Dating and Single so Talking to Different and Dating Them?

[napy666]

I have been single for 2 years now, having had my share of bad and good dates as any other person would, this year its been the good year for dating for me.

 

I am currently single as I said and I am looking to date. So with dating I figured you go on different dates with different people and see who you click with.

 

Hence what I'm doing right now I am talking to 3 different guys. Guy 1 I've gone and hung out with a few times now, while Guy 2 and Guy 3 we've talked on the phone, over text, and over Skype video chat. Have yet to meet in person but we do plan too.

 

So I had told Guy 1 I'm not ready to jump into a relationship "like that" *snaps fingers* I want to date and take my time and see who I click with ya know? He accepted my choice and understood.

 

While Guy 2 and Guy 3 not so much. Guy 2 ended up telling me I had hurt him by telling him I had wanted to date and talk to other guys and Guy 3 had said well if you want to talk to other guys then you and I aren't clicking then are we?

 

When I am clicking with 3 of them I just want to remain single and date a while. I don't want to say that either of them if my boyfriend right away becuz I haven't even met Guy 2 or Guy 3 yet. I want to wait and date them and see how we click in person ya know?

 

So is it such a bad thing that I'm single and dating different guys? I'm 25, Guy 1 is 24, and Guy 2 and 3 is 19.

[sabre80]

I have been single for 2 years now, having had my share of bad and good dates as any other person would, this year its been the good year for dating for me.

 

I am currently single as I said and I am looking to date. So with dating I figured you go on different dates with different people and see who you click with.

 

Hence what I'm doing right now I am talking to 3 different guys. Guy 1 I've gone and hung out with a few times now, while Guy 2 and Guy 3 we've talked on the phone, over text, and over Skype video chat. Have yet to meet in person but we do plan too.

 

So I had told Guy 1 I'm not ready to jump into a relationship "like that" *snaps fingers* I want to date and take my time and see who I click with ya know? He accepted my choice and understood.

 

While Guy 2 and Guy 3 not so much. Guy 2 ended up telling me I had hurt him by telling him I had wanted to date and talk to other guys and Guy 3 had said well if you want to talk to other guys then you and I aren't clicking then are we?

 

When I am clicking with 3 of them I just want to remain single and date a while. I don't want to say that either of them if my boyfriend right away becuz I haven't even met Guy 2 or Guy 3 yet. I want to wait and date them and see how we click in person ya know?

 

So is it such a bad thing that I'm single and dating different guys? I'm 25, Guy 1 is 24, and Guy 2 and 3 is 19.

 

 

While on the surface everything you wrote makes sense. And I could even accept that if I were one of your "options". But you should just keep that to yourself. When you tell people you are seeing other people and exploring your options I would take it as "Dance monkey dance" Impress me compete over me. . . no thanks bye.

[RogerWallace111]

you've never even met 2 of these dudes... why would they want/expect to get exclusive..?

 

set up dates or whatever- meet these guys. continue to be truthful about your intent/situation with each of the 3, let them bail out if they want to, and see what youre feeling when you hang with each.

 

 

the whole situation sounds pretty unnatural to me though... it seems like thats how it goes in the web age with online dating and countless "options". so formal and forced. "i like talking to you, let's just agree to be boyfriend/girlfriend" type ****. what happened to the days of people just kind of feeling attraction, without having seen a bunch of "data" on the person, gravitating toward eachother, realizing they really like eachothers company, developing love for eachother, etc...

[pteromom]

You aren't dating them if you've never met them in person. They have no right to expect you not to date other people.

 

By the way, I would consider whether dating 19 year olds will really give you what you are looking for.

[napy666]

I know what you guys mean. They are both 19 years old and a lot of the concerts I like to go too can be 21 and up SOMETIMES.

 

Also guy 2 drives but doesn't have insurance or a job. While guy 3 doesn't drive or have a car either but I think he works with his brother.

 

I have asked both guys to meet up but again guy 2 doesn't have insurance for his car so we can't meet. While guy 3 we could meet if he's willing to catch the train but since he's never ridden one before he's afraid to go on one at all. And he can't seem to get a ride from anyone either.

 

I also mentioned the train thing to guy 2 and he would think about it. All 3 of these guys are crazy about me and like me a lot so again I just want to take things slow and see what happens.

[outsidethebox]

"Guy 2 and 3 is 19."

 

Guys 2 and 3 are acting their age, aren't they?

 

Seriously, a guy you haven't met on a date is complaining about not being exclusive?

 

There must be a seriously low bar for texting wherever you are.