Rejected Surfer Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 I'm interested in this girl that I've known for about 5 months. During last Fall, there are some times she is interested and other times she's not. On the other hand, maybe she's being friendly. Here are some highlights that we did together last Fall: 1) We walked around the campus for about 30 mins before she had to go to class 2) She asked me and another girl if we ever had a girlfriend or boyfriend. She even asked me how long was the relationship 3) I took her out to eat at the university dining commons because she told me she would like to try it and I had to use my points. When I ate lunch with her, she didn't sit in front of me, but diagonally (there were four chairs on the table.) After our lunch, I asked her where does her boyfriend go to school because in her introduction speech she said she had a boyfriend. She told me it was a joke and asked me how many girlfriends I had again. When I told her couple, she asked me how many is couple. 4) I asked her out to eat dinner with me for her birthday. She told me she might do something with her family or friends and will tell me when she is available. The following Tuesday, she called me to buy her a pizza at the university market, and again to use up my points. After we got the pizza, I suggested to eat at the university union, but she suggested to at the lounge, which I think she meant to eat alone with me. We ended up eating at my room with my roommates I didn't see nor talk to her since that day during the winter break because I had to go back home During first week of school, which was last week, I asked her out to go out with me on Saturday. She told me she's busy studying. I don't remember if she told me to reschedule or not, but we didn't have an awkward silence after I asked her out. She even asked me how was her speech that morning when we had class together. And on last Friday, she offered me to play badminton with her. Is she playing hard to get or not interested? I kinda know how you feel I'm having a similar problem the thing is girls are confusing you may never know if she's interested in you unless she tells you but it seems she might be using you ask her what she thinks of you and see what she says
Author flashx80 Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 I kinda know how you feel I'm having a similar problem the thing is girls are confusing you may never know if she's interested in you unless she tells you but it seems she might be using you ask her what she thinks of you and see what she says She's not interested. The problem is she rather play badminton than go out with me. Ok, maybe it was bad timing when I asked her out for the first time because it was last day of badminton club and her friends might give her a surprise birthday present. Although I ended up buying her a pizza, it turned from dating to hanging out. However, when I asked her out for the second time last Thursday to go out with me last Saturday, she told me she's busy studying on that day. If she's busy why did she rather play badminton instead of suggesting to have the date with me on Friday? I didn't realize this until now.
ChatroomHero Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 She's not interested. The problem is she rather play badminton than go out with me. Ok, maybe it was bad timing when I asked her out for the first time because it was last day of badminton club and her friends might give her a surprise birthday present. Although I ended up buying her a pizza, it turned from dating to hanging out. However, when I asked her out for the second time last Thursday to go out with me last Saturday, she told me she's busy studying on that day. If she's busy why did she rather play badminton instead of suggesting to have the date with me on Friday? I didn't realize this until now. You're still over-analyzing things. Just move on, don't try to think of what you did wrong or if your timing could have been better...just realize that the truth is you are not attracted to every woman you talk to, she was not attracted to you in that way. It's not something that can be rationalized. Once you accept that it gets a lot easier, you'll see a whole world of women you are more attracted to than her, go meet them.
Author flashx80 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 Just thought about this and I want to get back to it. When she told me to eat at the study room alone together instead of my room nor the student union, do you think it's possible that I made a mistake by suggesting to eat at my room with my roommates? Meaning she thought I viewed her as "just friends" instead of dating material? Hence, she lost interest in me and rejected me when I asked her out as a date?
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Oh, good gawd! Not again!! She was never interested and forever more will not be interested. If you thought you were "just friends," would you have asked repeatedly for a date? She is well aware that you like her. She doesn't see you that way, so she declines your dates. However, since you are begging to be her doormat and eager to please, she will happily call you up when she needs something...you know, like pizza because she is hungry, or a book from the library. Unfortunately, she doesn't need a date with you. Tell me this. When Friday rolled around, did she mention your stolen bike or come by for the posters she promised to put up once she was free? Where was her boundless interest and love for you, and her continuous preoccupation with the nuances of what you might be thinking? Did it manage to outwit the badminton court to come find you and your bike posters? Or did she continue to ignore you and blow you off? Please save whatever dignity remains, and move on to someone else.
callingyouuu Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Just thought about this and I want to get back to it. When she told me to eat at the study room alone together instead of my room nor the student union, do you think it's possible that I made a mistake by suggesting to eat at my room with my roommates? Meaning she thought I viewed her as "just friends" instead of dating material? Hence, she lost interest in me and rejected me when I asked her out as a date? I mean this in the nicest possible way: Please. Stop. Thinking. It doesn't matter. Move on.
Author flashx80 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 (edited) Oh, good gawd! Not again!! She was never interested and forever more will not be interested. If you thought you were "just friends," would you have asked repeatedly for a date? She is well aware that you like her. She doesn't see you that way, so she declines your dates. However, since you are begging to be her doormat and eager to please, she will happily call you up when she needs something...you know, like pizza because she is hungry, or a book from the library. Unfortunately, she doesn't need a date with you. Tell me this. When Friday rolled around, did she mention your stolen bike or come by for the posters she promised to put up once she was free? Where was her boundless interest and love for you, and her continuous preoccupation with the nuances of what you might be thinking? Did it manage to outwit the badminton court to come find you and your bike posters? Or did she continue to ignore you and blow you off? Please save whatever dignity remains, and move on to someone else. I'm just learning some lessons so I don't make similar mistakes when I find a new girl. Since she wanted to do it on Friday (if she really did), I told her I couldnt wait that long and I already posted it. She did, however, told a classmate about the stolen bike, if that matters. Edited February 12, 2013 by flashx80
sid3 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I'm just learning some lessons so I don't make similar mistakes when I find a new girl. Since she wanted to do it on Friday (if she really did), I told her I couldnt wait that long and I already posted it. She did, however, told a classmate about the stolen bike, if that matters. No, it doesn't matter.
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I'm just learning some lessons so I don't make similar mistakes when I find a new girl. Since she wanted to do it on Friday (if she really did), I told her I couldnt wait that long and I already posted it. She did, however, told a classmate about the stolen bike, if that matters. Flash, when a guy asks a girl on a date, and more than once, he has quite clearly demonstrated that he wants to be more than "just friends." Also, when someone doesn't like you, everything you do will seem off, wrong, etc. When she likes you, you can do no wrong. If you're struggling, and the timing is always wrong, and you always feel confused, and you never can seem to get to a date even though you keep asking and trying, it means the person isn't interested. Those are the lessons. Please stop obsessing about her. Chalk this one up as a loss, and move on.
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