gonefishin Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 I'm going through yet another heartbreak .. Lying here thinking ... 2 weeks ago she was looking to Put pictures of us up in the new house to last Friday Breaking up..... Someone please tell me what the other person is going through Right now... I'm sitting here pretty much on the verge of tears again My life may as well stopped I haven't worked or socialised in a week.. I'm smart enough to not check her facebook as I'm sure a new outfit and big smiles on display while I'm dying inside. We did fight a bit and these little break ups have happened in the past but this one seems permanent ... 2weeks I ask you ... 2 weeks ago she was saying she loved me with everything and I honestly don't doubt it... I'm fighting the urge so much to not text "I miss you" (yeah I know it won't help ) Do you think she feels the same ... How do you just loose the love of your life and just walk away clicking your heels.. Please tread easy on the replies I beg you .. Really really struggling .. Hoping ,wishing , praying she comes back Sad I know but I'm been honest ...
Sari Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 I know it's so hard. I really do feel for you, I can hear the pain in your words, and I'm going through the same thing. I don't understand what goes through these people's heads. My ex told me he loved me and didn't want to break up with me, as he was doing it!! I know there's not really anything I can say to make you feel better. It takes time and grieving. I know it sucks so much. I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but if it's any help, I and hundreds of other people are also going through this right alongside you. Try to treat yourself with love and kindness at this time. Big hugs, it will get better x 1
Author gonefishin Posted February 8, 2013 Author Posted February 8, 2013 Thank you for your kind words .. I don't know if its like abandonment I'm Feeling or that she can just cut me out so easy. I so so hope she comes back .. But I know I need lots of help with issues but the worry is by the time I get my issues fixed she will be gone.. One thing with break ups I think is a little overlooked by many is how It can absolutely shatter your confidence and self worth.. All I wanna do is text and I'm so surprised I haven't done it yet But maybe in my gut feeling I know I ain't able to handle the cold response .. Feel so low right now .. I've pushed all my friends away by choice .. Think I'm going crazy ;(
Fallen Petals Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 I wish I had some good answers for you. The pain, I'm told, gets better in time. Don't trust the Facebook posts. If you looked at my FB you would think I was having a bad day here or there, but that my life is perfect, in tact, in order. I haven't even put on there that my husband has left, must less that my heart was just run through a shredder a few days ago by an entirely different man. Nope, it's all about the buy one get one free at Starbucks or how I could use another trip to the beach like winter break. She's probably in pain too, suffering withdrawals...My mom is forcing me out of the house. You'll need to do the same...you have to jump back into life or you'll prolong the grieving process. Of course, don't jump back into romance...cause if that ends quickly you're hit with the double whammy like I am going through. 1
Author gonefishin Posted February 8, 2013 Author Posted February 8, 2013 What's gas is I'm not stupid i kinda know the deal here But what's weird Is you hope someone is gonna post I'd say she will miss you and be back guarantee when you wake You'll have missed calls and texts !! Haha as if.. I know I could have fixed all these issues or at least acknowledged them and Got the help with her by my side a week or so ago...but it took her eventually giving up trying ..me loosing her to realise I needed help ... I know I sound like a broken record but its how I feel and I'll probably mortified In the morning reading this Back but if I can't be honest here what's the point.
Sari Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 What's gas is I'm not stupid i kinda know the deal here But what's weird Is you hope someone is gonna post I'd say she will miss you and be back guarantee when you wake You'll have missed calls and texts !! Haha as if.. I know I could have fixed all these issues or at least acknowledged them and Got the help with her by my side a week or so ago...but it took her eventually giving up trying ..me loosing her to realise I needed help ... I know I sound like a broken record but its how I feel and I'll probably mortified In the morning reading this Back but if I can't be honest here what's the point. Of course you can be honest on here. I feel like I would chop my hand off to have him back. My phone is my worst enemy at the moment, stupid silent blank-screened thing. I know I won't always feel like this though, and nor will you. It's early days. You've got to let it all out at this point. 1
Fallen Petals Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 Well then, there's your answer. Start using this time to work on yourself. Make yourself into the man you feel she deserves. But don't do it for her, or it's not real. Do it for you, knowing that even if you never get her back, the next girl deserves better from you.
Author gonefishin Posted February 9, 2013 Author Posted February 9, 2013 I keep hearing that do it for u or it won't work But All I think of is her .. And that's why it didn't work previous.. So why do I do the same thing but expect different results!!
Author gonefishin Posted February 9, 2013 Author Posted February 9, 2013 Thanks for the kind words and advice it does help.. It's 12.15am here and I know I won't sleep but gonna try .... Really couldn't care for tomorrow right Now.. Sorry for been so negative .. Nite all .. Hopefully someone on here has some happy stories soon !!
Author gonefishin Posted February 9, 2013 Author Posted February 9, 2013 Morning guys..Another bad nights sleep and wake up to no messages or calls! It's gas people on here saying drunk calls are breadcrumbs I'd Have been delighted with one haha Shows how bad I am I suppose...
Author gonefishin Posted February 9, 2013 Author Posted February 9, 2013 Good advice.. Just not feeling so strong myself at the moment... Foolishly hoping ...
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 FOLLOW that advice that you posted earlier!! Trust me, that works. I really wish i saw that earlier.
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