Moondust Posted August 28, 2004 Posted August 28, 2004 Hey dudes, First time here and I really hope I'll get some answers. Here's my story... I've met this wonderful girl last year in College and we finally got together in early june. Things were great but we live apart in 2 distant cities and both don't have a mean of transportation when we want to see each other. So we spent the summer talkin' thru the phone. After about 1½ month, we finally got to see eachother and went shopping. Everything seemed fine until the end of the day where, before leaving for home, I tried to kiss her. She simply "avoided" my lips and, instead, leaned on my chest... would have been the same thing to be knocked out by Mike Tyson... I called her that night to ask why she avoided me and she told me she wasn't comfortable. (We got together about 2 months after she broke with her boyfriend.) She needed time to think and to be alone. I offered her my help to deal with this and she prefered not to... So, even if I wasn't totally cool with that, I let her go. Thing is, the day before we started our new semester she called to see if I'd be überpissed at her or if we're cool. Told her that we're cool... She then asked me how I'd react if she'd take me in her arms... Told her that "friends don't do that"... and she said "Oh of course not..." Why ask then you know ? She also told me she still had a thing for me... (and obviously I do too). The day after, we met and she was freakin' pretty dudes... she's 5'3", auburn hairs, green eyes a nice small body and she wore a chinese blouse... In other circumstances I'd hit on her but... she needs her time. We had dinner, talked a bit and I told her that once she'd clear her mind about what's bothering her, that I'd be willing to try again. Thing is, she seemed cold just like when we first had time for ourselves (like she was holding back on me). And that's making me freak out... I've tried to date other girls... but I'm "not into it" enough for that to work. I haven't given her any ultimatums, I'm not rushing her either but what I'm trying to do is to remind her "indirectly" that I'm still there... and that she "could" lose me to some other lady. So, I need tips... how to safely get her back before she throws herself in the arms of some jerk ?
rach2354 Posted August 29, 2004 Posted August 29, 2004 I know it sucks right now, but it's going to take time. While you're waiting for her to be ready I don't think it would be wrong to like send her flowers or something. Make her feel special, but don't do too much, you know what I mean? I guess it's just going to take some time, but only wait for her if you truly think that she's worth it. P.S. sorry to be annoying, but do you think you could look at my post? I could really use a guys opinion! GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!!
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