xcrazygirl08x Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 Hi Loveshack, *waves* This is my original post- Breaks and Breaking Up - LoveShack.org Community Forums I remember reading something on here about people not bothering to come back and update, so the results are vaguely skewed on what the success rates of NC are. So I figured 6 months later on, that I might as well share my story. The NC was for approximately 6 months, even receiving a Christmas message which went unreplied to. I was completely devastated in the beginning as I really loved this guy, but also incredibly confused, as I was never given a real reason for the breakup. Looking back on it I do think it was GIGS, but most people say that. I later found a guy that I started speaking to, we eventually started going on dates after a couple months talking back and forth over the internet and just...clicked. I'm so immensely happy after all this time thinking that this wouldn't happen to me, after so much time reading these posts and over-analysing everything. Looking back on the relationship with my ex, he's not the wonderful but misunderstood person I thought he was. I was blinded by love and the pain of being dumped. Every flaw is clear as a bell and I can't believe how many excuses I made for him. But that doesn't mean all those feelings weren't valid or a part of healing. Every day I hurt I hoped there would be just one morning I would wake up and not think of him.Every day I wanted my second chance and even broke NC early on to beg for it. But then I stayed on NC and eventually just...forgot. I never thought I would but I did. Recently I got a message from my ex- "I miss you but I know I'm too late :/". 6 months ago, this message would have filled me with joy but now I feel nothing and only have eyes for my new bf. It's funny how time works. Right now I'm in such a good place and actually grateful that I was made single so I could find a person that was so much better for me. I know it's such a cliche but it's true. And I would have killed to know how soon it would be, so that I could move on quicker. But I know it doesn't work that way. So please, please, please keep NC. Keep as busy as you can and socialise when you're up to it. Because as hard as it seems right now it can get so much better, even if you think it won't for you. I promise. Thank you so much Loveshack for helping me through. I wish I could hug every last one of you. It gets better. S 5
HaveFaithxx Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 Thank you for coming back and sharing and giving us hope. xx
Addison312 Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 That is so sweet. Thanks for sharing. I hope to be in your shoes soon!
ItxWillxGetxBetter Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 Thanks For the update and good for you!!! Its always nice to know that people come back and post what has happened after the pain and hurt we all go through. Thanks again!
msalek89 Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 This is so inspiring because I am going thru what you experienced. This is a breath of fresh air because I see that there is still hope and things can be so much better. The no contact works great and even though I wake up thinking about him I know one day he will permanently go away. All the luck and happiness for you.
hudson701 Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 Thanks for sharing this. I'm 6 weeks into NC and really looking forward to 6 months NC and feeling indifferent. Still full of anger at the moment.
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