Estate Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 Hey, So I'd like opinions on this. I met a girl for a first date on Friday... went awesome, we both seemed to have a good time and ended up making out (a lot). We flirted a bit the next two days and then late on Monday she asked to get together that night. I genuinely wasn't able to so I told her, lets do tomorrow. After that she took ages to respond and finally replied saying she was busy then. I got in touch yesterday again and she says she'd like to meet up but its "been a busy week and weekend plans are up in the air" so I have no definites. What do people think here? Date went well, lots of flirting after, right up until I couldn't meet that night. I kinda figured she had high interest up to that but any attempt to set another night is not getting me anything set in stone so maybe a little confused why she went cold so quick. She might have other stuff on or be genuinely busy, who knows. But what do you all think... should I keep following up to get another date or just accept it she is flaking a bit on me now? Thanks!
2sure Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 Depending on how you declined her invitation for Monday...she might be miffed. I'd give her another try and if she can't accept tell her to call you when she frees up.
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 (edited) Suspect it's a very busy calendar. You said you had a great date, and she asked you to get together again. So, she seems to have some interest. Since her weekend is up in the air, I'm guessing you're one of several options. She suggested the free day that she had for the follow-up date, because otherwise she knew it would be a while. That's my read. Of course I could be totally wrong. Also possible she has changed her mind since asking you out. I would call...not text. During the conversation, say: I'd like to go on another date with you. When are you free? If she can't give you a concrete date, even several weeks out, then she's changed her mind and is no longer interested. Stop trying. If you get something on the calendar, good. Take it from there without reading too much into things at this point. Edited February 8, 2013 by Cutiepie1976
Divasu Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 I agree with 2sure. Think of it this way, you guys made out, she asked you out afterwards and you said no even though you were genuinely busy. I wouldn't blow you off the map based on one unavailability but if/when a pattern begins to emerge, things take on a different light. Or, she could just be busy too. Sadly, schedules don't always align.
Geiss Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 I had the exact same thing happen to me, I made a post about it earlier. It almost sounds identical. She was all flirty with me and kissing me and everything and we went out and the date went well and we kissed some more. Then when I asked her for a 2nd date it all went south and in the end I told her to F off. I did apologize afterwards since I said it in the heat of the moment and was drunk too. I would recommend not telling her to F off. Unless you really want to screw up your chances.
Author Estate Posted February 9, 2013 Author Posted February 9, 2013 Yeah. Obviously she was just really busy or that can sometimes be a blowoff, sometimes I know how to tell but in this case I felt mayb I should keep persuing. Anyway, long story short, looks like we're going out over the weekend. Good times!
PhillyDude Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 Hey, So I'd like opinions on this. I met a girl for a first date on Friday... went awesome, we both seemed to have a good time and ended up making out (a lot). We flirted a bit the next two days and then late on Monday she asked to get together that night. I genuinely wasn't able to so I told her, lets do tomorrow. After that she took ages to respond and finally replied saying she was busy then. I got in touch yesterday again and she says she'd like to meet up but its "been a busy week and weekend plans are up in the air" so I have no definites. What do people think here? Date went well, lots of flirting after, right up until I couldn't meet that night. I kinda figured she had high interest up to that but any attempt to set another night is not getting me anything set in stone so maybe a little confused why she went cold so quick. She might have other stuff on or be genuinely busy, who knows. But what do you all think... should I keep following up to get another date or just accept it she is flaking a bit on me now? Thanks! Come on, a girl uses busy as a easy way out lol 1
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