Beachbabe9109 Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 my bf and i have been dating 8 months. he used to call me everyday on his way home from work. now he doesn't. at all. he's fine in person but other than that we barely talk. well thursday i had a doctor apt that he knew was concerning me. he didn't call to ask about it. So I called him and he told me he was only half listening and talking bc he was playing a video game. and he was still talking to the friends via his console while on the phone with me. he was also off that day but said he couldnt go with me to the apt, which i understand bc i know what he had to do, but he wont tell me he was off that day, he beats around the bush. and last night i called him, upset, bad day, wanted to meet with him. he had said we['d meet up for dinner if he got off early one night this week. he got off early last night. he said he had already made plans with his friend though. i told him i needed to talk to him. he said he had given him his word (he had given me his word a few days ago...) and said maybe we could meet after. well he texted me later saying no. so basically im hurt. i don't expect constant communication, but I do expect some... and dont tell me to initiate it with him, i do text him first sometimes and i cant call him because he gets off at different times everyday, depending. so is it ok to bring this concern up or am i being silly?
TaraMaiden Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 Is he expecting you? have you actually 'made' this appointment with him? Is he waiting for you to turn up?
Author Beachbabe9109 Posted February 8, 2013 Author Posted February 8, 2013 Is he expecting you? have you actually 'made' this appointment with him? Is he waiting for you to turn up? of course he is, he is meeting me somewhere..
TaraMaiden Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 Ah. Great. Simple: Don't turn up. See how he likes being ignored, taken for granted and put into second place. Turn your 'phone off, stay home and watch a DVD. And yes - I am absolutely deadly serious. 2
Keenly Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 Ah. Great. Simple: Don't turn up. See how he likes being ignored, taken for granted and put into second place. Turn your 'phone off, stay home and watch a DVD. And yes - I am absolutely deadly serious. What an adult reaction. That sure establishes good communication. /sarcasm
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 This "relationship" is already over. Only he didn't have the balls to tell her yet. I would also turn off my phone and not show. 2
TaraMaiden Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 Well, sweetie, what appears to be sauce for the goose... She's run around after this guy for ages, and he's given her jackschytt. Sometimes a 'taste of your own medicine' says a lot more than any discussion can. "Actions speak louder than words". If she fails to turn up, he will pay a lot more attention to her than if she tries to engage him in discussion. I mean, that's worked REALLY well, up to now - hasn't it? /sarcasm too....
Leigh 87 Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 Unfortunately, Eternal Sunshine is right... A guy who truly cares for you would NOT blow you of if you had a scary doctors appointment that bothered you! ......if a guy is really into you, he will drop everything the second he hears you are distressed! I have a sore leg at the moment, it is badly infected; if I told that to my boyfriend and he just continued chatting to his friends and playing his computer game, then it would be a major red flag, and sign that he does not care much about me.... He would not even meet you after, on another occasion, when you had a bad day! Look, listen here: when two people care very much about each other, they literally drop everything when the other person is distressed. Sounds like you would do it for him, but he does not feel the same way about you.
Leigh 87 Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 Well, sweetie, what appears to be sauce for the goose... She's run around after this guy for ages, and he's given her jackschytt. Sometimes a 'taste of your own medicine' says a lot more than any discussion can. "Actions speak louder than words". If she fails to turn up, he will pay a lot more attention to her than if she tries to engage him in discussion. I mean, that's worked REALLY well, up to now - hasn't it? /sarcasm too.... Games are fun, not drawn out though... I would probably arrange to meet him and then not show up. When he calls her the next time, should should pick up and say "I don't want a relationship with you anymore, I would like to cut contact with you, because if we talk, it will make it harder to get over you" I wonder if he will even bother calling. He does not seam to care much about her....
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