brokenhearted91 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I posted a couple of days ago [here] and I am asking for different advice. As I stated, we broke up 3 weeks ago and I have been at home since then. We live together up at university in a contract that neither of us can afford to get out of, so not living together is not an option. I have till the end of May until I finish my degree and can move back home and after already doing 2 and a half years, me my family and my friends think it would be insane to quit university now. So what I'm asking for is any advice, tips, opinions that you may have of how to handle living up there with him. Please bare in mind that we don't have seperate rooms, it literally is a bedroom and kitchen in one room with a separate bathroom. I'm going back up today and I'm so scared and nervous because we haven't spoken much since it happened and I don't know what to expect or the best way to deal with it is.
thewho83 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Wow, that's a tough one. My GF I splt a few weeks ago. We were sharing her house she bought. I took all my necessities and am living at a friends place for the time being until I find an apartment. I would advice you to spend as little time as possible at your place. Go to class, study at the library, go out with friends. Stay the night at a friends house every once in awhile, take up a new hobby. Start doing things she wouldn't let you do or you put on hold while you were dating her. Just be civil with her, don't make her/him any meals, just treat it as a roommate for the time being. Keep your head high
lourdes_bern Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Can one of you pack up some things and stay at a friend's place? That's what I did when my ex-bf dumped me. It helped me to be away from our apartment so I didn't have to dwell on all the memories we shared of the place. If that's not an option: stay busy and detached. Be a roommate and nothing more. I don't know how big the place is, but if you can, try to create a clear partition or space for each of you to call your own. You could also work out a schedule to be in the place at different times.
Author brokenhearted91 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 That's the sticking point... The only reason I moved up there was to be with him. I am naturally a very shy reserved person and I struggle with new people. Especially seeing as they all had their groups of friends I haven't made any in the nearly 2 years I've been there. (Yeah I know that's my fault but that's the way it is) I haven't got the luxury of being able to go out with friends or stay at theirs. I still love him and want to be with him so badly and the thought of living with him in a "look but can't touch" kinda way is killing me.
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