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He says things that implies he notices the things I like or dislike. And says that he will do this and that for me.

 

The issue is he almost never follows through.

 

Is it safe to say that he doesn't like me that way? And that I should next him anyway?

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Look at it from another angle, what have you done for him? Have you let him know you notice him or like him?

 

If the answers are negative, then he hasn't had a reason to think you'd want him to do anything.

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It's safe to say he's not very reliable.

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Look at it from another angle, what have you done for him? Have you let him know you notice him or like him?

 

If the answers are negative, then he hasn't had a reason to think you'd want him to do anything.

 

I didn't ask him to do anything. He offered and I expressed that I'm happy for him to do what he offered.

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It's safe to say he's not very reliable.

 

This did cross my mind.

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Look at it from another angle, what have you done for him? Have you let him know you notice him or like him?

 

If the answers are negative, then he hasn't had a reason to think you'd want him to do anything.

 

There's no other angle to look at...he says he'll do something, then doesn't follow through...it's simply a matter of him being a person who does this sort of thing. OP personally I would next him, because I think it's telling of an undesirable trait when someone consistently says they'll do something but doesn't do it.

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There's no other angle to look at...he says he'll do something, then doesn't follow through...it's simply a matter of him being a person who does this sort of thing. OP personally I would next him, because I think it's telling of an undesirable trait when someone consistently says they'll do something but doesn't do it.

 

And sometimes I think it's more of him wanting to make a statement of something. But he doesn't mean what he said.

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I like when women ask if they should next a guy when there's nothing to next.

 

It did occur to me that when I typed that. But you know what I mean. Even if you don't, that's okay. :cool:

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I think men sometimes say things just to say them. In my experience it has been for their own personal gain. What they wanted from me. I don't "want" anything so they use romantic lies for their own agenda.

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Occasionally I offer to do whatever for a girl and she is like, 'oh, ho hum, whatever, sure.' Me doing it takes effort and she didn't seem all that excited even though she says sure. So I don't bother.

 

You could say I am unreliable because I didn't do what I said, but when I offer to show or do something for someone , I am probably excited about it. A poor unenthusiastic response on their part kills that excitement and makes me not even want to bother.

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I think men sometimes say things just to say them. In my experience it has been for their own personal gain. What they wanted from me. I don't "want" anything so they use romantic lies for their own agenda.

 

This is true. I don't think this guy wants something from me. But his "personal gain" is to hear his own voice or pretend to be a Cassnova. :laugh:

 

Occasionally I offer to do whatever for a girl and she is like, 'oh, ho hum, whatever, sure.' Me doing it takes effort and she didn't seem all that excited even though she says sure. So I don't bother.

 

You could say I am unreliable because I didn't do what I said, but when I offer to show or do something for someone , I am probably excited about it. A poor unenthusiastic response on their part kills that excitement and makes me not even want to bother.

 

On the flip side, I showed my interest (even if it wasn't breaking into a dance) at what he offered.

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