy, but I'm hoping he'll like it! I hope it's not too cheesy.
youaremysunshine Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 The coffee idea is great! It shows you know what he likes. Also not overy sentimental I've only been dating this guy for a month and he's pretty reserved (never dated before) and we haven't even made plans for valentines. I feel like a creep but I made him a card. He likes Karl Marx, so made a card with his face on it that says "roses are red, so is the state. Let us be comrades, I think your great" Is it weird to give him a card with out talking about v-day first? Is my card silly!?
AMusing Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 The coffee idea is great! It shows you know what he likes. Also not overy sentimental I've only been dating this guy for a month and he's pretty reserved (never dated before) and we haven't even made plans for valentines. I feel like a creep but I made him a card. He likes Karl Marx, so made a card with his face on it that says "roses are red, so is the state. Let us be comrades, I think your great" Is it weird to give him a card with out talking about v-day first? Is my card silly!? I like the feel of your card (no mention of romance, love, etc, which would be way too soon). It is very silly, but isn't that the point? One note though--and I only am correcting you because if it's this way on your card you may want to fix it--but the correct grammar is *you're* great.
candie13 Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 testing my date - last time, he was traveling and arrived to town quite late - after 10. I asked him if he had had the time to have dinner, he said no. So, as he wanted to see me, picked me up from the airport directly and took me to his place - I had prepared a nice dish that went straight to the oven, yummy. this week, both traveling again - only this time, I arrived to town later than him - around 11:15. So he asks to see me and come to his place - he had cooked dinner for me (first timer for me). I was late, arrived a bit before midnight, the food was ready, almost cold and he ... was wearing a big grin when he saw me. anyway, still no word about St.V - I am not saying anything either. I'm out of town this weekend, and we did agree to see each other before I leave - today or tomorrow. before his cooking for me, I was a bit pissed at the situation. Now I'm less bothered, but have no idea what to make out of this situation. I did buy him a small gift, but it's really small, I don't want to get my hopes up and end up with my gfs in a bar, with his gift in my purse... on the other hand, I like the way things go, and I am going to see him today or tomorrow, so I'm cool. Would be nice to celebrate St.V, but even if we don't, I am still quite happy with how things go .
youaremysunshine Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 Thankfully it is correct on the card. I'm nervous about giving it to him because I'm sure he hasn't gotten me anything. I'm guessing he feels pressured by they holiday. I just want to ask him to hang out today and skip vday
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