crazyloveguy Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 this has literally been the wildest roller coaster relationship ive ever been in and the ride isn't over yet. first i'll start off by how we met, she is one of my sisters close friends whom i met prob about 4 years ago. i knew who she was but i had a girlfriend at the time so paid no attention, never saw her again til everything beetween us happened. 8 months ago she returned to this city after leaving for 2 years. one night she comes over to my house with my sister and we go out to a lounge,after a long night and several drinks later her and i end up hooking up twice that night. i took her home the next morning and thought nothing of it, didnt even get her #, week later she shows up at my house again and same thing happens.....and thats when it all started lol. 2 weeks later she had some problems where she was living and got out of there, i asked her to move in with me and she did. i knew right from there that this wasnt going to end well with us moving so quickly but at the moment ant til this day if i kick her out she has NOWHERE to go, and NO ONE to go to. THERE IS SO MANY LITTLE DETAILS THAT HAVE LEAD US TO WHERE WE ARE AT TODAY BUT IT WOULD TAKE FOR EVER TO TYPE. so i'll only point out the big ones. im 27 shes 30 She is a big pot head and takes zanax to deal with the anxiety that i supposedly cause her (lol), im drug free and really hate that about her.she didnt do any drugs that i knew of when i met her or for the first 3 months then WHAM!. In late November is when we really fell apart, she had a child hood friend visit her here at my house, i was cool about it but then they went in her room and the good ol jealousy bug got me and i interrupted and asked what was going on and she flipped out on me and ran off with the guy for 5 days. right there and then i knew it was over, she returned and just had this hatred towards me, of course i felt the same towards her for what she did, I WAS FINANCIALLY CO DEPENDENT ON HER AT THE TIME BECAUSE I WAS UNEMPLOYED, so i had to think about it twice before i made any irrational decisions, we both were literally at war with each other while living under the same roof and the only time we spoke to each other ended with her flipping out on me and me just standing there smiling and shaking my head at her while she went crazy. i had started seeing another person as she also continued seeing that one guy. those relationships didnt work out for either of us due to the fact that we still kept interfering with each others personal lives. i was pretty disappointed it didnt work out between me and the person i had started seeing, i dont blame her for not wanting to be with me after she found out i was still living with the ex. same thing happened to her and the guy she was seeing. so mid january rolls around and things calm down a bit between us and we start talking again and slowly start getting comfortable with each other and eventually sleep with each other again(bad, i know). we both had agreed that we dont want to be with each other and i personally know that i dont want to be stuck with someone like her but at the same time i feel bad for her as she is an emotional wreck and is extremely unstable upstairs. sometimes i feel like im taking advantage because i know how to manipulate her but at the same time she is extremely disrespectful towards me at times and i usually dont even care because i know how crazy she is. it means nothing coming from her so thats why i just smile at her and tell her she shouldnt be so childish. last night we had a huge fight because she went through my phone and read some stuff between me and another woman back when we were at war, she flipped out and tried getting physical with me so i just laughed at her and walked away. couple hours later all was fine. thats pretty much how its been lately THERE IS SO MUCH MORE....... THE POINT IS WE DONT LIKE EACH OTHER BUT WE CANT STAY AWAY FROM EACH OTHER, apparently we both like drama. i think i know the answer to my problem but its so hard for me to let go of her because i really do care for her any help is greatly appreciated
Keenly Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 At what point does the relationship begin? I mean correct me If I have this time long wrong... You meet her. 2 years later she moves. 8 months later she comes back. you guys hook up twice. 2 years later she has some "problems" etc when did you guys start?
Author crazyloveguy Posted February 9, 2013 Author Posted February 9, 2013 (edited) i met her 4 years ago but thought nothing of it.she was gone for 2 years and was in abusive relationship for that time, then she ended moving back here in 11/11' we started dating 8 months ago. i asked her to move in 3 weeks after we had been talking and messing around, i was hesitant about asking her to move in but i felt bad for her, i knew it wasnt a good idea to move so quickly . Edited February 9, 2013 by crazyloveguy
xpaperxcutx Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 Kick her out. IT's your apartment, isn't it? You asked her to move because you pitied her and by sleeping with you, she was paying with sex to live with you. If the lease is under your name, you can kick her out and find yourself a roommate who can pay. Otherwise you move out. There is always a choice.
Author crazyloveguy Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 Its my house and I no longer need her financially.
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