unknown249 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Basically my boyfriend (at the time) started to develop feelings for another girl whilst he was still with me, but didn't admit it until I found emails from her, which was last week. We ended things then. I thought it would be a rebound, and he would be coming back to me within days...But today I found myself stupidly looking on his emails and came across one where he'd booked them in to a hotel for valentine's day. I rang him and told him how much I hated him for what he did to me, but he said he was busy and to talk tomorrow- I really don't see myself being able to do that. My heart is completely broken. I feel sick thinking he could have moved on so quickly leaving me behind. Without even having the respect for me to tell me before about his feelings rather than kissing and meeting up with her behind my back. I feel so lost and torn apart. We were together 3.5 years and it feels like half of me has been ripped out. Knowing that he is happy with someone else kills me. Where do I go from here
Toddbt12y1 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 On working on yourself. On getting stronger. It won't be easy. You will think a lot of him. Hurt a lot. Eventually as you work on yourself, you will feel better. He moved on easy, cause he already had at some point. Plus he cheated. He is scum. You need someone better.
stevie_23 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I think…he developed feelings for this other girl just after the time when his feelings for you had started to change…and he probably hadn’t realised or admitted that change even to himself yet. He probably didn’t want to hurt you and also didn’t know what he wanted either, so he did the “easy” thing and cheated with this other girl. I don’t know how long he would have kept up both relationships if you hadn’t found those emails, but it says something about him, doesn’t it? That he would stay with you for the benefits in that relationship, and also be with her, for those benefits, and yet he wasn’t properly committing to either of you? And now that he’s with her, I wonder how she feels? (if she even knows about your existence, that is) Knowing that he was content enough to stay with you while he was also with her, and now you kicked him out he is 100% with her, but…he wouldn’t have been 100% with her if you hadn’t found out? Nice.
Author unknown249 Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 Yeah she knows of my existence. In the emails he was saying to her it was a 'grey cloud' but basically, in a nutshell, he was going to leave me. He told me afterwards that he knew he was going to, but until I found the emails it wasn't actually an official break up. He let me give him presents a few days before for his birthday. I just feel like a complete fool. How I could believe that he cared about me after what he has done - you just don't do that to people you care for. He couldn't have been thinking of me when he was cheating on me. So so hard going through this.
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