Author starla33 Posted February 9, 2013 Author Share Posted February 9, 2013 PS - asking someone how their day is, is RUN OF THE MILL convo. Perfect strangers have asked someone that when getting to know them....even in *gasp* FIRST TIME CONVERSATIONS. And youre whining because he asked after a date? Just know, if you whine about any guys in the future, Im soooo not letting you live down this thread. This is the one time youll really see me stick up for the "nice guy". I never do that on LS...so people can really tell something is off with this thre Ok why don't you go get clingy on a chick after a first date and see how she reacts. It's not NICE it's clingy. Nice is saying you had a great time and want to do it again. Clingy is asking twice in one day how your day is going especially after someone says they are busy. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 Haha wow rude much? I don't like clingy that freaks me out and brings me back to his ex he talked about on the date and how psycho she sounded(made him send pictures of where he was at because she didn't trust men). Yet he stayed with her for years....it all makes sense to me now. Tell me what NORMAL guy would stay with this? I mean I would have let that fact go if he didn't go clingy texting....but now it all makes sense to me. Hes not clingy. Youre simply disinterested and obviously attracted to men that dont work with you..youre posting history says as much. Tell me what normal girl calls a guy clingy because he keeps up regular text convo. If he wasnt normal...why were you going to go out with him again if it wasnt for his texts? You obviously didnt have a problem with the ex stuff until the few texts he sent? Are you just fishing for reasons to justify being to sensitive to contact. Dont put the guy down as if youre so normal. If hes not normal, than neither are you. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 Ok why don't you go get clingy on a chick after a first date and see how she reacts. It's not NICE it's clingy. Nice is saying you had a great time and want to do it again. Clingy is asking twice in one day how your day is going especially after someone says they are busy. Its clingy to follow up with someone later when they say they are busy? If he asks you how your day is, and you blow him off with "im busy" why is it clingy for him to follow up later when he thinks youre not busy. You have issues girl. All I know is that if you liked him, and wanted to screw him, you wouldnt have taken issue with any of this stuff. Please continue dating as per usual...so you can come here and create threads regarding your taste in bad guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Author starla33 Posted February 9, 2013 Author Share Posted February 9, 2013 Hes not clingy. Youre simply disinterested and obviously attracted to men that dont work with you..youre posting history says as much. Tell me what normal girl calls a guy clingy because he keeps up regular text convo. If he wasnt normal...why were you going to go out with him again if it wasnt for his texts? You obviously didnt have a problem with the ex stuff until the few texts he sent? Are you just fishing for reasons to justify being to sensitive to contact. Dont put the guy down as if youre so normal. If hes not normal, than neither are you. I have never said I was normal, i'm a total weirdo. I want a relationship, i want cute texts in a relationship, but I don't want cute texts after 3 hours of meeting someone that I barely know, have not kissed or even touched! Sorry, but that is just ridiculous to me. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 ^Well Im sorry that the guy actually liked you. Please go back to dating guys who stop talking to you after you dont have sex on the 3rd date. Or the guys who only want you for sex and have to remind you that they only want sex. By all means go back to the guys who make it apparent they dont like you that much and dont want a relationship. But dont put this current dude down. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author starla33 Posted February 9, 2013 Author Share Posted February 9, 2013 ^Well Im sorry that the guy actually liked you. Please go back to dating guys who stop talking to you after you dont have sex on the 3rd date. Or the guys who only want you for sex and have to remind you that they only want sex. By all means go back to the guys who make it apparent they dont like you that much and dont want a relationship. But dont put this current dude down. OH my god you just DO NOT get it. This is not considered NICE or TOO NICE. It's considered clingy and going way too fast. But whatever keep on thinking I'm the bad one here. Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 (edited) People who like and click with each other do. Go ahead and let bad dudes use you for sex I dont normally lash out at people, but this thread is freaking stupid. Youre shaming a guy for daring to like you and daring to communicate with you? Next time you really like a guy, and he barely talks to you after your date, remember how you talked about this fellow in this thread. Im so glad I know how to spot women like you at my age. I know which girls to avoid when seeking a woman to treat well. Lord knows I wouldnt want to be nice to someone and have them crap talk me online for the littlest thing. Dam Kaylan I never dreamed of you typing those words lol! The guy came on too strong point blank! Everyone here knows he did but wanna gang up on OP because of her history. Well this thread aint about her history it's about an opinion on the amount of texts this guy sent her the day after her date. Edited February 9, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator correction Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 He didnt come on too strong. He was perfectly normal. And Ive texted A LOT more with girls after a date. The difference was that the girls were actually into me. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 Starla and PhillyDude are a match made in heaven. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 Did he boil your rabbit or invite you to meet his mother? Jeez. Doesn't sound psycho to me. lol.....i went out with a guy actually thinking about it two that took me out to meet their mother......one of them was a fifteen year relationship the other lasted three months.....they both were not psycho...... boiling rabbits,only if it is they are cooking rabbit friccasee,even then..... i think eating rabbit is useless pointless and ....just cant do it, i am turning vegan moving to a farm soon......i cant kill animals...so vegan deb..and i am certified crazy or was....some people you cant tell by the first date.....ok...most guys can tell i am left of center..... i also think the guy was just being invested op, nothing wrong with that you can ttell if a person is psycho on a first date..........deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AH1990 Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 Yeah I'm with you on this. I was with everyone else and thinking op was being waay too harsh...until I saw the "are you ignoring me?" text. Honestly peoples, how are you supposed respond to that?: "well I wasn't until you handed me your self esteem all warm and jiggly on a plate but i'm sure as hell going to now!" ? Thats a lot of pressure for validation after one date isn't it? That text was never sent to the OP. I just put it in my post to prove a point as to what clingy is. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
AH1990 Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 (edited) People who like and click with each other do. Go ahead and let bad dudes use you for sex I dont normally lash out at people, but this thread is freaking stupid. Youre shaming a guy for daring to like you and daring to communicate with you? Next time you really like a guy, and he barely talks to you after your date, remember how you talked about this fellow in this thread. Im so glad I know how to spot women like you at my age. I know which girls to avoid when seeking a woman to treat well. Lord knows I wouldnt want to be nice to someone and have them crap talk me online for the littlest thing. Yeah, I'm going to back you 100% on this. I agree with everything that is being said. I have never said I was normal, i'm a total weirdo. I want a relationship, i want cute texts in a relationship, but I don't want cute texts after 3 hours of meeting someone that I barely know, have not kissed or even touched! Sorry, but that is just ridiculous to me. That text that he sent was NOT a cute text! A cute text would be something along the lines of him calling you cupcake or saying you had beautiful eyes. Perhaps he should have sent you a text asking what time your legs were opened. Maybe then he'd get some positive response from you I'm not going to apologize for being rash and too 'out there' in my posts, but $hit like this is what pisses me off! The guy is interested in you!!! The ONLY reason why he is coming across as CLINGY is because you don't have ANY interest in him whatsoever. So, how about you text him BACK and say you AREN'T interested in him, instead of playing stupid senseless mind games and continue to let this go on further. Here's an example, and this is usually always how it plays out for guys like this: Guy #1 (you think he's totally 'hot'): He sends you a text the next morning saying 'good morning' and instantly it makes you quiver like a school girl who has her first crush Guy #2 (average lookin' fella, genuinely interested in you and pays attention to what you had to say on the date): He sends you a text the next morning saying 'good morning' and all you think to yourself is; OMG HE'S CREEPY AND CLINGLY! WHY CAN'T HE GET A LIFE! Little do you know is that Guy #2 is interested in you and what you have to say, while Guy #1 just cares about getting your panties on the floor and pumping the $hit out of you. You're a peace of meat to that guy! Continue to date the jerks, my guess is those are the types of guys you're best suited for. Edited February 9, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 (edited) Starla, excuse my being rude before on the last last page. I just dont agree with your position on the matter. Its your life. And youre an adult. Enjoy. *shrug-zies* Edited February 9, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AH1990 Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 He sounds sweet... send him my way! lol Seems like this guy has a chance with Phoe. I'd rather try my hand at dating a women than a girl. Link to post Share on other sites
Author starla33 Posted February 9, 2013 Author Share Posted February 9, 2013 Yeah, I'm going to back you 100% on this. I agree with everything that is being said. That text that he sent was NOT a cute text! A cute text would be something along the lines of him calling you cupcake or saying you had beautiful eyes. Perhaps he should have sent you a text asking what time your legs were opened. Maybe then he'd get some positive response from you I'm not going to apologize for being rash and too 'out there' in my posts, but $hit like this is what pisses me off! The guy is interested in you!!! The ONLY reason why he is coming across as CLINGY is because you don't have ANY interest in him whatsoever. So, how about you text him BACK and say you AREN'T interested in him, instead of playing stupid senseless mind games and continue to let this go on further. Here's an example, and this is usually always how it plays out for guys like this: Guy #1 (you think he's totally 'hot'): He sends you a text the next morning saying 'good morning' and instantly it makes you quiver like a school girl who has her first crush Guy #2 (average lookin' fella, genuinely interested in you and pays attention to what you had to say on the date): He sends you a text the next morning saying 'good morning' and all you think to yourself is; OMG HE'S CREEPY AND CLINGLY! WHY CAN'T HE GET A LIFE! Little do you know is that Guy #2 is interested in you and what you have to say, while Guy #1 just cares about getting your panties on the floor and pumping the $hit out of you. You're a peace of meat to that guy! Continue to date the jerks, my guess is those are the types of guys you're best suited for. I WAS interested. I WAS going to see him again (i can't tell after one date and I don't get invested so fast these days which I think is very smart to do). He over did it and that is my stance, it killed any attraction I did have to him because to me that screams desperate. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 I WAS interested. I WAS going to see him again (i can't tell after one date and I don't get invested so fast these days which I think is very smart to do). He over did it and that is my stance, it killed any attraction I did have to him because to me that screams desperate. I have to say this, if you were truly attracted to the guy, you would have been overjoyed he texted you again so soon, if you had that connection you would have smiled your face off every time he texted,been checking the phone, hoping he texts you, the guy isnt desperate for texting you like he did, you are looking for excuses, you said you dont get invested, but there is something in you that doesn't find him attractive enough, his keenness to communicate with you shows he feels more for you than you do for him, in my opinion...guys who dont reply to texts, they dont reply because they aren't interested, if they are they reply,if you really did like the guy, him communicating would make you happy , not wanting to run or ignore his texts, don't blame the guy fro you not being attracted to him, find a guy you are attracted to and then you will see what i mean and if you hav ea guy who isnt texting you back , you will feel the way the guy feels who sent you frequent texts..dont blame him for liking you, he is not desperate for doing so..................best wishes..........deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Necris Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 I WAS interested. I WAS going to see him again (i can't tell after one date and I don't get invested so fast these days which I think is very smart to do). He over did it and that is my stance, it killed any attraction I did have to him because to me that screams desperate. Saying good morning, and a couple of other texts is over doing it? My guess is that truthfully you just aren't into him, and you really want the guys you normally date. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GMG90 Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 I have never said I was normal, i'm a total weirdo. I want a relationship, i want cute texts in a relationship, but I don't want cute texts after 3 hours of meeting someone that I barely know, have not kissed or even touched! Sorry, but that is just ridiculous to me. Woah woah woah. You don't like him ... If I were to go on a date with someone and they texted me 3 hours after, I would be elated knowing there's a connection. I don't know about it being too fast either. Too fast for me is having sex the first night ... But hey, if him being chirpy isn't making you happy then it's best you stop. Don't tell him he texts too much or then this will all die in a bad way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author starla33 Posted February 9, 2013 Author Share Posted February 9, 2013 Woah woah woah. You don't like him ... If I were to go on a date with someone and they texted me 3 hours after, I would be elated knowing there's a connection. I don't know about it being too fast either. Too fast for me is having sex the first night ... But hey, if him being chirpy isn't making you happy then it's best you stop. Don't tell him he texts too much or then this will all die in a bad way. No i said he only hung out with me for 3 hours. I liked the text he sent after (which was ENOUGH). but he kept going into the morning...and then all day today Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 If people want to know why I don't like trying to approach and be assertive with women, this thread is exhibit A. Link to post Share on other sites
Author starla33 Posted February 9, 2013 Author Share Posted February 9, 2013 If people want to know why I don't like trying to approach and be assertive with women, this thread is exhibit A. Honestly approaching and asking someone out is completely different. This has nothing to do with that FYI 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 Honestly approaching and asking someone out is completely different. This has nothing to do with that FYI What are the texts he sent to you exactly and what were you replies? Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 Honestly approaching and asking someone out is completely different. This has nothing to do with that FYI It does. There's that unsure time between the first few dates and actually being a couple that is very difficult to navigate. Contact her too much and boom, you're out of there because you're too clingy. Contact too little? You obviously don't want to see her again and aren't interested (in her mind). It's too difficult. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author starla33 Posted February 9, 2013 Author Share Posted February 9, 2013 It does. There's that unsure time between the first few dates and actually being a couple that is very difficult to navigate. Contact her too much and boom, you're out of there because you're too clingy. Contact too little? You obviously don't want to see her again and aren't interested (in her mind). It's too difficult. it is not difficult at all. you just ask her on dates. that is ALL you need to do really the first few dates. After sex yeah you need to step it up. Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 it is not difficult at all. you just ask her on dates. that is ALL you need to do really the first few dates. After sex yeah you need to step it up. And how much contact in between those dates is acceptable to you? Link to post Share on other sites
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