GreyhoundtoNowhere Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Congratulations for leaving your husband. That was admirable from your part, he needed to know the truth. Furthermore, some women can only be with one man at a time. So it was either OM or your H. Clearly your emotional attachment was 100% with MOM. I wish all married people having affairs were like you. Nothing wrong with ending a marriage if your H did not meet your needs. I wish you the best with your new relationship with OM. as much as I actually want your positive responses, Pierre... I can't take them all. I did do the right thing by coming clean and leaving my H. Only problem is that I'm now still being the OW to MM. I only got it half right. Still struggling with the other half, but thanks.
Pierre Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 as much as I actually want your positive responses, Pierre... I can't take them all. I did do the right thing by coming clean and leaving my H. Only problem is that I'm now still being the OW to MM. I only got it half right. Still struggling with the other half, but thanks. Oops, I now recalled your story. YOur MOM is not a good man. Yes, now you need to do the other 50% and get rid of him. I wish you the best. Keep trying!
Darth Vader Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Honestly at this moment i think it would be easier, then the lying, deceiving would stop we could stop completely it would be easier to move on from him, im not deluded in thinking he would choose me over his wife i know he wont. this is going to sound horrible and insensitive and plain right nasty but at least i wouldnt have to pretend to H that everything is ok, he will kick my ass out and i can then move on .... what is wrong with me thinking this is the easy way out of it all ? I wouldnt reveal to his W or my H ironically i dont want to "betray" MM in that way and i dont want to be labelled and chased by his wife and family neither. But most importantly i do not want to hurt my H in this way finding out like that and my children growing up and thinking this is ok behaviour (u know my parents history) i do not want this for my children. You don't "want this for your children"? TOO LATE! Because they already HAVE IT! You're the one who did it to them! Now inform your husband of your affair, so he can move on and be with someone else! Don't force your husband to live a lie any longer, would you want him to have an affair and betray you and your children like you have already done?
angie2443 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 The best hamburger I ever had was the burger I had yesterday. If I had a similar or better burger years ago I don't remember. Comparing the sex you are actually having now with whatever you did with your H years ago is not practical, there is really no comparison. Tiger Woods thought the sex with the multiple OWs he had was better than sex at home. That the women looked hard or were well below the league of his model quality wife was a moot point. The NEW is always more exciting. It takes special people to enjoy sex with the OLD partner. It takes a lot of imagination and creativity in bed to have great sex with the OLD partner. Those that can achieve that are the ones that are really good in bed. ? LOL! I get what you're saying, but it's kind of a downer at the same time.
LFH Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Why is it that sex with MM is more comfortable and exciting than with my H ? Why do I feel more open sexually with him ? Is this the case with all A's ? Our sex is amazing and we have done things with each other that we havent with our spouses. I couldnt imagine doing these things with my H it grosses me out thinking of him touching me the way MM does i also know the MM wife is not the adventurous type either. My question is why is sex more exciting with a MM than with a normal relationship ? I'm not trying to belittle BS or brag Im trying to get my head out of this A and one of the things im struggling with is sex. I find that the reason it's good is because we entered the relationship together differently. I was very upfront with my desires, wants and he was as well, both physically as well as intellectually and emotionally. It let us be more open to one another than we may have if it had been approached differently. I can only speak for myself. I know some people truly enjoy the 'risk' factor but for me that's piece could only be considered an inconvenience certainly not a "plus" in any way. So, that's my thought. Maybe you shared things with him that you hadn't shared with others and that's what caused that extra spark. 1
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