SadIsaac Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I had a crush on her in high school. We met up this summer and had sex. She was my first. I definitely wasn't her first. I felt a strong connection to her and she said she felt the same way. I thought we were BF/GF but she was talking to other guys. I stopped talking to her after 2 weeks because I was so hurt but I played it off like I didn't care. I've been stalking her on every social networking site since. She has a BF now who's pretty cute. She's always mentioning him and it makes me so sad. I made up an excuse to text her because I just wanted her to notice me. What do I do?
BehindBlueEyes Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 (edited) OP, She has told you she is not interested in a permanent relationship, and I get why you are so sad and stalk her on FB, I've done the same. Her getting a new BF that she hangs out with/loves ect ect is a heart breaker, it makes you feel so on the outside....I get it. If she isn't interested in you that way, I would really try and take the relationship for what it is and just be friends. Try not to be so hard on yourself. It's tough to get through, man, I am in the same situation, but have recently settled my feelings and settling with being just friends with a girl I really like. it's not easy, it is the toughest BS anyone has to go through, it sucks. However don't sell yourself short, you sound like a nice guy and this girl isn't the right one for you, but many girls are out there that will strike your eye when you least expect it. Hang in there man and take some pressure off yourself, go do something you like doing and take that edge off. I'm currently following my own advice, you're not alone, bud, many people go through this and it sucks. Edited February 7, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
BehindBlueEyes Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Looking at her social networking page daily isn't going to help you get over her though. I agree with this. One thing you can do now to feel better is to resist all temptation to view her FB page or any other place on the net you see her. Seeing her photos of possibly her new BF with her, will only make this a lot harder to get over. The envy will consume you. I've done the same, recently and it does make it a lot harder to get over. It's not easy I know, but it has to be done.
pteromom Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 She's not interested. If she was, she wouldn't have a boyfriend. Block her on FB. You CAN stop stalking her if you make yourself do it. You aren't going to quit obsessing about her until you stop feeding that obsession.
GingerVixen Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 The longer you spend stalking her FB account , the longer it will take for you to forget her and move on to a much more fulfilling relationship. I believe you have this infatuation for her because she was your 1st. We never forget our "firsts", but I think you deserve someone much better than her. And maybe she's already cheating on the poor new bf.
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