Leigh 87 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Man, this is really killing me here... I find it really interesting, how people abide by such stupid sterotypes when it comes to casual sex VS waiting to be in a committed relationship! Some morons assume that if you have had a FWB, then your somehow less "classy" as a person, and that your "promiscuous":lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao: I had a fwb and then my bf - my ONLY two sexual partners in FIVE years! .....So why equate FWB to a women who sleeps around? I certainly don't/didn't. Why assume that people who have casual sex, are not capable of fully loving and viewing sex with a loving partner in a way that is SERIOUS? It really bugs me, how stupid and narrow minded people are... I just want to knock some sense into them:lmao::lmao::lmao: ONE guy on here actually went as far as saying " wow, a girl that has had a threesome and a FWB, man I seriously wouldnt wanna go down on her" LOL is an undestatement................. Personally, I prefer sex in the context of a loving relationship. However, when I go long periods when I am single, I eventually feel like being intimate with another human being. That is not relationship material. We have different likes and dislikes? It is something we are BORN with. It is who we are. Why is enjoying sex outside of relationships, necessarily worse or different to: prefering apples to oranges? .........You diet and deny yourself of food because you HAVE to eat less than your burn in energy, in order to reach your goal. The suffering has a REASON. Why suffer though, and go without sex for say, two years between having a partner? What good will it do you do NOT enjoy sex once in a while? .....When I am into someone, I DO NOT feel the need to cheat or go elsewhere! Agreeing with the FWB idea has not made me any less committed or any less serious about sex with the guy I DO fall in lovew ith. 1
SmileFace Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Different strokes for different folks That is all that matters 3
sweetkiwi Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Don't worry about what people think. You cannot change their opinions. Plus I kinda like when someone is openly ignorant. It's the ones who hide that you can't avoid. 4
sweetkiwi Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 ^^^ Yup. I get it. If you aren't down with a sexual woman you certainly won't be down with me. 3
ThaWholigan Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Different strokes for different folks That is all that matters Pretty much. Its not the preference really - its the disrespect. 3
sweetkiwi Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Disrespect. Double standards. All that awesome shallow human stuff. 4
Drseussgrrl Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Or my favorite - If a girl has ever had casual sex or a FWB, she'll most likely cheat on you in the future and probably doesn't want to get married. 3
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 Agreed, some people don't want to date a woman who has been in a FWB/ONS situation. Glad we all understand eachother. Yeah, but it makes NO sense.. It says nothing about their over all character.. I am a lovely girl, and I am classy and so not sleep around... I am at college, I have hopes and dreams.... I am attractive to enough people..... I have a nice personality... SO yeah, fwb does not somehow make me lesser of a person, or indicate that I have a character flaw. Think what you like, but there is no evidence to suggest I am lacking in ANYTHING, due to having FWB
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 The lady doth protest too much. nah. I just tell it like it is. I am alloud to be baffled by people who assume crazy things about people they do not know.....
SmileFace Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Pretty much. Its not the preference really - its the disrespect. I agree. I shall start bitching about how I will not date a virgin based on mere stereotypical facts. Just to level the playing field on LS 3
SJC2008 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 It's a sterotype because casual sex and fwb's are tylically no stings attached. Why would the word casual be used? It's not because you're wearing a Hilary Clinton pant suit when doing the deed. But wait, there are "strings" it's monogomous. Ok so you're monogomously screwing a man until the real deal comes along; Why can't you say that? IMO a fwb or casual is 100% no stings attached like I said. I'm not against casual sex in general but I do think it should be kept to a minimum FOR ME. And a woman who doesn't feel this way is not "bad" her views are her views but she isn't right for me.
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 It's a sterotype because casual sex and fwb's are tylically no stings attached. Why would the word casual be used? It's not because you're wearing a Hilary Clinton pant suit when doing the deed. But wait, there are "strings" it's monogomous. Ok so you're monogomously screwing a man until the real deal comes along; Why can't you say that? IMO a fwb or casual is 100% no stings attached like I said. I'm not against casual sex in general but I do think it should be kept to a minimum FOR ME. And a woman who doesn't feel this way is not "bad" her views are her views but she isn't right for me. I keep sex to a bare minumum, I really have to feel a high level of comfort with the guy... I only found one in 4 or 5 years to screw around with before my boyfriend. And yes, I only do monogomus fwb, we both have to be on the same wavelength.... It is an arrangment so we get to have sex with someone we are very attracted to, but do not have strong feelings for, until the real deal comes along... That is just me though, and some women sleep with several men a year! Yet are loyal, wonderfull partners. NO less class involved!
SJC2008 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Yeah, but it makes NO sense.. It says nothing about their over all character.. I am a lovely girl, and I am classy and so not sleep around... I am at college, I have hopes and dreams.... I am attractive to enough people..... I have a nice personality... SO yeah, fwb does not somehow make me lesser of a person, or indicate that I have a character flaw. Think what you like, but there is no evidence to suggest I am lacking in ANYTHING, due to having FWB I beleive you're a nice person and that you don't sleep around. TBS you may be using a poor word choice with FWB because like I said in your situation you're exclusive but when people hear fwb exclusive is the last thought that comes to mind and is why people are judging you.
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Man, this is really killing me here... I find it really interesting, how people abide by such stupid sterotypes when it comes to casual sex VS waiting to be in a committed relationship! Some morons assume that if you have had a FWB, then your somehow less "classy" as a person, and that your "promiscuous":lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao: I had a fwb and then my bf - my ONLY two sexual partners in FIVE years! I would not consider you to be promiscuous at all. However, you are exactly the kind of girl I would want to weed out by using this particular criterion. While it is entirely possible to have an FWB relationship and be emotionally healthy... the vast majority of women in this position are NUTJOBS. ^^^ Yup. I get it. If you aren't down with a sexual woman you certainly won't be down with me. So if a woman doesn't have fuc*buddies all over the place she isn't sexual? I don't believe this type of behavior relates at all to a person's overall desire or enjoyment of sex.
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 I would not consider you to be promiscuous at all. However, you are exactly the kind of girl I would want to weed out by using this particular criterion. While it is entirely possible to have an FWB relationship and be emotionally healthy... the vast majority of women in this position are NUTJOBS. So if a woman doesn't have fuc*buddies all over the place she isn't sexual? I don't believe this type of behavior relates at all to a person's overall desire or enjoyment of sex. I never said girls who dont fwb are less sexual. My POINT, is that if you did not know I had a fwb, you could get to know me and I could have all the qualities you like in a women.. ....There is nothing outwardly about me that you can link to my fwb. Really. I am not a nut case - if a guy is not into me, I will not go chasing him:lmao: If a participant in the FWB is more into the person than they are into them, then well... You stop!? Logical.
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 I can taste the insecurity. Who are you trying to convince? Certainly not you mate... I dont give a crap what you think of me. Want me to spell it out more clearly for you? Your not my close friends or family... get the picture? I really do just tell it straight up; I say how I feel. I am not insecure about having a fwb. I do not think fwbs are wrong. I certainly cannot even SEE how people who have them, lack other good character traits.
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 I don't think I am better than anyone else. Where as many people who do not agree with casual sex, do indeed look down on people like me. I just find that hilarious really. I really find it funny how people walk around with an air of superiority about them!!!!!!!!!!
SmileFace Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Certainly not you mate... I dont give a crap what you think of me. Want me to spell it out more clearly for you? Your not my close friends or family... get the picture? I really do just tell it straight up; I say how I feel. I am not insecure about having a fwb. I do not think fwbs are wrong. I certainly cannot even SEE how people who have them, lack other good character traits. Yet, you started this thread 1
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 Yet, you started this thread You dont know what I think. You can't rad my mind. There is nothing wrong with a fwb. And I do not indeed, care what YOU , or anyone on here thinks. I started the thread to gauge people responses, and to have a laugh with like minded people.
SJC2008 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I keep sex to a bare minumum, I really have to feel a high level of comfort with the guy... I only found one in 4 or 5 years to screw around with before my boyfriend. And yes, I only do monogomus fwb, we both have to be on the same wavelength.... It is an arrangment so we get to have sex with someone we are very attracted to, but do not have strong feelings for, until the real deal comes along... That is just me though, and some women sleep with several men a year! Yet are loyal, wonderfull partners. NO less class involved! I hate to break it to you but your views on sex aren't so "casual". You're monogomous which is smart and safe. I'd date you in a minute:) The woman I'M not going to date is the one who is sleeping with someone and then bangs other people at the same time, that's sleeping around.
sweetkiwi Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 So if a woman doesn't have fuc*buddies all over the place she isn't sexual? I don't believe this type of behavior relates at all to a person's overall desire or enjoyment of sex. Haha do you even read comments before you rescind? I was talking about greznog's comment right above mine. Go ahead. Read it again. I never said the only sexual women were ones who had ONSs or FWB. Sexuality comes in all kinds of packages. I am a certain kind of sexual. And like everyone I am evolving. Its fine that some men dont like women who've had ONSs or FWBs wont like me. Cool with me. I never have a problem finding dates or relationships. 1
animalover Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Thing is like this... why would you care if there are man who would not date women with an intense sexual past, or have had fwb or ons.... they are not your boyfriends or the guys you actually want to date.... so why do you care, it looks like you are looking for some kind of approval or something... I don't get it... I don't have a problem with you or anyone in this forum having fwb or ONS... as much as you want... even if you want to have a gangbang ...seriously go for it! I don't know anyone here in real life so I actually don't care but as this is a forum I am in my full right to say that I would't date a woman who thinks sex is a kind of hobby you do with your friends... or some kind of sport... Yes I feel dirty only about thinking having sex with someone like that... and there is nothing wrong with that either... you are in your right to sleep around and I am in my right to not want to date women I find inadequate for me!
ThaWholigan Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Thing is like this... why would you care if there are man who would not date women with an intense sexual past, or have had fwb or ons.... they are not your boyfriends or the guys you actually want to date.... so why do you care, it looks like you are looking for some kind of approval or something... I don't get it... I don't have a problem with you or anyone in this forum having fwb or ONS... as much as you want... even if you want to have a gangbang ...seriously go for it! I don't know anyone here in real life so I actually don't care but as this is a forum I am in my full right to say that I would't date a woman who thinks sex is a kind of hobby you do with your friends... or some kind of sport... Yes I feel dirty only about thinking having sex with someone like that... and there is nothing wrong with that either... you are in your right to sleep around and I am in my right to not want to date women I find inadequate for me! As you are consistent, I would argue that if more men had the same level of congruence, there would be less problems in general. Too much hypocrisy and disrespect - that is what I don't like. 2
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