Lishy Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Hi Guys So this is more complex then I have time to type but basically a guy I work with has been texting me regularly and I dont know what to do! I really like this guy and have been texting for months now but nothing comes of it ... we have mentioned a few times to meet up but it has been times when one of us has something else planned We talk about sex in our convos and this guy really turns me on and I want to take it further ... My question is what do I do to make this go further? remember I work with the guy every day so I have to be careful! How can I get to see him out of work when he never calls, just texts?
xpaperxcutx Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 He's not serious. He enjoys the little game of tag through text not to much the sex conversations you guys have.
Quest Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Sounds like he likes the flirting by text because it doesn't put him under any pressure - gets to flirt but doesn't have to do anything about it. Maybe that's because he likes you but has a relationship already so this way he gets a bit of you without causing any major upheaval in his life. Or maybe it's because that's enough for him - he just doesn't want to get involved with you, for whatever reason. If you're okay with that, that's fine.But it doesn't sound like you are so I'd either stop the texting or give him a definite opportunity for the two of you to get together and see if he responds.
Author Lishy Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 He's not serious. He enjoys the little game of tag through text not to much the sex conversations you guys have. I was thinking that to! How do I deal with this? remember I work with him so no matter what I do I still have to face him the next day!
Author Lishy Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Sounds like he likes the flirting by text because it doesn't put him under any pressure - gets to flirt but doesn't have to do anything about it. Maybe that's because he likes you but has a relationship already so this way he gets a bit of you without causing any major upheaval in his life. Or maybe it's because that's enough for him - he just doesn't want to get involved with you, for whatever reason. If you're okay with that, that's fine.But it doesn't sound like you are so I'd either stop the texting or give him a definite opportunity for the two of you to get together and see if he responds. This is what has happened but either I have other plans or he has! He suggested next Saturday but I have other plans and when I said this he said "well I am sure it will happen soon" but didnt suggest another day I really enjoy our texts but I know when a guy is intersted he will suggest another day, which he didnt do! How do I tell him to sh*t or get off the pot in a nice way without coming across as a pshycho nutcase? I need to remain cool as I work with him
Author Lishy Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 or the convo is there and you enjoy it I really enjoy it but I want more!
Author Lishy Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Stop having "other plans" and meet him at the time he lays out for you. If you can't do that then he is not all that important to you and you should stop whining They were plans I could not get out of and he has also cancelled as he had plans he could not get out of once
Author Lishy Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Lishy!! :bunny: Hi gorgeous! How are you bubs? x
Author Lishy Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 If you really want to meet him, you will make it happen. If its that important. I really could not get out of it but there are 7 days in a week and he did not suggest another day, he just suggested that he know it will happen 'soon'
Author Lishy Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Ok My question is how do I get him to move this forward without looking despo??
RachR Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Are you just looking for a one night stand or what?
Author Lishy Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Are you just looking for a one night stand or what? No, I dont do one night stands and I really like this guy!
Quest Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 This is what has happened but either I have other plans or he has! He suggested next Saturday but I have other plans and when I said this he said "well I am sure it will happen soon" but didnt suggest another day I really enjoy our texts but I know when a guy is intersted he will suggest another day, which he didnt do! How do I tell him to sh*t or get off the pot in a nice way without coming across as a pshycho nutcase? I need to remain cool as I work with him Maybe he thought you weren't interested when you said you had other plans so I'd just give him another day,time and venue and ask if he can meet you then. That's not desperate, just practical. You'll only look desperate if you keep chasing him when he's knocked you back a few times and that hasn't happened.
Author Lishy Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Maybe he thought you weren't interested when you said you had other plans so I'd just give him another day,time and venue and ask if he can meet you then. That's not desperate, just practical. You'll only look desperate if you keep chasing him when he's knocked you back a few times and that hasn't happened. I dont chase him but I did say there are 7 days in the week and we can find a day and his response was " im sure it will happen" I want him to do the running which from past experience, a guy who is intersted will do!
outsidethebox Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I wouldn't call an invite to meet on Saturday nothing else. You can't make it, suggest another Saturday or a better day for you. I understand he couldn't make some previously suggested meeting (by you I guess), but he has suggested and you can't make it. In all your bleepin texting surely you two can figure this out.
Easyguy14 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Hi Guys So this is more complex then I have time to type but basically a guy I work with has been texting me regularly and I dont know what to do! I really like this guy and have been texting for months now but nothing comes of it ... we have mentioned a few times to meet up but it has been times when one of us has something else planned We talk about sex in our convos and this guy really turns me on and I want to take it further ... My question is what do I do to make this go further? remember I work with the guy every day so I have to be careful! How can I get to see him out of work when he never calls, just texts? he's probably not much of a phone person. it seems this generation isn't so why dont you give him a call and see what happens.
SmileFace Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I use to always ending up in crap like this with guys. You know why? Because I allowed it. So I got to the point where beating around the bush wasn't working. So I started asking for what I want. "When can we meet up?" "When are we seeing each other?" Yeah - I got bull **** run around answers So I took it to the next level. "What are you looking for?" If the response wasn't "Let us make plans" I cut contact I had ones that lingered so bitch level "I don't think we are looking for the same things?" At this point they either buckled down or left. Either way - I wasn't allowing myself to get lead on. You have to stand up for yourself.
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 He is not that interested. If he was, he would have move it forward. Simple.
FitChick Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 If you work together why not meet for lunch or have dinner nearby after work? Just walk over to his desk and suggest it.
RachR Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 (edited) This is why I don't like communicating so much through texting when you're getting to know each other. It leaves people wide open to just have fun in texting and leave it there since it takes so little effort. Edited February 10, 2013 by RachR 1
Pyro Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Hey there stranger. Anyone who relies on texting that much seems like a half as$er. He would be the type to break things off with you through text instead of in person. I bet that you can do better than him.
Author Lishy Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Hey there stranger. Anyone who relies on texting that much seems like a half as$er. He would be the type to break things off with you through text instead of in person. I bet that you can do better than him. Hey honey! How are things? I guess cos I work with him and know him quite well its all a bit awkward I think I will just ignore his texts now ... He can sh&t or get off the pot so to speak!
sid3 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I guess cos I work with him and know him quite well its all a bit awkward I think I will just ignore his texts now ... He can sh&t or get off the pot so to speak! Changing things up is probably your best bet. 1
Author Lishy Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 do you think it will make him step it up?
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