ls32ssibm Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Don't get me wrong, I won't date a hot chick who is dumber than dirt. So, I guess you can say my standards are ridiculously high. I can't refute that. Two experiences I've had; Girlfriend A: Dated her on her personality, solely. Was a really cool chick, but physically a 5/10 maybe. I was constantly reflecting that I was wasting my time because, as horrible as it sounds, I wouldn't want to procreate with her. She had very bad genes (not just looks, but health was very poor overall). I was constantly looking at other girls and guys who had pretty girlfriends, enviously. I hated this feeling. Girlfriend B: An 8/10. Very attracted to her, never desired another girl the entire time I was with her. Also a good person, but we just weren't compatible enough. Just how I feel. Flamesuit on.
ScienceGal Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I hate thinking that I am going to have to decide what is "most important". Why can't I have it all, especially since "all" to me is not so extravagant? A decent looking man, who is emotionally/psychologically compatible with me, and can support himself financially. I've never found it all in one person. Never. Although, I've stayed in bad relationships... so maybe I was missing many opportunities to meet a better match. I know what you mean about looking at other couples and being a little envious. I've been there. You don't sound shallow, just honest. And if you ended both of those relationships, kudos.
Pinky777 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 It's not shallow to like what you like. I wasn't especially attracted to my last boyfriend at first, but actually fell in love with him based on his personality. he grew more physically attractive to me after that. In a sexual sense I was insanely attracted to him. We had great chemistry. Sounds like in your case you just didn't click enough with either of those two women. Usually it's not a matter of just looks or personality - even when a person has both there can still be something missing, that chemistry, that special something.
Author ls32ssibm Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Very true. That is because women believe the landscape of social shaming belongs exclusively to them. It irks fatty women to no end when men use social shaming to call them out on their own faults. You can't call them that. It's BBW isn't it? 1
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