denxnis Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 I'm not sure if it's stress, being sick, or the fact that I still miss what my ex and I used to have but I have been wondering this for the past few weeks... I have school, a job, and I have family and feel as if I am spoiled by these blessings; yet I find myself sitting in my room or in class wondering why did I wake up today? What is life's purpose? I know there is no correct answer but it would really help to hear how other people feel about this subject, especially after going through a break-up.
stevie_23 Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 It’s been 2 months since my ex left me and 6 weeks since we’ve had any contact at all. It’s ok for me getting up in the mornings now, but for a while it was the hardest time of day. I’d wake up feeling flat, depressed, numb and then something would hit me and I’d cry. Nowadays…I am sleeping well, and I wake up feeling ok. I luxuriate in bed for a while before getting up. I’d PREFER to sleep later than I do, but I have to get ready for work. I don’t enjoy my job, admittedly, but it’s something to do and somewhere to go I guess. Better (for now) than hanging around at home all day, lost and restless. Basically I get out of bed because I have to. To go to work. But I don’t MIND getting out of bed because I do also expect to experience some moments of happiness, pleasure and enjoyment during the day and I can’t really do that if I stay in bed all day, can I?
ow9 Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 I agree. I have so many blessings in my life, yet one "bad" thought trumps 100 good. There's no other way to describe it but exhausting. You're not alone. I don't want to walk into work another day with my eyes swollen from crying. But maybe it can only get better from here? I try to keep telling myself something better awaits. You're a good person: something better is waiting. I don't know if that makes you feel any better, but I tell myself that. And day by day, I hope I'll see it come true. Keep your head up darlin'.
Mayfare Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 Because I like to prove to myself that I don't need him and can be happy without him. I definitely got lost in our relationship. For two years, I saw my friends less, went out less, and didn't live life to its fullest. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love and miss him, but I lost myself while we were together. I've always been kind of a "wild child" and I became a total type-A personality/major stress freak during our relationship, always planning and controlling things. Now, I see my friends every day and most nights, and I try to be the fun-loving and care-free girl I used to be, and for at least some part of every day I let myself be happy.
Addison312 Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 If I'm not going to work that day, I get up to feed my animal, then go pee and make myself a cup of hot tea whilst staring out the window for 15 minutes. At that time I decide what I want to eat for breakfast and any errands I need/want to run. And while lots of sleep is good, we weren't handed lives to lay around in bed all day.
Author denxnis Posted February 8, 2013 Author Posted February 8, 2013 Thank you for the responses all. Seeing someone walk out of my life so easily just makes you wonder if it's worth trying to find someone else only to have the same thing happen again when that "spark" fades. With ~7 billion people on earth it's difficult to see your life as significant; if you disappeared would it really make that much of a difference in the world? How do you stand above the crowd and actually leave the world a better place than it was when you entered it? Is it normal to feel this way at 24? Maybe I am just going through a quarter life crisis...
GingerVixen Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 I'm not sure if it's stress, being sick, or the fact that I still miss what my ex and I used to have but I have been wondering this for the past few weeks... I have school, a job, and I have family and feel as if I am spoiled by these blessings; yet I find myself sitting in my room or in class wondering why did I wake up today? What is life's purpose? I know there is no correct answer but it would really help to hear how other people feel about this subject, especially after going through a break-up. It's just the fact that you miss your ex. When you find a new love, this feeling will disappear.
gonefishin Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 I'm not great at practising what I preach But you got to get out and try live your life.. Here's a bit of logic for you Imagine your ex seen you right now .. Do you think She wouldn't spot how sad and uninterested in life you are ! Or imagine she sees someone that's got on with things has a bit of confidence and swagger about them.. Remember that the sad person that you currently are isn't the person she fell In love with .. Get back to yourself soon... It ain't easy but you don't have much choice ..
BarbecueMan666 Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 Haha, sorry to giggle, but this thought wouldn't escape my mind for days! You'll have horrible thoughts, you'll feel pain - you'll also probably feel lost, hopeless and lonely. The sooner you realize you're going to feel these things, the better you'll be. Breakups suck, and without getting too technical - when in love your brain produces a drug that literally acts like "A very happy drug!" - And when the breakup happens - the brain is still lingering with this drug, hence the shock factor where you don't really feel it. - Then that feeling occurs, it's literally the same as coming down off a very uplifting drug, so what you're feeling is something your brain hasn't been used to for a while - dealing with life without that happy drug. You're not worse off, you're not in a really bad situation - it's literally a chemical imbalance right now. The scientific approach helped me reason things out a little more logically, and I hope it helps you too.
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