spookyteenwitch Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 My ex broke up with me two weeks ago. we're both in college and we go to the same school. I've been taking it pretty bad. Because he was my only friend and the only person i talk to. I see him around campus and i literally just want to cry. he wants to be friends but when we hang out as friends we end up having sex and he tells me he loves me but for some reason he feel that im not the one . I literally am hurting so bad and idk how to deal with this. hes my first boyfriend in college and i just really want him back and i want his friendship i just want him to love me the way i love him. I literally adore him, his flaws, everything. I can't even imagine seeing him with anyone else. im so lonely these days :/
Ruby Slippers Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 I'm sorry about your breakup. Breakups always suck. And when you haven't been through many of them, it can feel like the world is ending. But trust me, it's not. Because he was my only friend and the only person i talk to. You need to make some friends - female ones. I'm an introvert and don't have the easiest time making friends. But it was basically impossible NOT to make friends in college. And some of my best friends 15 years later are a few of those college friends. he wants to be friends but when we hang out as friends we end up having sex and he tells me he loves me but for some reason he feel that im not the one . You need to go totally No Contact. And definitely don't have sex with him anymore! That's extremely disrespectful to yourself, and it's only going to delay the healing process. Read the guides on this forum about No Contact and why it's such a good idea. I broke up with someone about a month ago, and have had ZERO contact with him since then, even though I really, really wanted to hear his voice at times. I ignored his calls and didn't contact him at all. As long as you keep seeing him, you're not going to begin getting over him. I literally am hurting so bad and idk how to deal with this Many colleges offer free or low-cost counseling. Look into it. Do you have family or friends you can call? You need to talk and vent about your feelings to someone. And let yourself cry and get the pain out. If you don't, it'll just plague you. You can also write about your feelings in a journal. Anytime I felt like talking to my ex in the past month, I wrote out what I was thinking, and it really helped just to get it all out of my head and on paper. hes my first boyfriend in college and i just really want him back and i want his friendship i just want him to love me the way i love him. I'm sorry to tell you this, but he didn't love you before, and he never will. You need to accept that. The good news is that college campuses are swarming with guys who want to date college girls like you. Get yourself busy with your studies and fun things with new friends, and as soon as you feel ready, start going on some dates again. I was involuntarily thinking about my ex every night and morning, UNTIL I planned a date - for tomorrow night - with someone else. NOW I'm thinking about that guy I don't think he's gonna shape up to be "the one", but at least we can have a fun evening together and some good conversation. Now that I'm thinking about someone other than my ex, I'm feeling much, much stronger and ready to truly move on. You'll be OK. *hug* 1
KoKo0 Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 Stop having sex with him ... simple as that. He's having his cake and eating it too ... Don't put yourself in that position.
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