gravi1 Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 I know this may sound like an old sobb story but, I just have a curiosity about why the girl I broke up with still texts me. I broke up with my girlfriend a month ago over a very nasty and disturbing issue,I decided it was the last straw although I haven't caught her in the act,but her cell would be off and her whereabouts unknown to me.This happened several times. Repeated pleas and discussions even argument did not do anything to change this. I felt it was very rude of her and that she does not care for or respect my feelings. Her repeated actions and silly excuses have convinced me that she does see someone else. I told her its over, but just had a tough time cutting contact with her, because of the hurt,anger frustration and rejection etc. I wanted answers which of-course I can't get. I can however scrape together some guts to avoid contacting her for a number of days, but often this feeling gets too overwhelming it feels like I have no self respect or descipline, I end up sending really messy texts or small girl weeping texts which feel bad afterward, but I justify it. I don't answer her calls and she calls only sometimes, but she does text everyday several times. The thing that really pests but interests is why does she keep sending texts and insist that she loves me and wants me back. She says she has never been with anyone else and makes extravagant promises about change etc. I do reply. I told her that I want to know the persons name that she sees and how many times (it really sounds stupid and crazy asking this) but I reasoned that if she tells me it would mean that she is genuine. She however denies ever having seen someone else. I really would like to know what that means, why does she put so much effort to text and tell these lies (I call them lies for lack of better definition). Its not that I want to take her back, I love her and I would really like to be with her, but I feel its so unfair that she spoiled our thing by bringing in someone else or some other men, its just the hurt part and the constant nagging thoughts of her that I cant stand.I also wouldnt want to put myself in a situation where I would do something really bad if it happens again after I take her back, and it will just be exposing myself to being abused again. It just interest me why someone would do that knowing full well what they did and why it ended.
jazze Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 She texts you because she misses you and probably still wants to be in a relationship with you. If her attitude bothers you so much, just end it for good.
Author gravi1 Posted February 8, 2013 Author Posted February 8, 2013 Thanks for reply, but dear friend can you please ellaborate a bit.
GingerVixen Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 My friend , I'm sorry, but you're messing with the girl's head and then you don't want her to contact you? First: are you really sure she's cheated on you? Do you have evidence? 2nd: Look at what you just said. "I end up sending really messy texts or small girl weeping texts which feel bad afterward, but I justify it. " For God's sake. She reads your messages and thinks "well in the end I believe he wants me back". And I won't blame her, ANY SENSIBLE PERSON would come to this conclusion. You send messages to her then when she talks to you, you act as if you don't care? And then now you tell us you love her but you don't want her back and then you post this ? What are you trying to do to her? What do you really want? If you want this girl to stay away from you for good, please be honest to her and say it to her, clearly. Acting this way is pretty much dishonest. You're acting like a player , I'm not saying you're one, but you're acting as if you're only waiting for her to beg for your attention, you give her minimal doses of affection (your messages), she thinks you're available to talk , she talks to you and then you ignore her? That's such a bad attitude. I don't know if mean to do it, but that's seriously a bad attitude. If you want her back, take her back. If not, just be a man and tell her.
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