crimsoncurrent Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 With my NC sobriety nearing a month on Tuesday, and the pain of loss decreasing in its intensity, today's been difficult. Lastnight, while out with friends, we went to a bar/club relatively near where she works. I had no idea the bar was close to her work before leaving. Also, the area the bar was located in was very familiar and sentimental, seeing places we went to while together. Additionally, I've been dreaming about her lately. So today, I'm having urges of wanting to check fb. I just really miss her, even though the feelings are not mutual. I'd appreciate any insight or comments. Thanks.
ken_25 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Totally normal. Frankly it's just hard to endure this, but you will move past this eventually. What you were seeing is called 'triggers'. They're reminders of your ex in some way. Movie theater you visited a lot, favorite restaurant, neighborhood they live by, etc. They suck at first, but eventually it gets better. I was surrounded by them, I was barely sleeping more than 3 hours a day and when I did sleep I would dream of my ex. I hated it, but I got over it after awhile. Just keep going.. you're going to miss her at times, you're going to get down about the past at times, but that will become less and less as the weeks go by, and then one day you will notice how you just feel indifferent. You will likely feel better and then slip back a little bit like most of us do, but you'll make it back to feeling good again, trust me. Just keep living your life, stay out of theirs, keep busy and spend time with your friends and family.
NoLeafClover Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 DOn't do it. Some of us here have gotten "I miss you" or " I wanna cuddle" emails and texts and the advice was to stay NC...so Stay NC, Sooner or later it won't bug you anymore. Keep strong
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