Ex wants to keep the other girl around while still thinks about getting back with me?

[cassrat]

Lovehurtconfusion-

I think you are right. I am not ready to be friends. I put all of his things in a bag and I am going to give them back to him tomarrow at school. I dont know very many couples that become truly just friends after they break up. Seeing him on a repeated basis would just make things harder. I need complete no contact time and then maybe in a year or so we can be friends, but then again maybe not. Im not sure he is someone that I want to be friends with. I dont need any extra stress right now. Im having surgery in a week, I am in really hard classes right now and I need to focus on just me. I dont want him poping in and out of my life. I dont want to know about his life really either. Exspecially his love life. Its funny how I was completly done with him until I found out he started dating someone else. My friend and her mom pointed that out to me last night. Before we broke up I wanted out of this relationship so bad because it was borring and I changed who I was for him. I lost focus on what I really wanted again because of something that happend in this life. Anyways, thanks for your advice once again. I really wish we lived by each other because we could go have a blast.

[luvhurtconfusion]

Hi cassrat,

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through surgery. Maybe it is better off for you now to focus on more important things, like yourself and school. If you don't think you can handle hearing what's going on with his life, regarding other girls, then you're not ready to be just friends. I also realized like u that I wouldn't want to be back with him so badly if he had never found another girl. And now I know for sure that I was so stuck on him because of 5yrs of attachment, he's definitely not the person I want to spend rest of my life with, and I'm ready to be just his friend. But I have a feeling that he's still trying to string two people along, but he doesn't know that I'm way over him than he thinks I am... Right now, I want to be there for him, but often when he said we'd go hang out next day or whatever, and I call him the next day, he'd just not pick up calls. I'm tired of it and it doesn't bother me anymore. If he wants to hang out, fine, if he flakes out, fine too. I'm amazed at myself that I've recovered this fast, though I can't say that I'm completely over him. I'm fine now, and I hope you can be soon. Hey if you ever need someone to talk to, you can email me at [email protected] so we don't need to sign in here all the time, haha. Good luck with surgery~

[baby20christ]

He' rocks!!! cause he dont know how to keep a girl..cause you knew it already....

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