irc333 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I was at a party the other night, a bonfire. And there was this rather attractive woman just hanging out by herself. Alone. I approached her and we talked for a bit. But it was more of a one-sided conversation and that was pretty much it. She probably knows very a little about me after talking with me, just probably my name and that's it. But I know what she does for work, has a kid, and her interests include mostly work and doing stuff with her kid. Anyhow, I mingle around, but she kind of stays to herself. Some thing I've noticed about her when she talks to people, her body doesn't face them, nor she hardly makes eye contact with them...accept maybe perhaps turn their head towards them for a moment, then look in front of them again. One time, she had her Ipad out, and she was playing it's music, and kind of getting her groove on. Some guys were trying to talk to her, but I could tell that she was just having a good time on her own, letting the men spill the guts about themselves. She just seemed a little too self absorbed in her own world, but wasn't really making an effort to get to know people, and I was wondering why attend an event, and half-hearted conversations with men that approach you?
gaius Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 That's a good question. I know a lot of people do certain things simply due to social pressure. Some who don't want to date start up an online dating account just to pretend for other people they're trying, while putting 0 real effort into it. Perhaps someone close to her thought she needed to get out and she was trying to oblige them. Or perhaps someone important invited her and she showed up just to not seem rude. It's good you analyzed the situation instead of just taking it personally like a lot of guys would.
Author irc333 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 That's a good question. I know a lot of people do certain things simply due to social pressure. Some who don't want to date start up an online dating account just to pretend for other people they're trying, while putting 0 real effort into it. Perhaps someone close to her thought she needed to get out and she was trying to oblige them. Or perhaps someone important invited her and she showed up just to not seem rude. It's good you analyzed the situation instead of just taking it personally like a lot of guys would. Right...in her case, she was new in town, and knew no one at the party, but now that we bring this up. There would be some women that would show up in pairs or in threes, apparently good friends of the host of the party, but would only engage with each other, never split up....and hardly let men even talk to them. It was like they were joined at the hip. LIke the host put on the party for strangers, but also invited close friends from OTHER social circles....and those circles didnt' want to intertwine with the other circle.
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