THIS is why you don't check up on your ex online! Confusion reigns!

[stevie_23]

Yep, definitely. I said that to him at one point earlier on in our relationship. He said he had always kind of "fallen" into the other marriages. He'd never asked any of his prior wives to marry him...it just sort of happened. Very passive. And unsure of what he was supposed to do to make him happy.

 

He felt differently with me, but who knows? I assume that at some point, early on in each of his relationships he WAS in love with those women. Same as he was with me. So...I don't see that we would be any different eventually even if we did end up together somehow. HE believed we would ALWAYS be the way we were when we were together (in love completely, etc), but I did not have quite as many stars in my eyes.

[MyAngel]

There will be a point in your future Stevie where you won't be checking for him online. Days will go by and you'll remember you haven't checked his posts on the songwriting forum. That might happen gradually, or something you force yourself to do. The biggest turning point will be when you go to look up his posts and think "Meh, I don't really care." and either don't follow through or close the page before reading them all. That is when you'll know you're over it. Until then, he still has this hold on you. You're connected to him by an invisible thread but the sad part is, it's one sided.

 

I am sure he still thinks about you, but not as often as you think about him. I know I think of my ex too much and there is no way she'd think about me this amount - they dumped US, they made their choice and they are HAPPY with it.

 

*hugs*