I can't stop dreaming about her

[SendHope]

I am doing my best looking out for number one but she keeps on haunting me. The break-up is still fresh so it's expected but I haven't had a day where I didn't dream about her Even when I take a small nap, she's there.

 

We're always back together in my dreams and it makes me happy only to wake up from it. Is this my brain trying to get its fix?

 

I want off this roller coaster so bad.

[KoKo0]

The things you consciously and unconsciously think about will haunt your dreams.. of course you are going to think about as you just recently ended things. No your dreams are not telling you to fix things, it is just a dream.

 

If you feel that you want to fix things then by all means do so, but with your best interest. I mean, don't only think about the good times, people tend to forget about the bad things and for what reasons the relationship did not work out in the end.

 

All the best.

[Fallen Petals]

How fresh is the break up? Are we talking weeks? Days? Months?

 

What we dream is just that - what we dream. Can't really control it. It's how our minds handle stress while we try to rest. My break up is extremely recent and I don't know how long it will be before I stop waking up with him on my brain, knowing the dream I just left involved him, whether I can remember it or not. But what we can do, is every time they pop into our minds we put them out. Put something else in their place. That will train our minds to stop thinking about them all the time. It takes awhile, but it's an effective method. One I am trying to put into effect. Now. lol

[didntdeservethis]

The first night, I didn't sleep. Second night I only had 2 hours sleep but in 10-20 minute intervals where I would wake up and instantly start crying. This kept continuing where the intervals would increase to 1-2 hours before waking up. Last night was the only night I had a full 5-6 hours of sleep but I ended up dreaming of her and I woke up feeling terrified. I felt violated, like my whole world had been wronged. Now I'm tired and want to go to sleep but I'm scared of waking up like that again. It really sucks.

[SendHope]

The things you consciously and unconsciously think about will haunt your dreams.. of course you are going to think about as you just recently ended things. No your dreams are not telling you to fix things, it is just a dream.

 

If you feel that you want to fix things then by all means do so, but with your best interest. I mean, don't only think about the good times, people tend to forget about the bad things and for what reasons the relationship did not work out in the end.

 

All the best.

 

By fix, I didn't mean the relationship. I mean that my brain is trying to compensate for the loss with dreams.

 

Today, I actually didn't dream about her. If I did, I don't remember any of it. I guess this is progress.

 

The break up has been approaching three weeks. I don't know why but I still care what she thinks of me. I've initiated NC w/o telling her (never got the chance to) and I'm worried that she took offense to it. I don't know why but I care and I don't want her to hate me even though she's the one who broke me.

 

The NC days went by mostly successful. I've had one break point where I texted her but I feel it didn't set me back. She didn't respond so I guess she's noticed and has done the same. The word on the street is that she has a new phone number. I feel it's a bit excessive to me because she could just block my number. I haven't made any attempts to contact her except that one time. Her phone has always been junky and it's a non-contract one so I figure it either failed on her or she hasn't refilled her phone yet. Why can't I stop myself from caring what she thinks about me?

 

I guess I'm about to find out how far I've come because we work together tomorrow.