tory1012 Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 So a bit of history, have been broken up with my ex a year ago and have kept physical and emotional ( one sided ) contact. I have finally decided enough is enough and i will be initiating the nc NOW! Regardless if he contacts me. I am writing to ask you all for support. I have grown so fond of this website and it certainly helps. I am going to go through tears, good days, bad days and hopefully In a few months time I will be over him because he is certainly over me. I sick of holding onto false hopes. I need to get my life back and leave him in the past. Does anybody have any recommendations to helping me through this process? I work from home so am alone a lot of the time which is excruciating at times. Looking forward to hearing from you all. 1
gonefishin Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 I wish you the best .. It's not a easy decision to make we all know it here! Try keep busy and I guess what everyone says is find happiness with yourself And realise he doesn't control your happiness you do.. Now that might all seem to much and I get that . So just for now one day at a time .. And every day is a success ... Just keep busy you feel like contacting him .. Come on here and post !!! But find your worth again and let it be his loss not yours I wish you good luck and stay strong!!
TaraMaiden Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 Whenever you feel you're weakening - write here. Whenever you feel like writing that 'closure' letter - write here. Whenever you feel like, or are, crying - write here. Whenever you need to vent - write here. Whenever you feel angry, confused or have questions - write here. Whenever he tries to contact you - write here. Whenever you feel positive, or that your life has taken a forward step - write here. Because we're right here.
SharkTooth Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 For me, I am taking full advantage of the new free time I have to discover things I always wanted to try. Paddle boarding, arts, volunteering, and little things like that. Trying to to spin this whole negative ion crap in to a super charged positive. I've shopped for new clothes, taken on a new look, going where I never had the balls to go. I have always disliked people that are negative so stay away from them. If I say it's sunny outside and someone says "but it's cloudy", I run! Screw that. You have to venture out to new and unfamiliar territory. Even if anxiety creeps in, don't let it control you. Remember that grieving is a natural process and it's perfectly ok to feel like you'll never be happy again but I promise, you absolutely definitely will down the road. Look around this site and read the posts that share people's progress after 4, 6, 8 months of NC. It's inspiring! I wish you the best!
Author tory1012 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Thank you so much for your kind words! I love this place it is amazing! I'm having an okay day today. I am concentrating on the reasons why we broke and why I have to do this. Thinking of the future and how much better I am going to feel in time will certainly help me!!!
jovan Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 they say time heals everything. Good thing we dont have anything else but time, so you might as well relax and let it go its own way
A n t h o n y Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Get a gym membership. You're welcome.
Author tory1012 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Haha! I do actually. I go usually 5-6times a week. Lost 4kgs last month in a healthy way course. Yes time seems to go SO slow at the moment.
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