How to get laid: Enlightening the Delusional struggling guys!

[Drseussgrrl]

Frankly I think women need to take more responsibility here.

 

Let's be honest, most dudes are not going to tell you right up front that they aren't looking for a relationship. Besides - most relationships evolve after some time has been spent together and things are going well. Not a definitive "what is this" conversation on date #2. Unless he DOES tell you this - then if you are looking for one - well then you better run for the hills.

 

In my experience men tell you all you need to know with their actions. Is he taking you on real dates? Asking things to get to know you as a person? Do you find that you're anxious about when he'll be in touch again? Is he trying to see you late-night or last-minute? Are a lot of topics sexually charged? I mean come on ladies pay attention. It's not that hard.

 

Relationship-minded men, when they do show up, are pretty obvious. At least it has been in my experience. You just know. The others are usually flaky, inconsistent, want to just "hang out" a lot, conversations are usually surface-y, etc.

 

So my rule is - do nothing. It's simple. Watch his actions over the course of a few months. If it's not meeting up to your standards or what you really want, no amount of trying to "convince" a dude is going to get you what you want. Just walk. Don't whine and moan that he doesn't call you enough or take you out. Men will always do what they want, if they feel like it.

 

IT'S SO EASY.

[pbjbear]

Frankly I think women need to take more responsibility here.

 

Let's be honest, most dudes are not going to tell you right up front that they aren't looking for a relationship. Besides - most relationships evolve after some time has been spent together and things are going well. Not a definitive "what is this" conversation on date #2. Unless he DOES tell you this - then if you are looking for one - well then you better run for the hills.

 

In my experience men tell you all you need to know with their actions. Is he taking you on real dates? Asking things to get to know you as a person? Do you find that you're anxious about when he'll be in touch again? Is he trying to see you late-night or last-minute? Are a lot of topics sexually charged? I mean come on ladies pay attention. It's not that hard.

 

Relationship-minded men, when they do show up, are pretty obvious. At least it has been in my experience. You just know. The others are usually flaky, inconsistent, want to just "hang out" a lot, conversations are usually surface-y, etc.

 

So my rule is - do nothing. It's simple. Watch his actions over the course of a few months. If it's not meeting up to your standards or what you really want, no amount of trying to "convince" a dude is going to get you what you want. Just walk. Don't whine and moan that he doesn't call you enough or take you out. Men will always do what they want, if they feel like it.

 

IT'S SO EASY.

 

You sound smart, self aware and experienced.

I agree with you 100% but I didnt figure this out until I dated over 10 guys. It took me getting badly burned about 3 times before it finally sunk in.

 

Its easy to say all this but younger girls and girls who are generally naiive and believe the best in people dont learn this quickly. Esp. ones who are not surrounded by strong assertive women. I used to be optimistic about men but Im not anymore.

 

Hell, Im 25 and in my group of female friends around my age and older I tell them not to chase guys because hes not interested and they tell me Im too pessimistic.

[jcrew11]

I looked at some PUA sites a while ago, and must have given my e-mail address; and now I have tons of SPAM from random companies. the PUA sites are just snake oil salesmen who sell your e-mail address to spammers.

 

Has anyone had the same problem?