Miss1122 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 What does it mean when a guy say that? I'm dating him for a month. He treats me well. He initiates communication. We became intimate. We were together yesterday and I spent the night. Tonight, we are suppose to see each other again but he cancelled. He works today and this afternoon he sent a text saying that his hour was extended so he can't see me tonight. I had a feeling that it wasn't the real reason so I asked him if he's still interested. He said he's interested but think that we're moving a little too fast. Should I just forget about this guy and just move on? He said he likes me and I like him too. But I'm starting to develop deeper feelings for him. Thanks.
Eggplant Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Guys, in my little experience, freak out when they're getting too close too fast. This happens in particular when you sleep together. He needs to go at his own slow pace. Give him as much space as he needs.
SJC2008 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I just love that moving too fast refers to labels when it used to refer to how soon you slept with someone. Could be what the above poster said but given your posting history and the hangup on labels I have a feeling you're smothering him. May have to ratchet it down a notch.
BehindTheseHazelEyes Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 He probably got a better offer in his eyes. So ignore him. That's what he gets.
kaylan Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 So you sleep with him, he cancels, and gives you the moving too fast line? Id just give him his space and focus on guys who actually show they are invested in you. 2
mortensorchid Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Years ago I knew this guy who was telling me about this girl he was with the weekend before. They did the deed, he said he really liked her, and everytime she would see him in the cafeteria she would run the other way. He asked me "What do you think that means?" I said "You honestly don't need ME to tell you want that means, do you?" I'm not sure if he ever got it, never saw him again after that. Not to sound mean, but it sounds rather similar. Move on.
Estate Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 If a guy says that then he's unsure if he wants to get tied into a relationship. He's on the fence about it though he probably does like you. If you back off a little the chances are he'll realise he needs to chance you a little. If you pester him to keep pushing it forward, it could push him away.
MyPoutine Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 You gave the goods and now he isn't quite so interested anymore. Move on or keep him on the back burner.
Quest Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I'd move on. It's hard but if he's cancelling and changing plans it's not a good sign. If he really wanted to see you he'd make every effort to stick to arrangements. The sooner you can move on the sooner you'll feel good and meet someone else. Good luck. 1
Author Miss1122 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 I think you guys are right. I should give him his space.But he's the one who always initiates contact with me. He's the one who always do the asking to hang out except yesterday I told him were having a party and there would be alot of left over food if he's not doing anything I could bring food and we can hang out. He said he has nothing to do but work and it would be cool. We set time to meet at 9pm that's when he will be home. Then he cancelled because he needed to work later. Which I think was just an excuse. Anyway, I think I have probably done something wrong. I tend to over analyze things even if everything is going great. He told me stories about his friends. One friend has been cheating with his wife. Another friend has been smoking weed. The other night, he asked me if I would like to smoke weed because his friend gave him some. I told him I don't think I would like to. Maybe that sent him a message that I wouldn't be a "cool" gf. I also told him that I don't like that his friend is cheating. Knowing that his friend cheats makes me think that he cheats too. We're dating exclusively, no sex or not to date other people. But I don't think I trust him base on the kind of friends he hangs out with. Anyway, if I did or said something he didn't like, I can't undo it. I think I will detach myself from him and reevaluate if I really want to be with him.
Sweeetie Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 The other night, he asked me if I would like to smoke weed because his friend gave him some. I told him I don't think I would like to. Maybe that sent him a message that I wouldn't be a "cool" gf. I also told him that I don't like that his friend is cheating. Knowing that his friend cheats makes me think that he cheats too. We're dating exclusively, no sex or not to date other people. But I don't think I trust him base on the kind of friends he hangs out with. Anyway, if I did or said something he didn't like, I can't undo it. I think I will detach myself from him and reevaluate if I really want to be with him. Everyone has their own thoughts on things, their opinions, their feelings. That's what makes us who we are. If he doesn't like who you are, he's not worth your time.
FitChick Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I'm not a fan of seeing someone two days/nights in a row, at least in the beginning. See each other at the weekend and maybe midweek and that's it. You need to give him time to miss you.
Author Miss1122 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 I'm not a fan of seeing someone two days/nights in a row, at least in the beginning. See each other at the weekend and maybe midweek and that's it. You need to give him time to miss you. I think I already pushed him away .
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