SmileFace Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 I sent a girl I like a text message about 40 mins ago and she has not replied back yet. Now why would I send another one without giving her a chance to respond to the last one??? Umm in the ops case she did reply. 1
Casablanca Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 Umm in the ops case she did reply. But then from the sounds of it to me, he kept texting her with out responding after she responded that one time. At least that is how I understood the post; granted I haven't gone through most of this thread
PhillyDude Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 Umm in the ops case she did reply. It was multiple texts after that one she responded to Any form of CMM is a back and forth thing.
SmileFace Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 him: had a great night can't wait to do it again me: for sure him: goodnight, sweet dreams! him: (morning of next day) him: goodmorning him: how is your day going? me: busy with homework etc...you? him: just working. him: hey you. how was your day?(this one was in the eve...because I didn't just tell him how my day was 2 hours ago?!) Was she suppose to reply to just working? Does not replying to just working considered not replying? 2
Imajerk17 Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 Hmmm. So sending 2 *slightly* overeager texts is too needy eh? What does a guy need to do to show to you that he isn't too needy--invite you over to his place to "hang out" (instead of planning a proper date or at least offer to drive to your neighborhood because he is too lazy so he'll have you drive to his instead)? A guy does the former and you are turned off, many guys did the latter and you went through with it--with it invariably not ending well for you. There is thread after thread after thread written by you to corroborate that. starla, I'm thinking you need to slightly recalibrate what you find attractive. Or at least, what you consider deal-breakers. 2
PhillyDude Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 him: had a great night can't wait to do it again me: for sure him: goodnight, sweet dreams! him: (morning of next day) him: goodmorning him: how is your day going? me: busy with homework etc...you? him: just working. him: hey you. how was your day?(this one was in the eve...because I didn't just tell him how my day was 2 hours ago?!) Was she suppose to reply to just working? Does not replying to just working considered not replying? His reply was nothing to respond to since it was dry. And after that dry A$$ text he should have just waited for her next text or sent another much later in the day or the following day
Casablanca Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 him: had a great night can't wait to do it again me: for sure him: goodnight, sweet dreams! him: (morning of next day) him: goodmorning him: how is your day going? me: busy with homework etc...you? him: just working. him: hey you. how was your day?(this one was in the eve...because I didn't just tell him how my day was 2 hours ago?!) Was she suppose to reply to just working? Does not replying to just working considered not replying? Completely missed this; if this was indeed the case, the the guy in question isn't really doing anything wrong. 4
SmileFace Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 His reply was nothing to respond to since it was dry. And after that dry A$$ text he should have just waited for her next text or sent another much later in the day or the following day I am sorry he is not a paranod ass like some other guys.
kaylan Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Completely missed this; if this was indeed the case, the the guy in question isn't really doing anything wrong. Duh. And he only asked her about her day a second time to follow up on asking the first time. The first time she said she was busy and doing homework. So later he asked her about her day to see how the homework went. In which case hes not clingy at all. He asked a present and past tense follow up question.
Pinky777 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Starla he doesn't sound desperate, maybe a little eager, is all. I agree it's a little annoying but worst fail ever?? Hardly! It also it also sounds like he's into you more than you're into him, even in the beginning. A couple of weeks ago I went on a date with a guy and even though it went well, I felt more of a friends vibe. The guy texted me the next morning before I even woke up and then throughout the day and like you, I was taken aback and a little annoyed. But mostly because I wasn't that into him. Last year I met a really amazing guy who I wound up falling in love with and dating for about 7 months - we talked every day and it didn't bother me in the least that he was like that because of how into him I was. You say you liked him but if just texting you too much is a turn off, you couldn't have like him that much. Doesn't make you a jerk or that you're into jerks, that is just ridicuolous. 3
kaylan Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Lol...her dating history says she likes jerks. And she even said it herself. Not that ridiculous when you consider those things lol 1
Author starla33 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 and yes he did just text again asking How I was doing. I've not responded to anything. Come on you guys this is ridiculous! First of all it's the weekend and I just met you. GIVE me some space.
miss_jaclynrae Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 and yes he did just text again asking How I was doing. I've not responded to anything. Come on you guys this is ridiculous! First of all it's the weekend and I just met you. GIVE me some space. The fact that you are continuing this shows that secretly you love it, otherwise you would just tell him to leave you alone. 3
Author starla33 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 The fact that you are continuing this shows that secretly you love it, otherwise you would just tell him to leave you alone. I don't love it and I don't want to be mean and tell him. I guess I'll have to at some point as I don't see him stopping though
miss_jaclynrae Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I don't love it and I don't want to be mean and tell him. I guess I'll have to at some point as I don't see him stopping though You can say you don't all you want... actions speak much louder than words. 3
dreamingoftigers Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 and yes he did just text again asking How I was doing. I've not responded to anything. Come on you guys this is ridiculous! First of all it's the weekend and I just met you. GIVE me some space. Hide your rabbit and get the Restraining Order and unfriend his mother of Facebook already. Either go on date two, get to know the guy, nicely set a freaking boundary or tell him to go jam with some other clam. 1
Author starla33 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 You can say you don't all you want... actions speak much louder than words. to be honest I think after one date you really don't owe anyone any explanation on why you are not interested. Maybe after 3 or so dates when you have established something then yes you definitely need to say something.
kaylan Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 to be honest I think after one date you really don't owe anyone any explanation on why you are not interested. Maybe after 3 or so dates when you have established something then yes you definitely need to say something. Would you want a guy to just ignore you after a date when hes not interested? If you ever want sympathy in this forum the next time a guy goes ghost on you after a good first date, how about being decent and just telling the guy you dont feel any vibe. I used to think you were a cool, sensible chick...but this thread kinda ruined my impression of you on the forum.
Author starla33 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Would you want a guy to just ignore you after a date when hes not interested? If you ever want sympathy in this forum the next time a guy goes ghost on you after a good first date, how about being decent and just telling the guy you dont feel any vibe. I used to think you were a cool, sensible chick...but this thread kinda ruined my impression of you on the forum. Um I've had plenty of guys ignore me after a first date. It's not a big deal, I really don't need the I'm not interested speech...you can kind of tell they aren't when they don't respond.
PhillyDude Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 and yes he did just text again asking How I was doing. I've not responded to anything. Come on you guys this is ridiculous! First of all it's the weekend and I just met you. GIVE me some space. I don't call or text anyone between 7pm and 12am on a saturday night unless 1. We have a date scheduled
Author starla33 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 I don't call or text anyone between 7pm and 12am on a saturday night unless 1. We have a date scheduled I'm on west coast actually
PhillyDude Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I don't love it and I don't want to be mean and tell him. I guess I'll have to at some point as I don't see him stopping though Won't you just sign up for the $5.99 block feature? I have that and can block any female I no longer want to talk to
Author starla33 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Won't you just sign up for the $5.99 block feature? I have that and can block any female I no longer want to talk to Thats pretty extreme. I've never really needed to block anyone...well maybe a few exes, but ignoring works just as well
SmileFace Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Won't you just sign up for the $5.99 block feature? I have that and can block any female I no longer want to talk to Why won't she just grow a ****ing sack and tell him she isn't interested? 2
PhillyDude Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I'm on west coast actually No guys should be texting or call a female between 7pm and 1am on a ssturday night unless he is planning to see her face to face.
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