Lonely Ronin Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Whats the deal with people giving a guy such a hard time for doing this? I'm referring to one night stands or early on in dating. I know it runs against the stereotype, but it's not a crime. Though some people seems to think it is. I had a conversation with a really pretty woman friend this week, and she said it would really upset her if a guy said no even if he had a good reason.
SJC2008 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Women don't handle rejection well, especially sexual. After I ha sex with the last woman I dated I sas shaking my head in the car because we had sex in the last place I ever would of imagined (it wasn't in the car) and she kept saying "WHAT". She was probably thinking I didn't like something about her body or something. 1
TouchedByViolet Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I have never had a ONS and have no interest in that. I only have sex with women I like spending time with and find ONS unattractive. Luckily as a guy women wait for me to make the move for sex.
SmileFace Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 How are you going to turn down sex in a ONS? 1
à droite Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Whats the deal with people giving a guy such a hard time for doing this? I'm referring to one night stands or early on in dating. I know it runs against the stereotype, but it's not a crime. Though some people seems to think it is. I had a conversation with a really pretty woman friend this week, and she said it would really upset her if a guy said no even if he had a good reason. well my bf made me wait he had a good reason that i will not go into. we did not have sex until month and 1/2 in to the relationship. I am kinda happy we waited to have sex .
Author Lonely Ronin Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 How are you going to turn down sex in a ONS? when a woman makes it obvious during the course of the conversation that's what she is looking for.
SmileFace Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 when a woman makes it obvious during the course of the conversation that's what she is looking for. As long as you aren't putting your self in a position to have sex - as in leading someone on - turning someone down shouldn't be a problem. The same if a female did it.
Author Lonely Ronin Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 As long as you aren't putting your self in a position to have sex - as in leading someone on - turning someone down shouldn't be a problem. The same if a female did it. It seems a double standard exists when it comes to this topic.
SmileFace Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 It seems a double standard exists when it comes to this topic. Yes common sense double standards exist. However it doesn't mean a guy should be shamed for keeping his dick in his pants. However both men and women shouldn't lead someone on when and get mad if they are shamed.
Eggplant Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 she said it would really upset her if a guy said no even if he had a good reason. It would hurt her ego. If she can't handle a guy's saying no, she shouldn't ask him in the first place. You're not obligated to have sex with anybody.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I've gotten the impression from some threads that if a guy doesn't try for sex fairly early on it's assume he's not interested. I never understood that.
mortensorchid Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 If a man turns down sex, there's a reason. That reason is that they don't like the woman that they are with. And I am talking about someone they have been with for a while or someone who they just met. Guys are hard wired to do IT with anyone and anything if given the opportunity. If they turn someone down, it's because they specifically don't like that person for some reason who is offering. 2
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 If a man turns down sex, there's a reason. That reason is that they don't like the woman that they are with. And I am talking about someone they have been with for a while or someone who they just met. Guys are hard wired to do IT with anyone and anything if given the opportunity. If they turn someone down, it's because they specifically don't like that person for some reason who is offering. What if the guy isn't emotionally ready yet to have sex with that person and they want to know them a little better?
TheFinalWord Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 If a man turns down sex, there's a reason. That reason is that they don't like the woman that they are with. And I am talking about someone they have been with for a while or someone who they just met. Guys are hard wired to do IT with anyone and anything if given the opportunity. If they turn someone down, it's because they specifically don't like that person for some reason who is offering. Hi, I know what you mean. But that's not true for me. I've had several opportunities for ONS and turned them down due to my faith. My faith actualizes my ability to self-control. Self-regulation is one of the unique aspects of being a human; along with the ability to model and predict consequences of our actions. Self-control - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia 1
wahine Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I think it depends on how "good" his reason is. If he flat out said he wasn't interested, of course it would hurt. But if he was honestly not ready because he didn't feel close/connected enough yet, that seems like a valid reason to me. I'd respect that choice, and if the guy is worth waiting for, a woman should have no problem doing so. And vice versa. It seems a double standard exists when it comes to this topic. Unfortunately, I have to agree. But that doesn't make it wrong.
Author Lonely Ronin Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 If a man turns down sex, there's a reason. That reason is that they don't like the woman that they are with. And I am talking about someone they have been with for a while or someone who they just met. Guys are hard wired to do IT with anyone and anything if given the opportunity. Personally I find this point of view exceptionally offensive. I started this Thread, because I turned a woman down the other night and got a ton of crap about it. The reason I turned her down, was I don't want just sex. 1
PhillyDude Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Whats the deal with people giving a guy such a hard time for doing this? I'm referring to one night stands or early on in dating. I know it runs against the stereotype, but it's not a crime. Though some people seems to think it is. I had a conversation with a really pretty woman friend this week, and she said it would really upset her if a guy said no even if he had a good reason. Because woman are programmed at a early age to think that ALL MEN can't live without sex. I am one of them who can
kaylan Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Whats the deal with people giving a guy such a hard time for doing this? I'm referring to one night stands or early on in dating. I know it runs against the stereotype, but it's not a crime. Though some people seems to think it is. I had a conversation with a really pretty woman friend this week, and she said it would really upset her if a guy said no even if he had a good reason. Its because most guys are sex fiend without high standards who arent selective about their women. Because of this, most (if not all) women feel most guys will take sex any time its offered to them. And then the time they meet a selective guy, or a guy who not into them, and he turns them down...it really screws up their self-esteem.
ltjg45 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Weird. I hasn't found any of these sex-desired females. Sheesh. I wonder if I'm missing out on the fun.....
kaylan Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 If a man turns down sex, there's a reason. That reason is that they don't like the woman that they are with. And I am talking about someone they have been with for a while or someone who they just met. Guys are hard wired to do IT with anyone and anything if given the opportunity. If they turn someone down, it's because they specifically don't like that person for some reason who is offering. Wow. Im surprised at this post. You usually write good stuff, but this is a lame incorrect post. Several guys I know, myself included, have turned down sex in the past for a variety of reasons. With STD and pregnancy risks, men will turn down sex if the situation isnt right. If a guy is trying to slow things down with a girl he really likes, he will turn down sex. And even in some cases, a guy will not want to jeopardize any friendships (with the girl or others) by refraining from sexual activity. Seems women on LS havent met decent guys who have standards and are selective about whom they bed.
SJC2008 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 If a man turns down sex, there's a reason. That reason is that they don't like the woman that they are with. And I am talking about someone they have been with for a while or someone who they just met. Guys are hard wired to do IT with anyone and anything if given the opportunity. If they turn someone down, it's because they specifically don't like that person for some reason who is offering. Many women say men only want sex. But then they say things like this. Yes, I want to have sex. And if I had it my way it would be with a woman whom I'm in a relationship with. One of the main reasons I like to wait is becuase I don't want to date a woman who's gonna give it up to anybody. AND if she didn't freak out and think that I didn' like her or was a virgin it would tell me she beleives there are good men out there with good motives!
PhillyDude Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Its because most guys are sex fiend without high standards who arent selective about their women. Because of this, most (if not all) women feel most guys will take sex any time its offered to them. And then the time they meet a selective guy, or a guy who not into them, and he turns them down...it really screws up their self-esteem. What if he is sick upset about job loss Wonder if she would still have low-self esteem
SmileFace Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 If a man turns down sex, there's a reason. That reason is that they don't like the woman that they are with. And I am talking about someone they have been with for a while or someone who they just met. Guys are hard wired to do IT with anyone and anything if given the opportunity. If they turn someone down, it's because they specifically don't like that person for some reason who is offering. Comments like this make me happy I don't date women. 1
PhillyDude Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Comments like this make me happy I don't date women. Well woman are taught that when they are growing up
wahine Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Well woman are taught that when they are growing up Only the ignorant ones.
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