youaremysunshine Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 So I've been dating a man I met online for a about a months. My first time online dating. He is a very introverted and socially awkward person. At 21, he has never been a realationship. Everything seemed to be going well, we were seeing eachother 3 times a week and though we haven't sleep together we would kiss for hours in bed. One night he had his arms around me in bed and I said I really liked him and he didn't answear. When I asked where he saw things going with us he said he didn't know, he had never done this before and seemed upset. We've hung out once since then and it was weird, we didnt go back to either of our places. I feel self conscious that he doesn't like me or I scared him away. I should have asked. I'm not asking for the guys hand in marriage, or saying I love him. I just like him and want to keep dating him.
Author youaremysunshine Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Oh and I forget to mention when he asked me what I wanted I said I wanted to be close and affectionate with him, and to understand him. Also weather or not he liked me. He said he didn't wan't to make me insecure and he didn't have anything to say. I hate it because I came off so needy and now it feels like he has all th power.
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 He's acting like he doesn't like you that much and wants to make sure your expectations aren't too high so he doesn't feel guilty over using you for...intimacy. You can't "scare" a guy away that is interested in you...what do you think he is...four years old? If anything he doesn't know how to handle the situation and seems uncomfortable. I'm not sure why introverted men are seen as a "mystery" just because they won't tell you what they are thinking or feeling, which is usually not as much as you are hoping it is.
Author youaremysunshine Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 We haven't fooled around, but I get the sense that it's not because he respects me but because he is afraid. He seems afriad of any type of intimacy what so ever, emotional or other wise. Parhaps he is using me for company because he is very lonely. It sounds manipulative, but I'm thinking of asking to just be friends. I could live with him only as a friend, but it might also make him want to get closer to me.
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