gonefishin Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Days are dragging in dont know why I spend so long looking at my Phone hoping .. It's kinda starting to sink in she ain't gonna call But that's no easier... What's she thinking how's she coping? Only last week I was her soul mate the one she wanted a life with forever.. Now nothing?! In experience on the first no contact is the early days easier for the women or the men...? When does the loss/fear really sink home ... For me I nearly feel acceptance and its killing me.. Please help ...
treezy Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I'm on Day 8 today so I can really relate to your thoughts. I'm doing fine today and although I still miss him, I've stopped hoping for him to call. I've also started doing things I was doing before I met my ex and I'm thinking of trying out new stuff too. In fact I can say I'm quite excited about the plans I have for myself. It's perfectly normal to be in despair I guess. As the days go by, the truth that my ex is never going to call becomes more of a fact that I have to accept. I don't know if it's harder for men, but as a girl, it seems to be getting easier as the days go by for me. I'm still upset and all, but not as much as before. Don't think too much about it, I'm sure you'll be alright.
rys Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 In experience on the first no contact is the early days easier for the women or the men...? i think nc is easier for the person who's found a new love (or a new distraction)
mammasita Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I'm on day 11 and keep having dreams that he's had a breakthrough and realizes that he truly does love me and wants to make things work. Damn dreams. Despite that, I'm surprisingly ok. I've been doing some reading, meeting new friends and most importantly focusing on myself.
BostonBroken Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Keep your head up, I think NC is easier for the dumper in the beginning, especially if they have someone else in the picture. Do what you can to distract yourself and stay strong, things will get better.
Author gonefishin Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 I honestly don't know how to cope .. How can I move on when I'm hoping and praying She texts or calls ... I maybe in no contact now but I feel I'm the only one hurting. And hour by hour it's looking less likely she will call ...
mammasita Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I honestly don't know how to cope .. How can I move on when I'm hoping and praying She texts or calls ... I maybe in no contact now but I feel I'm the only one hurting. And hour by hour it's looking less likely she will call ... Stop focusing your energy on whether or not she will contact you.
Author gonefishin Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Any suggestions or things that help please ?
samrjrb Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Maybe for some, being the dumper is easier, but not for me. It hurts me badly to have to end a relationship when I know it is going to hurt them. I have been on both ends of the spectrum. I think I would rather be broken up with than breaking up with someone now. Breaking up seems harder for me. I would rather be the dumpee now after experiencing being the dumper. It hurts either way.
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