TGNT Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 So..I feel rather weird for even putting this out there. But in all honesty I really dont have much to lose right lol. Well my girlfriend of a year and 2 months told me that we need to take a break. Her reason was because of a period of time earlier in the relationship where I had let stress from work and basically everything isolate myself from everyone including her. I've always had that problem in the past by keeping my emotions to myself to the point where i shut down. But after I seen how much it hurt her and how that is the last thing I ever wanted to do I made it an effort to tell her every single little thing that could possibly stress me. After that point I thought everything between us was great. UNTIL . . . She told me that she had feelings for someone else. A person that I thought was a friend at that. Right before telling me that we need to take a break. So I went "Bull in a china shop" and over reacted instead of talking to her I went and started talking to an ex of mine out of spite. When she came to me trying to apologize I was so angry at the time I didn't pay any attention to her. So she moved on with the girl she has feelings for. And by the time the smoke cleared it was too late. But right now I've never been so full of regret. I have been in many relationships a few have only made it that far. I've always been resilient when it comes to these things. But I can't seem to move on. I've tried everything from keeping busy to meditating but nothing is working. I don't know what else to do...or if there is anything else I can do. I love her and I do hope one day we can work it out. But until or even if that day comes I just need to know how to heal myself.
Chi townD Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 When she came to me trying to apologize I was so angry at the time I didn't pay any attention to her. So she moved on with the girl she has feelings for. And by the time the smoke cleared it was too late. She may have approached you just to apologize for hurting you. But, she may have had no intention of getting back with you. She just wanted to ease her own guilt because she saw "the bull in the China Shop" and she knows she's the cause of that pain.
flitzanu Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 So..I feel rather weird for even putting this out there. But in all honesty I really dont have much to lose right lol. Well my girlfriend of a year and 2 months told me that we need to take a break. Her reason was because of a period of time earlier in the relationship where I had let stress from work and basically everything isolate myself from everyone including her. I've always had that problem in the past by keeping my emotions to myself to the point where i shut down. But after I seen how much it hurt her and how that is the last thing I ever wanted to do I made it an effort to tell her every single little thing that could possibly stress me. After that point I thought everything between us was great. UNTIL . . . She told me that she had feelings for someone else. A person that I thought was a friend at that. Right before telling me that we need to take a break. So I went "Bull in a china shop" and over reacted instead of talking to her I went and started talking to an ex of mine out of spite. When she came to me trying to apologize I was so angry at the time I didn't pay any attention to her. So she moved on with the girl she has feelings for. And by the time the smoke cleared it was too late. But right now I've never been so full of regret. I have been in many relationships a few have only made it that far. I've always been resilient when it comes to these things. But I can't seem to move on. I've tried everything from keeping busy to meditating but nothing is working. I don't know what else to do...or if there is anything else I can do. I love her and I do hope one day we can work it out. But until or even if that day comes I just need to know how to heal myself. well, sounds like she gave you what you needed to know. she wanted a "break" and had feelings for someone else = breakup. "i want a break" = "i want to pursue other people"
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