Is it normal for a guy to get hundreds of rejections before finding a girlfriend

[Sun Devil]

Last year, I had 40 rejections and 2 dates. No relationship formed. So far this year, I experienced a dozen rejections, and do not appear to be any closer to getting a girl. Is this normal? Do you know any guy who went through this? If so, then why did he get rejected so much

[ThaWholigan]

How do you actually ask these girls out?

[Sun Devil]

My old method of talking to girls would be to talk mainly about school since this would occure on campus. I would not do any flirting, but instead keep it casual. Now when I talk to girls, I try to show how fun I am to be with. I still dont know much about flirting so I dont do it yet

[ThaWholigan]

My old method of talking to girls would be to talk mainly about school since this would occure on campus. I would not do any flirting, but instead keep it casual. Now when I talk to girls, I try to show how fun I am to be with. I still dont know much about flirting so I dont do it yet

You will find it difficult if you can't at least flirt a tiny bit. Don't try to show how fun you are to be with. Just be fun to be with! It's difficult to differentiate, but if you try to put on a front, it won't always quite work.

 

How is Aspergers therapy going? They should really be teaching you some of this stuff.

[somedude81]

How are you asking these girls out? What do you say? How well do you know them?

[runner]

it's normal for guys who are content with repeating the same mistakes over and over again. learning something new after each try is much more efficient (and not becoming bitter in the process).

[Sun Devil]

Where would I learn new methods? I just started using pua material so I hope to see some changes soon

[jcrew11]

Honestly, you don't really need to "go out on dates" in college. You kinda just hookup and "kiss or have sex when you are drunk or lonely."

 

Most girls may not want to be tied down and keep their options open for the "top studs."

 

If you just want a "steady girlfriend" I would suggest aiming very low, like chubby and ugly girls who won't reject you. This will help you get experience with women.

 

But I think you should just concentrate on building lots of female friendships; and maybe turning one of them into a hookup buddy you can makeout with at frat parties. Meet women who share your interests and classes or in your dorm. Just talk and become friends with every women you interact with.

[Mr_Flay]

If you just want a "steady girlfriend" I would suggest aiming very low, like chubby and ugly girls who won't reject you. This will help you get experience with women.

 

Dating girls who are unattractive to him won't bring him any emotional satisfaction, and the effect on his overall experience with women will be quite dubious. How will he get an erection if he's not attracted to the girl at all?