fallenheart Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 A while back a girl on a free dating website sent me a message, saying she liked my profile. We messaged back a forth a few times, but I had to go out of town for the holidays. When I got back I wrote again and she apologized, telling me she had just met someone and started dating and was deleting her account. I told her that's fine, but there's no reason we couldn't be friends, and maybe she could introduce me to some of her single friends in real life. After all, I'd prefer that to a dating website anyway. She seemed to like that idea and even sent me a photo of one of her friends, and she's really cute. But she wants to meet me first before recommending me to anyone. That makes sense to me! So I'm meeting this girl tomorrow. We're having drinks/dinner at a bar near my place. But it's not a date, cause she told me she is already dating someone. So my question is....how should I act? Obviously I don't want to be flirtatious cause she's already got a new guy and I don't want to seem like a creep. But I don't want to come off as a super-boring, overly-nice wishy-washy dork either. Girls hate that. Ladies, if you have any ideas on how I should present myself, I'd really like to hear them. Feels like this is a job interview. Any advice is appreciated!
ASG Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 Make a move and see what happens (by this, I mean try kiss to her at least). What?!?!? This is the worst possible advice, ever!! Just be yourself, be funny, witty, fun. How do you act with your friends? DO the same! It's really not that difficult!
Author fallenheart Posted February 8, 2013 Author Posted February 8, 2013 (edited) Thank you ASG for actually reading what I wrote before you responded, unlike maverick. Yeah, obviously the idea would be myself, by funny, etc. But I feel like the way I act with my friends might be too abrasive or "open" for a girl I just met. But if I'm sitting there actively trying to be overly-polite don't you think that will turn a girl off? I'm not good at this. If I'm too "nice" girls think I'm boring and "safe" and nothing more than a friend. If I act the way I do around my guy friends I'm a lot funnier and a hell of a lot more interesting, but girls might be turned off. Girls are SOOOO fickle. You say just ONE wrong thing, and she'll write you off forever. It's a balancing act, especially when first impressions are concerned. I've heard so many times girls say something like "It was all going fine til he mentioned his mother and then I just wanted to leave!" or "He was perfect until he gave a dirty look at a loud baby and then I never wanted to see him again!" Women's expectations are ridiculous. Edited February 8, 2013 by fallenheart
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