Grendelsmom Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 (edited) He broke up with me in oct. I think he fell out of love because he seemed extremely distant and cold a few days before and after the breakup. I never made an attempt to reconcile but i did force him to explain what went wrong (in retrospect..a mistake!) he knew the breakup affected me because i lost a lot of weight due to the stress. I respected his decision, swallowed my sorrow and let him go. Things were moving along.. and then he calls in the dead of the night saying that he misses hearing my voice. I fell for it back then because i was still very vulnerable...so much that i started hoping that we might reconcile. He would text me frequently abt funny anecdotes and forwards and he loved having generic conversations abt stuff. he shared things abt his family and what went on in his life.this went on for a month and a half Then we met for a movie..he tried holding my hand and kissed me. I broke down and cried.. because i yearned for it for so long. he whispered to me.. "dont worry..im there" then for a few days he blew hot and cold and i went completely NC on him. i came to know through a friend that he was pissed off about that. 2 months of no contact made me stronger... but then his friend msgd me he asked me why i blocked him completely. when i explained my reasons he said... why cant u guys get back together? what if he asks you out again.. this he said on two different occasions.. the friend said that my ex and he were drinking and he bared his soul to him about our relationship.. the friend wasnt ready to reveal anymore details but he kept telling me to give it another shot it seems like all my hard work has gone down the drain because im thinking about him again... what do you guys think? Edited February 8, 2013 by Grendelsmom forgot a detail
KoKo0 Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 but then his friend msgd me he asked me why i blocked him completely. when i explained my reasons he said... why cant u guys get back together? what if he asks you out again.. this he said on two different occasions.. the friend said that my ex and he were drinking and he bared his soul to him about our relationship.. the friend wasnt ready to reveal anymore details but he kept telling me to give it another shot Why is his friend doing his work for him? I think if he has something to say he should let you know, not scoop up information from a 3rd person. You need to act mature about this, and so does he. If he wants to work things out he would make a gesture. Hope all is well.
Author Grendelsmom Posted February 8, 2013 Author Posted February 8, 2013 i know i have never let him know how i feel about him after the NC period... but it really hurts inside.. because all you want is to be with the person.. and it really kills me..
williamshakespeare Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 (edited) I don't trust your ex. He's probably having his friend do his dirty work. I wouldn't risk re-initiating anything. You've done some healing; most likely you'll end up back at square one. Don't do it! Edited February 8, 2013 by williamshakespeare typo
CC12 Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 what do you guys think? I think his friend should not have meddled. I don't know if your boyfriend put him up to it, or if the friend just thought it would be a great idea to put ideas in your head, but either way, what he did is not okay. It was actually really terrible of him. I know it's hard, but try to stop thinking about it. It shouldn't have happened. Forget about it unless your ex actually speaks to you himself.
meeji Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 i agree with the other posters. If this person wants you back, he can't rely on others to get the message across to you. They will do what is necessary to let you know how they really feel if they really want you to know. Ignore it. He say she say means nothing at this point. I know that isn't what you want to hear but I think it is the truth. until something lights a fire under your ex's ass, he's going to quietly sit on his hands and and do nothing. Until then, keep pressing forward. We're all here going through the same thing so take comfort in the fact that you are not alone. You night not have your ex back in your life but at least you have people that can relate to how you feel and we are wishing you the best. 1
gravi1 Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 I think your ex's friend has it in for the both of you, by doing what he did he is getting back at both of you. I think he's had an eye on you since you were still with your ex. I also hesitantly think if he is trying to bring you two together again, he possibly was the one that advised your ex to leave you in the first place. Your ex is not serious about having you back,he most probably has very selfish intentions at the most, he should be man enough if he genuinely wants you back.His friend is poison and you better NC both of them. Let the man come to you sincerely not through his friend thats second class.
Author Grendelsmom Posted February 9, 2013 Author Posted February 9, 2013 thank you so much everyone.. deep down i hope he was sincere...but yea.. im gonna push forward
grace777 Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 I agree with most of the posts here. If he wants you back, he need to be the one to tell you so. Until then, do nothing. Ignore it as best you can and keep moving forward. Man it must be hard though, I'm sure your mind is spinning a mile a minute creating all kinds of scenarios to explain the situation. But stop your mind in it's tracks. Change your focus. You're doing well. Keep doing well. If he wants you back, it's gonna take more than idle gossip to get you, right?
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