cavalier99 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I don't mean to be creepy Cav, but your posts always cheer me up. You are so unfailingly enthusiastic and funny, and I think it's really sweet how you always try to motivate other FMs, especially as I know how hard it is to get over a really long relationship, which is what you are going through yourself. You rock on too! Ok, love-in over Ha thanks..not creepy at all. Where is your tatoo? Lol I appreciate the compliment. Anyway I try to stay positive..sometimes I wonder if I project more confidence than I really have. Sorta like I'm lying to myself that I'm OK until i finally believe it. I actually do this..not kidding. Fake it till you make it type deal. Lol. At then end of the day we are just suffering from a little heartbreak so it isn't anything terminal. and maybe we need to not take it sooo seriously..thus my attempts at lightening the mood. I like trying to help out..seems to help me too. Plus at this point our experience actually counts for something. Hope you are doing well. I'm actually doing a LOT better the last week or so..I seem to have turned the corner. Cav
Author Hopeful79 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Ha thanks..not creepy at all. Where is your tatoo? Lol I appreciate the compliment. Anyway I try to stay positive..sometimes I wonder if I project more confidence than I really have. Sorta like I'm lying to myself that I'm OK until i finally believe it. I actually do this..not kidding. Fake it till you make it type deal. Lol. At then end of the day we are just suffering from a little heartbreak so it isn't anything terminal. and maybe we need to not take it sooo seriously..thus my attempts at lightening the mood. I like trying to help out..seems to help me too. Plus at this point our experience actually counts for something. Hope you are doing well. I'm actually doing a LOT better the last week or so..I seem to have turned the corner. Cav Great to hear you are doing well Cav, and seem to be turning a corner! I still have really bad days here and there where I simply can not stop thinking about my ex and just wanting his arms around me again. But then...that's also when I try to remember the many many bad times. I definitely agree it's good to try to fake yourself out of a bad funk. They say sometimes that if you just smile you can cheer yourself up.
cavalier99 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Great to hear you are doing well Cav, and seem to be turning a corner! I still have really bad days here and there where I simply can not stop thinking about my ex and just wanting his arms around me again. But then...that's also when I try to remember the many many bad times. I definitely agree it's good to try to fake yourself out of a bad funk. They say sometimes that if you just smile you can cheer yourself up. Hi hopeful79. Hang strong. I read about your situation before so i know this isn't easy on you at all. All i can say is if you keep on doing the right things like you are doing you'll get better. It may take months of ups and downs, crying, thinking you are better only to break down again ecetera. The thing is no matter how insane you are feeling or whatever urges you have ...grab on to NC like your life depends on it and all will be well even if you feel like you aren't progressing. I feel that in your situation the desire to break NC will be really strong and the consequences will suck extra bad. So stay NC... This is your ticket out and to feeling happy again. Ok? Cav 1
destroyed4sho Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I think that, along with Hopeful79's naked pooper, is one of my favourite stories about our pathetic exes. Maybe they can all have a party together, teddies, goblins, and nudists oh my! Yeah you're right, I think it's because hope is finally fading. To this day I can't believe he's just gonna let me go, and I'm not going to hear from him. It is genuinely a shock every day. But really what are we hoping for? I feel ridiculous to think that I ever thought this selfish little man-child would be able to marry me, commit to me forever and help me raise a family, and yours sounds as bad (and in teddy hindsight, possibly worse). It takes a real, grown-up man to do that, not an 8 year old with an adult's face. bahahaaaa...it takes a grown up, yep! you said it sister!
candie13 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 keep posting about the progress that you're making! At some point, you will need to give him up, you realize it, don't you? Let us know how else you're progressing with your life! 1
Author Hopeful79 Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 keep posting about the progress that you're making! At some point, you will need to give him up, you realize it, don't you? Let us know how else you're progressing with your life! I will... I don't know any of you but it's nice to have people who care and understand. Tomorrow is a big day for me. I am going to key largo for a month. Planning to get back into the dive industry. I worked as an instructor 5 yrs ago. Will be doing more training at a dive center there and an extended job interview. Taking the steps to follow my dream and live my life for me. I left diving to go back to school and get a masters degree in communication studies- which I did only to find I missed diving. Then I met my ex and the next 2 1/2 yrs he was my life. I am terrified now to go back out there and be I my own but I am doing it and will get my confidence and strength back that my ex had take from me.
Author Hopeful79 Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 Hi hopeful79. Hang strong. I read about your situation before so i know this isn't easy on you at all. All i can say is if you keep on doing the right things like you are doing you'll get better. It may take months of ups and downs, crying, thinking you are better only to break down again ecetera. The thing is no matter how insane you are feeling or whatever urges you have ...grab on to NC like your life depends on it and all will be well even if you feel like you aren't progressing. I feel that in your situation the desire to break NC will be really strong and the consequences will suck extra bad. So stay NC... This is your ticket out and to feeling happy again. Ok? Cav You really do give great advice and seem like an amazing and caring person. Thank you. 1
Sari Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 I will... I don't know any of you but it's nice to have people who care and understand. Tomorrow is a big day for me. I am going to key largo for a month. Planning to get back into the dive industry. I worked as an instructor 5 yrs ago. Will be doing more training at a dive center there and an extended job interview. Taking the steps to follow my dream and live my life for me. I left diving to go back to school and get a masters degree in communication studies- which I did only to find I missed diving. Then I met my ex and the next 2 1/2 yrs he was my life. I am terrified now to go back out there and be I my own but I am doing it and will get my confidence and strength back that my ex had take from me. Wow that's amazing! Must be so nice to have a passion of your very own. Well done for picking it up again. I know it must be nerve wracking, but I bet you'll get back in to the swing of it in no time! I'm going to make sure I don't compromise anything for a boyfriend again, not my hobbies, my emotions or my self-worth. Talking to my therapist today reminded me of all the reasons why my ex just doesn't deserve my tears or my love. On the plus side, my lunch went well today, had a really nice time with my male companion I do quite like him but don't want to rush in to anything. We made a loose arrangement to do it again soon, that's good enough for me for now. I don't need my heart broken all over again thanks!
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