animalover Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 Oh ok, well thats good. I wish I could meet someone more straightforward. I dont think every single guy that strung me along intended to do it from the beginning though some def. did, maybe some changed their mind for whatever reason along the way. They never informed me of this though. Why are you telling me to not be judgmental when you are? Judgmental is a word I like to avoid because it means something different to everyone. When I turn away from a guy who has obvious red flags, some people say Im judgmental, others say Im smart. It depends on who you ask. I have seen threads on this forum about red flags Ive had to deal with and you get all sorts of responses as to whats acceptable and what isnt. I dont consider myself insecure but there are some things I just wont deal with because I know I wouldnt be all that happy with them. What I mean is that people are always tense and nervous in the beginning for the dating time and that leads to stupid situations that can destroy a good possibility with a nice guy.... If I have interest in a woman I always give her the chance of three dates as then it will be more easy to evaluate who she really is... but of course... with major red flags you should always run from the guy! I don't mind to use the word judgmental... we are all by nature judgmental... a lot of people use that word in this forum without fully understanding the full meaning of the word... and just by calling someone judgmental they are judgmental... funny eh? I am judgmental because I will analyse and judge the woman I date as profoundly as I can. I have my own deal breakers (most people here will not like to hear them) but I don't date women with a colorful sex past... I don't date women who had ONS or FWB's or anything like that..., I don't date women who do not like animals or women who can't take a guy who is always on call for his work... I could continue with my list because it is long... I guess I make it very difficult for myself... but it is the way I want it... and honestly when I find a girl that matches my criteria I treat her like the Queen of the world!
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 But I am not the kind of girl who has threesomes or sleeps around anymore. That is the problem here- your HIGHLY judgmental. I just told my mother how some guys do not go out with say, 30 year olds, if they ahd casual se at age 16. Like all my friends, she could not believe that there are people thi go back 15 years into a persons sexual past. ....Seriously, I NEVER talk about what I did at age 16 with ANY guy.. I have no idea how you would go about asking a women what she did when she was a teenager. I asked a few friends and they told me " wow, I would be offended, it is non of his business what I did befoer I became an adult" It's part of who you are today. While it's dumb to give details, you should provide a synopsis to any guy who seriously dates you. I do that, and it's because I'm not ashamed of who I am.
animalover Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 Biggest problem most have is men need to b charming, great personality to get a date n sex. Women can b bitter n still get fwb n dates. Its like applying for a job. Men need a great resume , good references, have personality to b even considered for a job. Women just need to show up n will get the job. Job is just an e.g. to give u an idea. Some men r born naturals n get all the women. Mist r not born that way n its not easy changing who u r. Be yourself n the right one will come works for women not men. BC they just have to sit on a stool n smile I am sorry man but you sound really bitter and seem to have a bad opinion about women in general... I don't know who you have been dating but they left deep scars in your soul... you better get some counseling, else your love life will be a painfully one! In today's business world most senior executives still remind being men and average salaries are still higher for men than for women...so I don't know what are you talking about!
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 9, 2013 Author Posted February 9, 2013 It's part of who you are today. While it's dumb to give details, you should provide a synopsis to any guy who seriously dates you. I do that, and it's because I'm not ashamed of who I am. But I am a very different person from when I was 16. I did not even have a propper relationship TO cheat on back then. ..I was also a total @sshole to my parents, and a very unpleasant person to be around at that age! It is TEN years later, and now I have: - I have a good character - I have integrity - I have self respect, and I have the decency to BREAK UP with a guy if I felt real urges to cheat! I would know that he is now the right guy for me! - I am very classy, in that I never.. do low and tasteless acts such as talk negatively about someone to others. I would NEVER get with a person who I knew was in a relationship, either. I honestly live my life with a very strong moral compus. Because I am a nice person and I am happiest when I treat other people well. ....There are NO QUALITIES in me that pertain to cheating or casual sex I did when I was 16!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The 2 sexual partners I have had in 5 years, and 3 partners in 8 years, tell you more about my character, than what I did TEN years ago.
ltjg45 Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 It genuinely baffles me, that some people would look down on a person or rule them out for a relationship, based on something they did a very long time ago. It makes some sort of sense to me. If any female that was with my 22-year old brother ever knew that he served a year in prison for unarmed robbery, I doubt the females that slept with him would even consider it at all. As they always say, "If you can do it once, you can do it again."
ltjg45 Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 The 2 sexual partners I have had in 5 years, and 3 partners in 8 years, tell you more about my character, than what I did TEN years ago. So you have changed. That doesn't mean you will stay that way. I saw too many people go down the right path only for them to fall right back in the wrong path again. No one is immune to it. No one. Not you, not me, not the members here, not President Obama. No one. We all are blessed (and cursed) by the one being who gave you your life to live, whoever that may be.
ltjg45 Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 In today's business world most senior executives still remind being men and average salaries are still higher for men than for women...so I don't know what are you talking about! That is changing and it is changing fast. The number of college graduates shows otherwise. It won't be long before the female is truly the superior gender professionally. Soon enough, my efforts will be meaningless because I'm no longer needed by anyone.
animalover Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 But I am a very different person from when I was 16. I did not even have a propper relationship TO cheat on back then. ..I was also a total @sshole to my parents, and a very unpleasant person to be around at that age! It is TEN years later, and now I have: - I have a good character - I have integrity - I have self respect, and I have the decency to BREAK UP with a guy if I felt real urges to cheat! I would know that he is now the right guy for me! - I am very classy, in that I never.. do low and tasteless acts such as talk negatively about someone to others. I would NEVER get with a person who I knew was in a relationship, either. I honestly live my life with a very strong moral compus. Because I am a nice person and I am happiest when I treat other people well. ....There are NO QUALITIES in me that pertain to cheating or casual sex I did when I was 16!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The 2 sexual partners I have had in 5 years, and 3 partners in 8 years, tell you more about my character, than what I did TEN years ago. There are many other probless that I could enumerate here about your sexual past but the clear one is that what you did when you were a teenager left some deep scars in your soul... you constantly look for validation in your posts and the passion you use to argue with people who don't agree with you reveales how much influence still has in what you are today. You need to own your past and look to the future with pride, you are who you are and people who does not accept you with your full history are people you are not interested to be part of your life anyway. There will be people that will not like what you did and would not want to date you, you need to accept that but you should not accept thatanyone look down to you.
animalover Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 That is changing and it is changing fast. The number of college graduates shows otherwise. It won't be long before the female is truly the superior gender professionally. Soon enough, my efforts will be meaningless because I'm no longer needed by anyone. Well if women are studying better than men... I guess they deserve to be the superior gender professionally... if you want to compete either them you will need to step up your game and study and work harder!
ltjg45 Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 Well if women are studying better than men... I guess they deserve to be the superior gender professionally... if you want to compete either them you will need to step up your game and study and work harder! No thanks. I'm already losing to males. No way am I'm going against an even tougher opponent. No point fighting if you know you are going to lose.
animalover Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 No thanks. I'm already losing to males. No way am I'm going against an even tougher opponent. No point fighting if you know you are going to lose. Yes...with that attitude you have already lost!
ltjg45 Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 In the future it's possible that women on average will be more succesful and earn more money. That in itself isn't bad. The bad part is that they will still expect men to pursue them and jump through hoops to get them. Imagine how humiliating that would be for a man. Not only will the woman hold all the cards when it comes to sex and dating(like they do now) but also all the cards financially in a relationship. I'd never pursue a woman if I knew she was more succesful than me. I only go after "poor" women. A woman having a college education is a dealbreaker to me. I couldn't pursue a more successful female than me either because there is no way I can meet her high-end expectations. You got to have looks, knowledge, money, your own apartment, your own car, a credit card, furniture, etc etc..... I'm not going to qualify against high expectations like that. I would like to but if I try that again, I just get knocked right back down. That crap happens way too much in my life. I go for something, fight for it for 2-3 years, and fail because of one small, minor, slap-deserving mistake. Why bother trying if I can see in the future that I will fail anyway?
animalover Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 I couldn't pursue a more successful female than me either because there is no way I can meet her high-end expectations. You got to have looks, knowledge, money, your own apartment, your own car, a credit card, furniture, etc etc..... I'm not going to qualify against high expectations like that. I would like to but if I try that again, I just get knocked right back down. That crap happens way too much in my life. I go for something, fight for it for 2-3 years, and fail because of one small, minor, slap-deserving mistake. Why bother trying if I can see in the future that I will fail anyway? You guys should read your own posts and see how lame they look...you need a woman to be less successful than you? Do you really need to feel superior? It is very sad... Your love life should be really very poor....
ltjg45 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 You guys should read your own posts and see how lame they look...you need a woman to be less successful than you? Do you really need to feel superior? It is very sad... Your love life should be really very poor.... At this point, there is no need to pursue any female. They are already better than me by default.
ltjg45 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I'm thinking of writing to female inmates and get a partner that way. That or single mothers on online dating sites. I got no love for inmates. I hate my father and he's an inmate. No thanks. He's the reason why I got so much hatred resting within my body, waiting for someone to actually bring it out of me. I rather keep it to myself than go to someone and just rip their heads off.
candie13 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I got in late on this one, what' up? *grabbing popcorn*
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