Author starla33 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Why won't she just grow a ****ing sack and tell him she isn't interested? what would you say exactly?
PhillyDude Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Why won't she just grow a ****ing sack and tell him she isn't interested? Because isn't blocking someone a lot easier?????????
kaylan Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 what would you say exactly? "Hey, I had a good time the other night...and it was night meeting you, but I dont feel that we are compatible. Youre a good guy though, so best of luck finding a great girl for you" Simple. 4
SmileFace Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 No guys should be texting or call a female between 7pm and 1am on a ssturday night unless he is planning to see her face to face. Dude,no comment.
PhillyDude Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 "Hey, I had a good time the other night...and it was night meeting you, but I dont feel that we are compatible. Youre a good guy though, so best of luck finding a great girl for you" Simple. Why say all that when she can just block him?
SmileFace Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Because isn't blocking someone a lot easier????????? Because you are a "insert needed insult"
PhillyDude Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Dude,no comment. Please tell me why my comment is inaccurate????? What reason would a guy have for talking to a girl on the phone on a sat night? What reason would he have to text a girl on a sat unless he was seeing her?
dreamingoftigers Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 If he was really a psycho, he would already know how you were doing today, he wouldn't need to text to ask it. He might ask you how you liked the extra-large bouquet of roses he sent along with the engagement ring though.
PhillyDude Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Because you are a "insert needed insult" HUH?? I don't understand
SmileFace Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 The fact that you aren't grasping anything I am saying explains tons. 1
PhillyDude Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 The fact that you aren't grasping anything I am saying explains tons. I still wanna know what is wrong with the call block feature
RogerWallace111 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 it does makes him seem like he has little going on, or few others to talk to... which isn't appealing. him liking her is fine, and looking forward to seeing her again, but i can see where the OP is coming from 1
Leigh 87 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Starla, To the majority of people, what this guy did was not that strange! I do understand though, some people feel more comfortable when a guy only sends as many messages as you send him! ...I DO wish you would be open to changing your perception. Because this guy my not be desperate!!!!!!!! You are very wrong there: I know people wish his sort of personality type, they like to send more messages than usual to people! Some guys just like to know how your doing, and to chat all day! It DOES NOT mean they are desperate, they are just not right for you. Plenty of women Starla, would really like it if they were SUPER into a guy, and he send her a little too many messages:love: I don't want some stalker weirdo texting me too often! Yet the more my current bf texted, the better I felt!
Leigh 87 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 it does makes him seem like he has little going on, or few others to talk to... which isn't appealing. him liking her is fine, and looking forward to seeing her again, but i can see where the OP is coming from There are plenty of men who have a great life, with enough friends and hobbies... They just like to text a lot! They like to regularly know how people's days are going, if they have gone on a date! Unless they are texting 10 times a day or more when your only texting once or twice, I do not see a problem...
Author starla33 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Starla, To the majority of people, what this guy did was not that strange! I do understand though, some people feel more comfortable when a guy only sends as many messages as you send him! ...I DO wish you would be open to changing your perception. Because this guy my not be desperate!!!!!!!! You are very wrong there: I know people wish his sort of personality type, they like to send more messages than usual to people! Some guys just like to know how your doing, and to chat all day! It DOES NOT mean they are desperate, they are just not right for you. Plenty of women Starla, would really like it if they were SUPER into a guy, and he send her a little too many messages:love: I don't want some stalker weirdo texting me too often! Yet the more my current bf texted, the better I felt! WHO is super into someone after a first date? That is putting all your eggs in one basket. You need to get to KNOW people before you are "super into" them. 1
kaylan Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 This thread is stupid now. Just tell him youre not interested and then have a moderator close these waste of e-space. 1
PhillyDude Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Starla, To the majority of people, what this guy did was not that strange! I do understand though, some people feel more comfortable when a guy only sends as many messages as you send him! ...I DO wish you would be open to changing your perception. Because this guy my not be desperate!!!!!!!! You are very wrong there: I know people wish his sort of personality type, they like to send more messages than usual to people! Some guys just like to know how your doing, and to chat all day! It DOES NOT mean they are desperate, they are just not right for you. Plenty of women Starla, would really like it if they were SUPER into a guy, and he send her a little too many messages:love: I don't want some stalker weirdo texting me too often! Yet the more my current bf texted, the better I felt! The difference is he is already your boyfriend
Phateless Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 so is it the fact that i like jerks kicking in or is this guy REALLY over doing it? I went on a date and was totally going to see this guy again, but he will not stop texting me the day after our first date (today). He texted me goodmorning......then something else and asked how my day is going. I ignored a text in between there and he kept going. This is too much for me after a first date and is more relationship like. Biggest fail ever. This much clinginess this early is a sign of trouble. You want someone who has enough of their own life that they can be ok with allowing you some space to have your own life as well. Even if he's a great guy he will probably smother you. 1
Easyguy14 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Starla, To the majority of people, what this guy did was not that strange! I do understand though, some people feel more comfortable when a guy only sends as many messages as you send him! ...I DO wish you would be open to changing your perception. Because this guy my not be desperate!!!!!!!! You are very wrong there: I know people wish his sort of personality type, they like to send more messages than usual to people! Some guys just like to know how your doing, and to chat all day! It DOES NOT mean they are desperate, they are just not right for you. Plenty of women Starla, would really like it if they were SUPER into a guy, and he send her a little too many messages:love: I don't want some stalker weirdo texting me too often! Yet the more my current bf texted, the better I felt! I agree. the op just doesn't really like the guy all that much or she wouldnt be complaining about texts. All it really shows is that the guy's into you.
SJC2008 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Ok so the guy is on a path toward daily contact (I read he texted her today) and they haven't even discussed a second date. So there goes the "Have a life of your own" dating rule. According to this thread you can't come on too strong or as desperate/needy; It's a BS line that really means the other person isn't into/attracted to you. This guys shooting a b-line for a insta relationship and it's as clear as day. My stance aside, I day give him a chance OP and here's why: You do have a poor choice in men and this could be an opportunity to change that and to work on some things like learning hiw to set boundaries (I think it wad dreamingof tigers that mentioned this). Just tell him "I'm glad you're showing interest but mabye we should go on some more dates and see how things progress before we have this much contact beteen dates". You don't owe him anything and if you're still not feeling it after 2-3 more dated then be honest with him. TBS I don't want you to think I'm judging you because I know as well as most people here know that I have my own issues to worry about and work on!
AH1990 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 The fact that you are continuing this shows that secretly you love it, otherwise you would just tell him to leave you alone. Yup! All the way! and yes he did just text again asking How I was doing. I've not responded to anything. Come on you guys this is ridiculous! First of all it's the weekend and I just met you. GIVE me some space. First and foremost, what you should be doing is sending him a text and letting him know that you aren't interested in him. Simple. Get it done and over with! Spare the guy and let him go find another girl. WHO is super into someone after a first date? That is putting all your eggs in one basket. You need to get to KNOW people before you are "super into" them. Some people can create chemistry and sparks can fly just after the first date. Both people are into each other in equal amounts. I want everyone to take that god dam dating do's and don'ts book and burn that b***h! There is NO set of rules for dating someone or contacting them! Oh my god! He sent me a text that had 15 words in it!! He's mental! He talks to much! Oh my god! He sent me a text that was sooo short! He must not be into me!! What you are doing here Starla33 is something called 'self-sabotaging'. You over analyze EVERYTHING! You are sabotaging this potential relationship with this guy because you can't believe that someone can actually be into you and wants to see you outside the bedroom! Anyways, my first date with the new girl is on Saturday. Hopefully I don't text her too much and make her think I'm clingy! 1
Leigh 87 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 The difference is he is already your boyfriend We texted a couple of times a day from the start. 2 - 4 texts per day O would estimate. We just wanted to know how the other was doing. Then the other would respond. Then another message and etc....
Casablanca Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 "Hey, I had a good time the other night...and it was night meeting you, but I dont feel that we are compatible. Youre a good guy though, so best of luck finding a great girl for you" Simple. Easy to do and they'll appreciate it instead of just disappearing.
e40 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 and yes he did just text again asking How I was doing. I've not responded to anything. Come on you guys this is ridiculous! First of all it's the weekend and I just met you. GIVE me some space. He failed at the mating dance. Your reaction is not at all unusual. In fact, it is very normal. I've done worse and ruined my chances with some women. 1
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