Author Inviv_girl Posted February 18, 2013 Author Posted February 18, 2013 You know.. when we really love the person, and I do love him with all my heart. He committed to my family we will get married, have future together with our kids..it was him who brought up the talk. My family and I trusted him and I was so happy to hear that from him. I was hoping so much to marry him, we have kids together, and in fact I was always feel he was the one and it!! Imagine how crushed I am now to know now he dropped me off from the face of earth!! I couldn't even face my future and imagine myself with another man.
purpledust Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 i so relate. in fact i'm crying while reading this forum we both have similar story. long term relationship. propose a marriage. planned to have kids. he even named our soon to be kids. then dumped me out of the blue. reason: he still loves his ex. 8 wks since BU still feeling like he left yesterday. sick feeling this way.
Love Bytes Posted February 18, 2013 Posted February 18, 2013 Inviv_girl, I am sorry you're part of the dumpee club. Interesting if any of us dumpees have ever been the dumper, thus could understand their reasoning, behaviour and seemingly night/day shift of attraction and feelings etc.... Been there. A few times. I was engaged a while ago and I broke it off. Sometimes you realize things aren't gonna work out for you, and the love starts to fade, or you even realize that you never actually loved the person at all...but you still care about them, so it's hard to break things off. In some cases you become distant...not intentionally, but maybe to try to help them so when you finally break it off, it doesn't hurt as much. Not saying that works, or it's the best way...just that I've been there.
Author Inviv_girl Posted February 18, 2013 Author Posted February 18, 2013 Been there. A few times. I was engaged a while ago and I broke it off. Sometimes you realize things aren't gonna work out for you, and the love starts to fade, or you even realize that you never actually loved the person at all...but you still care about them, so it's hard to break things off. In some cases you become distant...not intentionally, but maybe to try to help them so when you finally break it off, it doesn't hurt as much. Not saying that works, or it's the best way...just that I've been there. If never loved the person at all, why would we even in a relationship with them? what kind of game is that? to be in relationship, plan to married, lovey dovey everyday.. and then realized we "dont love" the person after all that crap?
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