do we scare our s/o when we want an emotional thing as well as a physical

[butterflygrl]

hey all

i have a question to ask do you think women want and need a emotional thing where as men want a physical therefore causing alot of conflict in a relationship.. i feel that men take us for granted and think if they don't get sex all the time we aren't doing what is required in a relationship.. all us women want is to be showed how they feel without it leading to sex .. don't get me wrong i like sex thats not the thing i just would like to feel wanted and needed not only for sex but just to hug and kiss and cuddle and show me how they feel without it always leading to sex...

[supermom]

it should be both, emotional and physical. if your so is freaking out due to your emotional need, i'd dump him.

[butterflygrl]

hey supermom

 

it don't freak me out .. i was just asking why we can't have both and they understand that sex can be great but you need that pysical thing too.. my s/o does kiss and hug on me but not enough .. i just would like a little more thats all .. thanks for your reply

[The_Analyzer]

It may be that some people men/women weren't taught properly in their upbringing about how important it is to communicate emotionally as well as physically. Which if thats the case. it would make it difficult to do that in a relationship. I think emotional support and understanding are important to most people, but sometimes they aren't sure how to go about doing it.

 

I also think sometimes people have the ability to connect emotionally but are afraid. When we do that, some people see it as a sign of weakness or that they are having to let their guard down. Some people feel safe behind the emotional wall or barrier that they set for themselves. The best way to break that wall down so all will get what they want and deserve emotionally/physically, is communication. Let the other person know what you want and need. Good luck.

[butterflygrl]

hey analyser

 

thanks for the reply and you are so right about this quote.....

 

 

also think sometimes people have the ability to connect emotionally but are afraid. When we do that, some people see it as a sign of weakness or that they are having to let their guard down. Some people feel safe behind the emotional wall or barrier that they set for themselves. The best way to break that wall down so all will get what they want and deserve emotionally/physically, is communication. Let the other person know what you want and need. Good luck.

 

without that what do we have ...... men think it is a sign of weakness and somewhat like they are kissing our ass .. no man wants to look that way at all..." my s/o said one time before what you want me to do kiss your ass .. sorry but im not"

 

 

thanks for the reply i always look foward to seeing if you reply to mine you usually give the right thing im looking for

[The_Analyzer]

Thanks, I appreciate that. Sounds like maybe he is a prideful person. Guess everyone can be sometimes. Have you all been to counseling for this matter? I would suggest maybe trying that. Maybe you all feel like you have lost yourself and your identity, as most people in relationships do at one point or another. Maybe counseling will help you both find your way back to each other, both physically and emotionally. Good luck.