Author Leigh 87 Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 Thing is like this... why would you care if there are man who would not date women with an intense sexual past, or have had fwb or ons.... they are not your boyfriends or the guys you actually want to date.... so why do you care, it looks like you are looking for some kind of approval or something... I don't get it... I don't have a problem with you or anyone in this forum having fwb or ONS... as much as you want... even if you want to have a gangbang ...seriously go for it! I don't know anyone here in real life so I actually don't care but as this is a forum I am in my full right to say that I would't date a woman who thinks sex is a kind of hobby you do with your friends... or some kind of sport... Yes I feel dirty only about thinking having sex with someone like that... and there is nothing wrong with that either... you are in your right to sleep around and I am in my right to not want to date women I find inadequate for me! hah, I always wanted to try a gang bang actually! I also wanted to get my tongue pierced when i was 15. Things change:lmao: I do have no interest for a gang bang anymore..... I have no problem with you either! You do not think I am a lesser quality PERSON. You would not feel right with me and that is FINE; I have an issue with people who LOOK DOWN on me, and think I am not as good as them simply because I had a fwb. ....Ironically, I PREFER serious relationships for sex:lmao: I actually do not like FWB anywhere close to sex with someone I love. That is precisely WHY I take a long time to get to the stage where I have fwb. I do not naturally like them, rather I have them because I get horny, and do it with men I trust and who respect me. I do not judge women who have them often though! It is a preference to me, not ANY indication they are bad people, or lesser people than I am.
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 LOL.... Someone just said something that I found funny! When I was 16, some bad events happened to me, and I slept around with about 10 guys in one year. That was one year of my life I did that. Since that period, I have had only 3 sexual partners from age 17 to 26. HERE IT IS: he said that his circle of friends would not date me, a 26 year old women, because of what I did when I was SIXTEEN:lmao::lmao::lmao: Man, that takes judgmental to a whole new level!
Drseussgrrl Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I just don't judge people, period. For example, I'd never date someone who was a die-hard gun-rights advocate but they're out there and as long as they aren't hurting anyone (which is debatable I guess) I couldn't give two sh*ts how many he's hoarding in his basement. 1
animalover Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I just don't judge people, period. For example, I'd never date someone who was a die-hard gun-rights advocate but they're out there and as long as they aren't hurting anyone (which is debatable I guess) I couldn't give two sh*ts how many he's hoarding in his basement. I am sorry, I have seen some posts from you where you said you would NEVER date a guy who has used escorts services.... so I guess we all have our own deal breakers right?
veggirl Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I don't care if a guy had FWB/multiple ONS in the past...meaning years ago...but if it was a few months ago? Not the guy for me. Not into it. Doesn't mean I don't like sex. Doesn't mean I'm not sexual. But I'm not in a place in my life where I'd be willing to have a ONS or FWB and if someone is in that place, they aren't for me that's all. You know we can't make judgements about someone who's having ONS/FWBs but if we don't have them we are called frigid or uptight or not sexual. LOL. Like who gives a fk what people want to use as a baseline for their relationships. Live and let live my god. What is there to be so defensive about.
Drseussgrrl Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I am sorry, I have seen some posts from you where you said you would NEVER date a guy who has used escorts services.... so I guess we all have our own deal breakers right? What? Just because I wouldn't date a dude who slept with a prostitute, doesn't mean I'd judge him. You're missing the point entirely. I DO NOT CARE WHAT PEOPLE DO.
Drseussgrrl Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Hey you wanna know what else? Don't think I could date a guy with kids, either. Or a guy with a crazy mother. Or a Republican. Want me to keep going?
Woggle Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 People like what they like. Everybody has standards. As misguided as I think it is men who won't date women like this are in their own way trying to protect themselves from being hurt down the road. I don't think sexuality and cheating have anything to do with each other since it is about honesty and trustworthiness but that is just me. If you polled most people though they have dealbreakers that would be considered silly to other people. 2
SmileFace Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 You dont know what I think. You can't rad my mind. There is nothing wrong with a fwb. And I do not indeed, care what YOU , or anyone on here thinks. I started the thread to gauge people responses, and to have a laugh with like minded people. Projecting much Leigh? My point is - it makes no difference. If a guy doesn't like a girl who has slept around and/or has been FWB...big deal. This really makes no difference... people will not and do not have to accept all things, point blank. This thread isn't saying much - why fight a battle with no end? 2
sweetkiwi Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 My deal breakers: Dirty teeth Eye boogers constantly Bad mouths women Arrogant Extreme right or left views Ignorance Micropenis 2
Woggle Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 My deal breakers History of cheating Man hater Using any drugs except weed Excessive tanning Violent Temper I think those are reasonable. 1
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 Convince yourself yet? You sound slightly upset. *Sigh* I am telling you how I am feeling. I dont care about you. Or what you think. I am proud to have had one fwb. Unless you are a mind reader, I would stop purporting to know what another person is thinking. It is not a good quality about me necessarily, but, erm.. ask around people who actually know me.......... ..............I really do not care what others think. At all. Everyone who encounters me either like it or hate it (and think I should be less honest about my feelings to due coming accross as offensive) Oh wait - I care when people think I am fat, cos I went from 110 lbs at 5 '5 and a curvy buils, to 130 lbs. ..Yeah. The fat thing is pretty much all get upset about! It really is. Maybe I should care more about what others think. Trust me; you could not find a more honest girl than me. I am so unfiltered and not able to lie about my feelings, that a few people thought I had mild autism, as I could simply not hide the truth, or have the ability to just NOT say all that I feel. But yeah, I think this thread topic is a very worthy thing to debate about! I do feel the need to try to enlighten some ignorant people that now all fwb chicks sleep around, for instance. I guess I do enjoy debating with people, t is fun when you have such a clear opinion, and think what others think is so incresibly stupid! Topics like this make me wanna laugh and educate people about the facts, and then debate with them.
animalover Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Convince yourself yet? You sound slightly upset. *Sigh* I am telling you how I am feeling. I dont care about you. Or what you think. I am proud to have had one fwb. Unless you are a mind reader, I would stop purporting to know what another person is thinking. It is not a good quality about me necessarily, but, erm.. ask around people who actually know me.......... ..............I really do not care what others think. At all. Everyone who encounters me either like it or hate it (and think I should be less honest about my feelings to due coming accross as offensive) Oh wait - I care when people think I am fat, cos I went from 110 lbs at 5 '5 and a curvy buils, to 130 lbs. ..Yeah. The fat thing is pretty much all get upset about! It really is. Maybe I should care more about what others think. Trust me; you could not find a more honest girl than me. I am so unfiltered and not able to lie about my feelings, that a few people thought I had mild autism, as I could simply not hide the truth, or have the ability to just NOT say all that I feel. But yeah, I think this thread topic is a very worthy thing to debate about! I do feel the need to try to enlighten some ignorant people that now all fwb chicks sleep around, for instance. I guess I do enjoy debating with people, t is fun when you have such a clear opinion, and think what others think is so incresibly stupid! Topics like this make me wanna laugh and educate people about the facts, and then debate with them. You don't debate here... you just call ignorant to everyone who don't think like you... I can definitely tell you that that is not a debate.... You are putting forward your point of view... that is a conditional part of a debate but you are dismissing any input that does not match with what you want to read...
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 Actually, I live in a flat, and I am having to stop coming here, because I am laughing out loud at your logic. I am not kidding. ..You said in your other thread that: even when I am 40, you and your friends would not date me, purely because I slept with a few too many guys when I was 16. Mental note: 40 years old... and you would disqualify me over what I did at age 16.. Even though I have one sexual partner per year, at the most, when I am not in a long term R? I am just laughing a lot at your reasoning and thought process. It is just... really abnormal for me and the people in my area in Australia, to sit around with a big group of people at ANY given venue or area in the country, and FIND any people who think the same way you or your friends think! Really... People around me and everyone I know, find it really mind blowing and strange, how you and your mates would judge a fully grown women on what she did 20 years before they met you. I genuinely find your way of thinking gto be very odd. ...Sleeping around is not cool to a lot of men, including a lot of my mates.... Judging aol older women for what she would have done at age 15? That is NOT normal where I am from, sorry.
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 My POINT, is that if you did not know I had a fwb, you could get to know me and I could have all the qualities you like in a women.. ....There is nothing outwardly about me that you can link to my fwb. Really. I am not a nut case - if a guy is not into me, I will not go chasing him:lmao: If a participant in the FWB is more into the person than they are into them, then well... You stop!? Logical. I don't think it really takes a rocket scientist to figure out how a woman views sex. It might take some time and some experience, but that's it. I've got a lot more experience dating women than you do. There comes a point where much of what they do becomes like glass. You can just see right through it to the core motives. It just takes time to learn the person. LOL.... Someone just said something that I found funny! When I was 16, some bad events happened to me, and I slept around with about 10 guys in one year. That was one year of my life I did that. Since that period, I have had only 3 sexual partners from age 17 to 26. HERE IT IS: he said that his circle of friends would not date me, a 26 year old women, because of what I did when I was SIXTEEN:lmao::lmao::lmao: Man, that takes judgmental to a whole new level! Would you date a convicted child molester if he only did it 10 times at age 16? The point of that idea isn't to compare the two actions, but instead provide you an insight into how different people look at sexuality. If you USE sex for money, attention, to get someone to like you, or even to boost self esteem, those are all women I don't want to date. Haha do you even read comments before you rescind? I was talking about greznog's comment right above mine. Go ahead. Read it again. I never said the only sexual women were ones who had ONSs or FWB. Sexuality comes in all kinds of packages. I am a certain kind of sexual. And like everyone I am evolving. Its fine that some men dont like women who've had ONSs or FWBs wont like me. Cool with me. I never have a problem finding dates or relationships. Yeah... Greznog's comment doesn't change what you were trying to say. I don't think your style of sexuality is more or less sexual in nature than someone more emotionally focused.
AlexDP Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 ONE guy on here actually went as far as saying " wow, a girl that has had a threesome and a FWB, man I seriously wouldnt wanna go down on her" [/b] I'm not interested in sex with a girl who was involved in a threesome.
AlexDP Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Don't worry about what people think. You cannot change their opinions. Plus I kinda like when someone is openly ignorant. It's the ones who hide that you can't avoid. You're not openly ignorant when you say you won't have sex with a girl who was involved in a threesome. There are just certain things I will never do on a sexual level. If the girl is interested in those things, we obviously aren't a good match. Nothing ignorant about it.
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I'm not interested in sex with a girl who was involved in a threesome. ... Wouldn't it depend on whether it was the cool kind or not?
AlexDP Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 ... Wouldn't it depend on whether it was the cool kind or not? LOL. I wouldn't even come near a girl involved in an MMF threesome. That is just disgusting .
SmileFace Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 LOL. I wouldn't even come near a girl involved in an MMF threesome. That is just disgusting . So now I am sure the "DP" in your name doesn't stand for double penetration 2
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 What? Just because I wouldn't date a dude who slept with a prostitute, doesn't mean I'd judge him. You're missing the point entirely. I DO NOT CARE WHAT PEOPLE DO. Eh? I get what your trying to say, but you really couldn't make more confusing if you tried. "I don't hate Muslim people... I just won't let them eat in my restaurant." Actually, I live in a flat, and I am having to stop coming here, because I am laughing out loud at your logic. I am not kidding. ..You said in your other thread that: even when I am 40, you and your friends would not date me, purely because I slept with a few too many guys when I was 16. Guys can be kind of confusing to understand. If a guy just wants sex... he doesn't really care how many dudes you banged before him. If a guy is looking for a relationship often times he does care. Particularly with guys who are either very successful with women or guys who are not. Men who tend to have low to moderate success are also not very picky... they can't be.
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 So now I am sure the "DP" in your name doesn't stand for double penetration No it stands for MMM threesome.
ascendotum Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 What? Just because I wouldn't date a dude who slept with a prostitute, doesn't mean I'd judge him. You're missing the point entirely. I DO NOT CARE WHAT PEOPLE DO. huh. Like a few others here, I am also missing your point. But you are judging them, then dismissing them as a friend/bf then saying they wont be in my life because of what they did so they can keep living that lifestyle or do whatever they want I wont judge them as long as they have nothing to do with me. lol
SmileFace Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 No it stands for MMM threesome. Or "Dick please" ...just saying..haha 1
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 8, 2013 Author Posted February 8, 2013 None of the guys who want a relationship with me care what I did when I was 15 - 16 (the year that I banged a few too many men). It is extremely judgental to be like " so, I am really into you, um by the way, tell me your sexual history, cos even though your an ADULT now, I wanna know what you did like.. TEN yars ago:lmao::lmao::lmao:" Look, I have enough guys who want long term relationships with me. Some !sshole actually did not believe me (LOL!) I am being SERIOUS though! These are men who WANT A RELATIONSIP with me, and KNOW I AM NOT THE TYPE to just have sex with any guy! ...is it THAT HARD to believe that there are plenty of men who want relationships with me, that DO NOT CARE about what I did as TEENAGER?
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